Any Muslim Mums out there?

[SANA]

Salaams,

my first baby is due next year & would love to get to know other muslim mums & how they deal with raising children and maintaining an Islamic presence!!

yeh theres a shop (well lots of them near town) im not fasting i never have done neither does dds dad , you are very good for keeping it up though, i can emagine that water would be the first thing i would miss

I am not that good a muslim. I am trying to learn again as i want to teach my dd she knows some. How are you going with your dd??? i think it is hard enough to teach the them ABC as well another language and alphabet .... but then maybe thats me

(if you ever need to chat feel free to contact me away from mn) hope your ok
off to have that cup of coffee xx

Hi slink, will you not be sendig your dd to a mosque?? I used to go when little, we learnt Urdu as well as getting religious educaton.

fuzzywuzzy,can I just ask at what age did you go and was Urdu separate from religious education?(want ds/dd to learn Urdu but not religious education)

Fuzzywuzzy i will send her to the mosque but they have said they will not take her till she is 5 as they tend to sit better, but i am trying to find a group that she can go to with fewer children, problem is can't find one as yet, i speak Urdu alittle and my MIL but dad speaks it with dd all the time.

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I'm not Muslim but my DH and DD are. I'm still deciding whether or not to convert.

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I wouldn't have brought up a thread especially, but to be honest I could really do with advice on how to bring up my DD Muslim. Does anyone know where I could go to make Muslim friends. I don't want to get myself wrapped up in the staunch community at the local mosque - I just want to make friends who can give me insights into Islam and the practices from a female viewpoint. All of DH's family are abroad.

Thanks.

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Lailag, the basic Urdu was seperate from the religious education you know the A is for apple sort of thing, but the more advanced stuff was religion based we'd read and write out interpretations in Urdu from Arabic. If it's just the language you want to learn I'm sure you could find classes???
Slink just a thought, maybe you could ask one of the teachers at the mosque if she takes smaller classes for private tuition, some of our mosque teachers used to do so.
Meid salaams and welcome to this thread.

Hi, turkish muslim here, have 3 boys, I will be sending them to a mosque next year, so they can learn arabic, their prayers, and how to be proper muslim young men..... (not see themselves above women, but as equals). 2 older boys have been circumcised, and I hope they see themselves as future muslims, they have the right to choose which religion they wish to go with at the age of 11. There should be no pushing your kids in to the religion, but our parents wished to ignore that bit in the Quran....Hope I don't sound like a know it all???? Anything I can help with just ask? I'm also a diabetic, so have not fasted for the last 12 years, but my boys have done a couple of days each year. They are (10+8+2 years old).

Fuzzywuzzy, problem is I have only found classes for secondary school age ) but am keen for ds and dd (3y/1 y old) to learn it at a young age (and dh is completely useless). But perhaps phoning the mosque may help me further??

Salaams Meird i am with you i would rather my dd went to learn about they religion and language with friends but like you i have no muslim friends. I have lived in Southall for 10yrs and i have a few muslim freinds that are REALLY reglious and i just don't want dd to feel presured, also for me to be judged as i will be re learning the religion.

How are you all ladies where is Sana?????

Hi girls!! So happy to see that we are forming a cool group!!
I dont know how I will try and bring up my future kids as Muslims. I can speak a bit of Urdu but my husband knows nothing. I know that when I went to Koran school when i was younger they taught the Koran and nothing else, Urdu was something that was taught as home. I am going to end up going to SOAS in Kings Cross for proper lessons and back it up with plenty of ZEE tv.

My problem is that my husband isn't bothered with bringing up the kids as Muslim and that is driving me mad - every kids deserves an identity. Im a bit worried that when I do send them to the Mosque that kids and parents will treat my children differently as I am Sunni and my husband is Shia - do you think anyone would treat them any differently or am I being paranoid?

I feel for you B i feel in the same situation (kind of)
My dh is leaving the whole teaching thing to me he is a moderate muslim as he says,
But the reason i don't mix too well with other groups were i live is coz i am WHITE ARHHHHHH
My mum converted when she amrried my dad (34yrs ago) so i have been a muslim from birth but mixed race so my dd looks darker than me but when the other mothers see me coming they shun from me ...or am i being paraniod????

I think children need an identity your right and i am the one to give that to my child it is my husband that will be embaresset when his dd tells him things about the reliogion ???

Salaams to u all,

Really happy to c there r so many posting on this thread, from my ealrier ones u will I had nearly given up. I really want to raise my children as good muslims ( easier said then done!!). I am having my first baby in 18wks inshallah, so very very excited, had 2nd scan yesterday, baby is doing well!! I went to mosque every week day for 2hrs from about the age of 5 till puberty, must say I learnt how to pray but not much about Islam itself which I have picked up on as I have got older by reading books etc. DH is alot more practing then I am but he is never judgemental and we even went to Hajj this year. Survivour- I agree with u that I dont belive in pushing anyone into anything but I have come to accpet that my parents generation didnt know any better. I want to do things diff and I have already started looking into islamic storybooks etc so that I can incorporate islamic teaching with play, some friends I know have also got islamic cartoon videos which seem really good, i have been trying to find a muslim mother & toddler group i know they exist but cant finD one in London????????? hey maybe we shoulD all meet up & form our own group????????

bugaboo- please dont worry about your in-laws trust me even if u did everything thier way, there would still b problems thats just how it is, theres no pleasing some people and u shouldnt beat yourself up it. it makes no diff that u r a diff type of muslim, when I was at hajj i prayed shoulder to shoulder with my shia sisters even though I am sunni and if Allah welcomes all then who r we to judge!!after all Allah knows best. Inshallah u will become pg soon, dont lose heart when u start your period most of my friends took from about 6mths to 2yrs, the best way is to relax and when it happens it will.

