Countdown to Christmas - MN Christian Prayer Request Thread .....

[CaptainDippy]

Summary:

FourArms - Asked us to pray for her sister's MIL at the beginning of Sept. Sis's MIL had had a nasty fall and two tumours had been discovered in her brain, which led to a DX of non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. Diane (sis's MIL) had Chemo and managed to make it to a special family Wedding before dying peacefully. Prayers are with the family and friends. xx

SilverFox - Has moved house!!! Prayers for her and her family as they settled into their new home and neighbourhood. Prayers for FIL who has split up with his fiancée and is struggling.
Brokkenhearted - Popped by to ask for prayers for her in her job hunting. The family have no income coming in. Hope you found something!!?

Amber - Prayers for sister who has lost the sight in one eye and is having tests etc to ascertain what exactly is wrong with her.

Soooooz - Prayers for DS1 who has been dealing with some nasty bullying issues at school.

FAQ - Prayers for lovely FAQ who is currently dealing with some very serious mental health issues concerning her DH. She is also waiting to find out whether she is poss PG or not too. Wrap this family up in your love and care right now, Lord.

MaryBS - Praying for her in her new job as a p/t payroll assis at school and BIG prayers for her DH who has DVT in his leg and has been really struggling health-wise recently. She also asked for prayers for a Big Issue seller she met who was just about to give birth.

Varicosveined - Prayers for her marraige, which is in trouble and also for her 7 yr old nephew who had been rushed to hospital (update??)

slapheadsrock - Prayer for her marraige, which has experienced some violent episodes. She is giving it one last chance.

DutchOma - Prayers for her family as they mourn her cousin who passed away in Sept.

Hellium - Prayers for her Grandma who is in hospital after a horrid Hit and Run incident.

WeegieMum - Recently came back from a trip to Venezuela where she and her DH decided this particular missionary opportunity was not for them. Prayers for the family as they have been experiencing some ill health since arriving back, particularly WM who has been DX with Pleurisy. Prayers for God to show them the way forward now ....

Saliswan - Prayers that her house move would be smooth!! Lots of prayers for uplifting and comfort as she has been struggling a lot of late. xx

M44 - Was recently in hospital after experiencing a burst ovarian cyst. She is recovering now

KayHarker - Prayers that she could see the way ahead more clearly ...

YorkshireTeaDrinker - Would like prayers for a woman at her church who has been very seriously ill in hospital, following the birth of twins. The twins are fine, but she experienced multiple organ failure. She is improving now and is allowed to see her babies.

Misdee - Peter had an infection scare, but is home from hospital now and doing well

MJIM - Prayers for lots of horrid ill health in her house recently, especially little N. xx

Bronze Prayers for family and friends of one of hometown friend who was swept out to sea and remains unaccounted for.

ShelleyLou - Prayers for her and for her family as they cope with the killing of her 22 yr old brother

Aitch - Prayers for a miracle for her friend who are facing their last round of IVF treatment....

MrsJamin - She is 20 wks PG and has been coping with insomnia and a toddler who wakes at 5am. Struggling.

mufti - Is suffering from Sciatica and a pulled muscle at present. Ouch!

meltedchocoalte - Needs lots of prayers as she copes with her DH who is addicted to Herion. She has one child at home.

FlibertyGibet - Prayers for a little boy in her DS' class at school who recently lost his daddy very suddenly

Amapoleon - Prayers for a family trauma

Hia all, zipping along - whoah, really behind with my favorite on-line church

Prayers you are all keeping well!

Mary, prayers for your BIL, howz beginnings of your vicars life?????
MJIM, prayers for good health
CD, hia - hope your weird moments are better, been to the docs yet????
DO - Hia {{{{{{waving lunatic}}}}}}} no me not you
CC - Big hello and continued prayers for you and your special family

Prayers I am able to catch up zippily quick!

BOING!!!!!!!!!

Welcome to the prayer thread Tracey256, I hope we can be a blessing to you.

Your church situation must be very difficult for you It looks to me like you need to learn how to say "Sorry, but I cannot do that just now" and keep repeating it gracefully but firmly until they get the message.
Church should be supportive of you and not make demands that you cannot make, but it is up to you to deal with it in the best way you can.

If you keep at it gracefully and calmly and don't waver they will eventually get the message. At least I would hope so.

So difficult Tracey, you poor thing. I know exactly what you mean by "escaping from your past". You do not want to lie about or deny what has happened; but you just want to look to the future, forget about the bad stuff that has been before - learn from it and move forward in your life. You cannot deny that those things did not happen, because they did; but you can acknowledge them, learn from your mistakes and look forward. Sounds like your church needs to understand and recognise this. Sounds like you and your precious family might need to go and find an new church....

