Grandad (and now Gran) Vibes Thread - Needing all you can throw!!

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I thought I'd start them their own thread - the story continues...

My grandparents live in the house that decluttering forgot - teeny walkways through towers of cr*p, rooms you can't enter because they are full etc.

Today, my gran fell - on her way to hospital with a probable broken shoulder and hip.

My grandad's stomach is a mess and he keeps soiling himself - he is a very proud man and is horrified by it.

He is just crying and crying because my Gran is hurt.

Social services have finally been called by the paramedics as they couldn't see how they could live there (this is potentially a good thing as my gran has been insisting she needs no help and that my g/dad will never go into a home) - so far SS have said they will send help 4 times a day... I am hoping my mum will be able to explain to them that my g/dad is not capable of being left alone for that long.

My aunt (who lives much closer) has her own health worries right now, and is struggling with bearing the brunt of the care.

My mum has a bag packed and is just awaiting instructions as to what is happening and where she is going.

I don't know what is going to happen - my grandparents are still so in love - they are the two halves of the same whole kind of couple, and I don't see one living long without the other. I think that this fall could be enough to send my g/dad over, and that the grief would be the end of my gran.

I just want 2006 over with. I can't take much more of this, and neither can my mum. DS has been one of the few bright points this year.

Thank you. How did it go Zephr?

HIya guys, thought I would let you know that it was the funeral yesterday. A very hard day, we had waited for ages so that they could have the lady they wanted take the service, then she fell on Tuesday (when arriving to get the details!) and broke her arm!!!! Ended up with a close friend of my g/dad's doing it, and he get needing to stop for tears

I spent most of my time focussing on blocking out everyone else's emotions, I knew if I didn't put up a very good shield then I would just be a mess, and my mum needed me strong. Instead I looked heartless because I was the only one not crying, but I know me - if I had started it wouldn't have stopped and that isn't what she needed. Will probably do my own tears tonight (with wine). I blocked out all the emotions, and somehow ended up with my gran's shoulder pain instead (stopped within 20 mins of her taking painkillers ).

Anyway, long long day, but my mum looked like a weight had been lifted off her as we left her - she can now being the long process of startign to heal.

My gran is doing better than expected, but her arm is hurting a lot. She is in the care home for another few weeks whilst she heals and they work to make her house habitable (a hoarder - there are 2 bedrooms in that house you can't get into because it is piled floor to ceiling with cr*p).

hi flamesparrow i understand the bit about being thought of as heartless for not crying at a funeral. i couldn't cry at my mother's funeral, my dad had asked me to be strong for him. i sometimes think that was abit unfair because it's taken a long time for me to release some of the feelings associated with the days/weeks. yet i felt elated that my mom had been released because it meant that she wasn't in pain anymore. i'm not entirely sure why i said that but i h it h. love from fm x