Redbindippers, you said that "This is the all knowing, all loving god, who created us in his own image, knew how how we would behave, and then thinks torturing us forever is a good idea." is not completely accurate.
God doesn't think its a good idea to torture people forever. The bible says that His will is for all men to be saved. It's your choice!
It's a bit like saying the builder of a multi-storey car park is sick in the head because they obviously intended for people to jump off the roof to try and commit suicide, because that sometimes happens.
God made a perfect world and sin changed it. God has to judge sin because He is holy. If he didn't judge sin then he would be condoning it, and therefore not holy. But even then, God made a way out for us, if we should choose to take it.
I can really understand people rejecting false religions. God tells us to! But there is an inbuilt knowledge in us that God exists and the evidence is there if we would open ourselves to it. God says if you seek me you shall find me, knock and the door will open. If you honestly are open to God then He will know this and reveal more of himself to you. The problem is when people mix up openness to God with openness to religion, which is not the same thing.
In the bible God says to gain wisdom consider the ant. There is a less-known fact about ants that is really interesting. Ever heard of the ants circle of death? It is that the army ants who blindly follow each other, sending everyone off on a huge expedition, circle after circle of going nowhere. Each ant follows blindly and gradually they die one by one of heat, exhaustion and hunger! The point is be careful who you follow. Be sure where the path goes. Being a good follower is not enough.