Sorry for the ramble, but hope that makes some sense and helps. We are all here for you

Prayers continuing for all. Been a terrible week - I've been in a total panic, but I think it's getting better. Could do with a prayer or two that it will continue to, and I won't spend the next week re-panicking until I get to meet with my autism advocate.

Thanks for the prayers for the meeting. It was not great, but not too awful. We've been to worse. The school were as awful as ever, but DDs consultant was brilliant, as always and we acheived the outcome we wanted, so thanks to God.

Prayers for all you lovely ladies.

Praying. xx

Glad the meeting wasn't all bad PAO

Must go shower and then dress up as an Elf

Morning All,

Sorry that I haven't been on much. It's been very busy round here since moving house and I've been trying to spend less time on MN and more time concentrating on RL. Moving house was a trial (esp moving in with my parents for a week) but we are getting settled now and the number of boxes surrounding us is quickly diminishing.

I would like to cheekily ask for some prayer. Over the past 3 months, B's sleep has gradually gotten worse and worse. She now regularly gets up 3-4 times a night despite being 7 months old. She used to get up once or maybe twice at a push Needless to say, I am exhausted and at the end of my tether. I've stopped feeding her before nap times and feed her before bath time rather than after now to try and disassociate milk and sleep. DH doesn't understand what the problem is with just feeding her in the night to get her back to sleep as long as he doesn't get disturbed, he thinks that she is doing OK. I don't know how to carry on coping with B and my 2.6 year old when I can only sleep for 2 hours at a time. I have prayed and prayed and prayed for God to help. I must pray at least five times a day for help with her sleep. I don't know how long to keep praying for. This is disheartening me like nothing else can and is ruining my relationship with God more than anything else ever has. Maybe God will listen to you guys more than He is listening to me

Dear Swaliswan you do sound exhausted and that is the time when you start thinking God must have it in for you and will listen to other people's prayers more than your own.

The one thing that I have found effective in similar circumstances is to turn the prayer round into thanksgiving, so, instead of praying for more sleep, thank God for the two hours you do get. At least that will reinforce yoru relationship with God, if it does nothing else.
On a practical note, is it at all possible to let B rootle and cry for a bit before you go to see to her. From what you say you offer a breast when she wakes, so it 'pays' het to wake for comfort.
Have a look at what Christopher Green has to say in Toddler Taming. He applies it to children over one year old, but I think you (and B) may well benefit from his advice.
He also has something to say about the nocturnally deaf husband
Best of luck.
It is lovely to hear from you, I was thinking about you and wondering how the move had gone.
Are the TA issues more resolved now?

Hey DO!

Thanks for the advice. Believe me, I do let B try and get back to sleep for a while first (much to DH's disgust!). If I have the energy, I try and get her to have a drink of water and a cuddle then put her back. It hasn't worked yet I've left her for up to two hours before now but she just won't re-settle herself. I'm even considering paying a night nanny to come and do a few nights so that I can have a sleep with some ear plugs in and a good dose of night nurse or piriton to make me sleep! Somehow, I doubt that DH will shell out for it though I'm trying really hard to pay both girls much more attention during the day now that I don't have to make endless phone calls about moving house (and hence cutting back on MN time). This seems to be helping both DD's confidence and it is combatting some of the settling problems that we've had. B used to sleep so well.

As for TA, things are far from back to normal despite the media saying otherwise. DH now gets 3 drill nights a month paid and has to go to the other one for free. He's away this weekend on the only paid weekend away that he'll get for five months. Our income is slightly better than it was with no TA pay but it will still be extremely tight when I have a month of unpaid leave. B is such a mummy's girl that I don't feel able to give that month up though.

SS Prayers for you. Just wanted to say that when DD2 was a baby I went through a similar time. I remember praying like mad for her to sleep so that I could cope. It never worked and I just got more and more exhausted. One day I remember so well feeling as if I just wanted to give up and "struggling" with where God was. I then prayed for strength to cope. I gave up praying for DD2 to sleep and concentrated on God giving me the patience and strength to get through each day and each night. I then could sort of relax as I felt that God would cope, I didn't have to cope on my own. It worked for me, I hope and pray that you will see that God is there for you too.

Also, grab any minute of "ME" time for yourself. Prayers for you.

Much love to you all, especially SS and Amber. Hang in there...

Things sort of better here, but its early days. Thank you for prayers!

Much love to you all!

Sorry for my random drop in AGAIN. Will hopefully read back this lot tomorrow and catch up a bit.

BTW, Your summary Dippy;

BrokkenHarted = meltedchocolate. (sorry about that)

No job found unfortunately but managing to live off benifits atm, still looking. DH still away but that is 5 days CLEAN! (He tells me) and he has even been talking about Christ and went to church on sunday with an old Christian friend. We have also agreed he will come back at Christams and we shall see how he is and how he copes being back.

Thanks to those who prayed, i cant tell you what it means to me.