Slink- welcome, meet up is a great idea I am in S. London. I feel rather cheated this month as first time in many years that I am not fasting, i cant even manage 2hrs without food so lasting a whole day would be impossible

Meid- where abouts r u?? would love to to chat, i have lots of friends who have come into islam for diff reasons and have seen them take the religion up in varying degrees, u have to b comfortable with the idea first. Is dh helping u?, u r on the right website to make friends and pls feel free to contact me

lailag- I am sure most mosques take kids from about 3 and half, if u ring around u will find somewhere. Just persist & something will come through

Sana glad to see you have not left us. Their is a video called Adams world which is great my dd loved it and it teaches you all about islam and the alphabet bit like sesame street.

So 18wks have you thought of names and do you know what sex it is??? i am trying for no2 i have been for a while really but it is hard as i look after my MIL and she is VERY demanding she has got beeter over the yrs it is me she relys on rather than her own daughters.

Oh inlaws well mine are ok now not strict at all though i am a great muslim accroding to them, Bugaloo you are a great person if you just hold your head high with inlaws they come running ...mine did.

Well Sana when do you want to meet up better wait till your babe is born but keep posting

Salaams to all chat to you all later xx

Assalamulikum sisters!

Mashallah it's great to see so many other Muslim's here :-) I'm a 24year old British born revert of 1 year (I've been researching for two though,) married to an Iraqi brother.

Alhamdu'illah I'm expecting our first baby on 15.01.05, and I'm sad at how fat I'm getting lol ;-) but pleased although nervous, about the baby. I've had two scans (one at 12wks and 20wks) and I was told my baby was awkard and was lying away - so they couldn't tell the sex - well, I think Allah (swt) was giving me a lesson in being patient! :-)

Good luck to you all trying to conceive, and well done to all the other mums-to-be. I live in Huddersfield but would like to keep in touch with some sisters to share tips and trauma's with! [email protected]

Wa Salaam, Julia Musa x

bugaboo - just to let you know, my husband is shia too, and I'm sunni - it's not caused us too many problems as we both believe in the five pillars of Islam - which of course are the same, its just the finer points that need to be dealt with carefully. In'shallah you'll be fine. :-)

Hi there girls...... if we are to meet-up????where and when? are we close enough to each other??? I'm in Ashford/Surrey now, my family is in Enfield/ North London. And have 3 boys, so will it be in school time/ weekends/ or school holidays???

This is a very interesting thread - I'm not muslim, but am very interested in what you have all written as DS1's best friend at school is muslim. Do you mind if I ask you a question? When is Eid? And should I say something to DS1's friend and if so what - do you say Happy Eid??

Eid should be on November 14th, you go by the siteing of the new moon. Eid mubarak is what is said to great muslims on this day. Oh and there is a lot of sweet foods, if you don't have any muslims friends, go out and make some.... all my friends are very chubby, since they have met me.....I on the other hand, am a size 8...But thats because I'm diabetic....another 18 days to go......cakes/sweets/pastries....

Thanks for the welcome to this thread. I'm in South East London/North Kent.

Dinosaur, it might be a nice gesture to give DS1's friend a card to wish him Eid Mubarak. I see they sell them in Clintons now.

Salaams all

Have any of u seen the ramadan calenders with choclates & questions?? they r so great, i have bought loads for the kids in the family!! u can get them in Asda.

DH and I have been trying to decide on names and if its a boy we r fairly decided on Muhammad after the prophet. My MIL told me a intresting story that on the day of Qayamat Allah will ask for the last prophet to rise by his name to go into Heavan and at that time all those who are named Muhammad will get up and Allah will allow them all to pass into Heavan as a result ( inshallah). For a girl we are as yet undecided, there r so many pretty names but nothing just seems to grab us, what do u think of the name Iman?

Ameeting in London would be good??

Sana

I have a niece called imaani and also iman - they are both nice. but you will probably get people saying "whjat? as in Armani?" then again most non-muslims can never say our names properly anyway!!

Dinosaur, yes tell your son to wish his friend a happy eid the day before possibly the 13th, (depends on the lunar calendar). Last eid my husband was returning from Eid prayers he took the bus as his friend's wife went into labour and had to leave early, as dp got on the bus the conductor looked at him and said your muslim aren't you?? To which dp replied yes the conductor wished him 'Eid mubarak' in a good old cockney accent, this still gives me a warm fuzzy feeling when I think about it.

I've been told not to name children imaan because if someone comes calling for Iman and the person isn't home one is forced to say Iman isn't here which in turn means something else..... I don't think many people would mis-pronounce it though, isn't David Bowies wife called Imaan??
Our two are named Khadeeja tul-Kubra, and Fatima Az-Zahra, also love Umme Kulsoom, and Zaynab. Boys names which I love are Hamza, Hussein and Hassan...