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itscomplicatedagain · 2023-05-31T00:19:28+00:00

Hello, I'd really like some advice on whether I could potentially date a Christian? I think the church he attends is an evangelical Christian church. I'm not a Christian myself but open to it and I know he is very involved in his church. Would this be taboo and is divorce acceptable? I am divorced and have 3 children. Any views would be useful. Many thanks

cassiatwenty · 23/06/2023 14:27

Make sure to update this thread after plz 🙂

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itscomplicatedagain · 23/06/2023 23:56

I will update if there's a definite answer! So far I've not got a proper reply as he's just noticed some practical difficulties with the idea...so I'm still in the dark!

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itscomplicatedagain · 07/07/2023 11:34

An update but not a positive one!
I've not heard from him. He seems to have ghosted me. Oh well, I know the answer now at least.
Thanks for all the advice on here.

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ShodanLives · 07/07/2023 19:12

Rude, he could at least let you know why.

Skye99 · 07/07/2023 19:38

ShodanLives · 07/07/2023 19:12

Rude, he could at least let you know why.

Yes, I agree.

RunningOnHope · 08/07/2023 18:11

Urgh so sorry OP. That's a cowardly thing to do.

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itscomplicatedagain · 08/07/2023 21:37

Yes it's a bit disappointing. It's fine to say no of course but no answer is a bit rubbish.
It's actually put me off him a bit especially as we usually message each other fairly often sometimes about work and sometimes just random stuff.

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historiccastles · 09/07/2023 09:53

Sorry OP. An unChristian way of managing the situation. Don't let it put you off the idea of dating a Christian in the future though.

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itscomplicatedagain · 09/07/2023 23:26

Thank you for all the support. It hasn't put me off Christian's but I'm disappointed in him. Also, it might be a bit awkward when we inevitably cross paths again.

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Friedgreentomatoestoo · 01/08/2023 16:47

You can date whoever you want to !

The questions you ask should be discussed with the person concerned, not a bunch of random strangers on the internet.

SunDaughter · 17/09/2023 14:34

You could but I think on some level the Christian in question would have to have some level of open thought to fully accept you.

There isn't really any rules saying a Christian can't date out of their religious beliefs but it is frowned upon.

My husband was spiritual in a very non traditional sense when he dated me. But definitely not Christian. He said a lot of things that would have sent a lot of typical Christians storming off but my Christian family had put me off my own religion enough that I had stopped caring quite frankly.

There was a lot of worrying on my part about his after life and oh right he had to put up with all my sexual hang ups. I made him very sexually frustrated. He put up with it like a champ though! 😂 So there's most likely going to be that for you to dismantle!

I think on some level I was already losing my religion but I was scared to let go because it's really hard to let go of something so personal though if I'm being honest.

I would say if you really like them give it a try but keep an open mind and don't go in with the expectation of changing his mind about anything.

Zampanò · 17/09/2023 14:41

SunDaughter · 17/09/2023 14:34

You could but I think on some level the Christian in question would have to have some level of open thought to fully accept you.

There isn't really any rules saying a Christian can't date out of their religious beliefs but it is frowned upon.

My husband was spiritual in a very non traditional sense when he dated me. But definitely not Christian. He said a lot of things that would have sent a lot of typical Christians storming off but my Christian family had put me off my own religion enough that I had stopped caring quite frankly.

There was a lot of worrying on my part about his after life and oh right he had to put up with all my sexual hang ups. I made him very sexually frustrated. He put up with it like a champ though! 😂 So there's most likely going to be that for you to dismantle!

I think on some level I was already losing my religion but I was scared to let go because it's really hard to let go of something so personal though if I'm being honest.

I would say if you really like them give it a try but keep an open mind and don't go in with the expectation of changing his mind about anything.

Given that he's ghosted op I don't think it really matters.

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itscomplicatedagain · 17/09/2023 17:51

Thanks for the reply sundaughter. He did appear again and we have seen each other through work quite a few times. I felt a bit awkward initially but am fine now and if anything I feel we are closer now- although that might be my imagination!

We had a drink together at a work event about 10 days ago. He was at my house and it was a really hot day and I suggested a cold beer and he accepted it. He had to drive home after so it was just one drink and then he left.

I'm too scared to make any more moves but I still get a tingle when he comes and stands very close to me while we are working. 🙄

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Thegreatestoftheseislove · 18/09/2023 20:46

Reading your posts it made me wonder what your Christian male work-colleague is saying to whomsoever he holds himself accountable - be that the Minister or a prayer partner, or whoever. He is probably asking advice on how to best handle a work situation: a very lovely lady colleague who is making it clear she wants more than friendship. Or, alternatively he could be blissfully unaware of what you've been thinking/feeling.