Well your path is your path I guess! Some people follow paths that are more testing than others.
it’s just what you find interesting re talking. Some people like to talk about certain things and not others. I would be extraordinarily bored if someone spoke about football all the time, others would love it. If I didn’t want to engage in that conversation would I be arrogant?
Some people are fine discussing love island. They get things out of it that they want that I don’t need in my life. Sometimes I will partake in the game if it’s useful especially for others, eg someone feels lonely, otherwise it’s a waste of time. The reasons behind the small talk, gelling with others, finding out about their views on unimportant (to me) matters, ingratiating yourself to others to be part of their tribe, to get a promotion or something else etc are normally done for very selfish reasons, there’s usually very little giving, it’s generally all take for people using that method of social interaction. Where I choose to engage in small talk it would generally be where there is a need, as I say, usually to help others. It’s not arrogant to just not need something that others think they do.
Why do you think not taking part in the game and playing by the rules is arrogant? Is it a fear this makes people unpredictable? People don’t like people who act outside what is expected, hence the need to pin ostracising labels on them like anti social, rude, arrogant, eccentric, mad, heretic, witch. It’s an attempt to control people and bring them back to predictable social interaction. It’s why they burned largely women as witches, they acted, usually literally, on the fringe of society. No doubt people (men) thought these women were arrogant if they didn’t get married, knew how to read, didn’t behave like they expected women to behave. Your “arrogant” comments are no different. So why are you sad I as angry about women not behaving as they should?
Most spiritual paths take you out of just the mundane. The game playing of society.