Little one is doing great. Started walking

Bless you meltedchocolate. Let's hope and pray that your dh's 'clean' days stretch as far as Christmas and beyond. We know how hard it is for people with addictions to break them, so I hope that we can all join together in prayer for you and your dh.

Praying for each person and situation by name.

And please God get me through what lies ahead

A few weeks ago we had a testimony from Jason who was a heroin addict, several times in prison, a real wild one. He is now a very respectable Christian, helping with all sorts of things.
I asked him this morning how I could encourage you, Meltedchocolate and he said that he was sure that "God could do immeasurably more than all we could do or imagine" (Eph 3:20). That sometimes recovery was instantaneous, like turning the light on, but that it total recovery was also posible after several relapses. This had been the case for him.
I just thought I would ask him from a point of experience and hope that you will find some encouragement in it.

Praying for you all by name. Meltedchocolate, I have a sense that this is even harder on you than on DH. But, please remember that you are not helpless in your DH's recovery. Just standing by him even though it is immeasurably tough right now will give him the greatest strength and is a fantastic witness to him.

A little update from me...

B slept better last night although not without being a bit of a pickle. She has learnt that she can do her favourite trick of rolling over and then sitting up in her cot instead of sleeping. Then she yells for me to get her back down (or I think she may have head-butted the bars last night whilst I was putting her sister to bed ). Please give thanks with me for an improved night and for how well little R went to sleep (and believe me, that was nothing short of a miracle). I am also thanking God that both girls stayed in creche by themselves for most of the sermon this morning. I really needed to hear what was said and feel like I can carry on with my walk with Jesus now. I'm hoping that both girls will go down nicely tonight so that I can make it to a one-off seminar about the gift of prophecy. Obviously, I will do everything within my earthly power to get there, but, God, over to you...

Thanks you all.

Dutch after reading your post (which brought tears to my eyes - thank you) i was invited to a fellowship. There was three speakers giving their testemonies. Two had been drug users and the first one said, no matter how bad things get, God can help and pull you through (or something similar) and it was all so relevent to me. I cant believe you thought of me this morning. I really cant tell you how much it meant to me and your message gave me new strength (I was starting to get very low).

Can I also ask everyone to pray for my parents? They are Christians but appear to hate my husband for what he has done and are making things difficult for me. They live only a couple of miles away and as I am still young (19) they have a lot to do with my family and have a lot of influence. Although i feel God is telling me to persevere (sp??) with my husband i am finding it so difficult with how they are being about the whole thing. I cant talk to them about it. Please pray that they might not be so hard against him (they make things more difficult for him too as they make their feeling very clear) and that i would get an opertunity and the courage to talk to them about it.

Amber is in need of prayer, hurt by those who should be supporting her. Please pray for her, that God might support her in her grief, and bring sense and wisdom to the situation.

I'm so glad you found my message useful MC. I would like to write to you off board, but you have chosen not to receive messages from other mumsnetters. If you would like me to write to you privately, you need to go to your MN registration details and say "yes" in e.mail options to "receive messages from other Mntters.
I can see the thing with your parents from two sides, being a bit older. It is very hard for parents to see their children hurt and there is of course no doubt about the fact that your husband has hurt you.
That is not to say that you should not persevere with him, but I can well see how hard it is for them to support you in this. Is there somebody like your pastor, or maybe a friend in the congregation who could have a word with them.
For what it's worth:- I think it is very important you stick by your husband as long as you possibly can. It would be excellent if this could be with the help of your parents, but if this is not possible then you should still do it. Somebody needs to tell your parents that it is not for them to judge your husband, that he is still a child loved by God and that he needs help not criticism, let alone hatred.

Thank you for your prayers and support. Could I ask you to carry on holding us in your prayers as we prepare to say goodbye to Scott tomorrow, please?

This is such a wonderfully supportive thread. I hope to be a part of it in a more active way when I return from Scotland.

Of course, Sweetestthing. Every strength and blessing for tomorrow. Let us know how it went.

Of course we will SweetestThing

Glad you've had one better night SS, here's to many more. Am praying for you honey. How old is little B now (sorry to ask)? So hard for you, especially when DH isn't being helpful or supportive. I don't know if it helps, but this stage lasts for so little time in the grand scheme of things my lovely - it will be over before you know it, it just doesn't seem that way right now.

Glad you are "coping" MeltedChoc. My prayers are with you and with your DH too; and also for a softening in your parents' hearts. They are worried for you - you are their precious child. Think about the way you love your little one - that is the way they love you. They might be trying to protect you. sorry if that sounds patronising, just another way of looking at it, I guess. I always try and see situations through the other parties' eyes before I judge and pass opinion if I can. you are so strong and brave

Prayers for the horrible sickness I experiencing to go, please. Happened this time last year; not nice. Thank you!