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Grandad (and now Gran) Vibes Thread - Needing all you can throw!!

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 14/12/2006 14:19

I thought I'd start them their own thread - the story continues...

My grandparents live in the house that decluttering forgot - teeny walkways through towers of cr*p, rooms you can't enter because they are full etc.

Today, my gran fell - on her way to hospital with a probable broken shoulder and hip.

My grandad's stomach is a mess and he keeps soiling himself - he is a very proud man and is horrified by it.

He is just crying and crying because my Gran is hurt.

Social services have finally been called by the paramedics as they couldn't see how they could live there (this is potentially a good thing as my gran has been insisting she needs no help and that my g/dad will never go into a home) - so far SS have said they will send help 4 times a day... I am hoping my mum will be able to explain to them that my g/dad is not capable of being left alone for that long.

My aunt (who lives much closer) has her own health worries right now, and is struggling with bearing the brunt of the care.

My mum has a bag packed and is just awaiting instructions as to what is happening and where she is going.

I don't know what is going to happen - my grandparents are still so in love - they are the two halves of the same whole kind of couple, and I don't see one living long without the other. I think that this fall could be enough to send my g/dad over, and that the grief would be the end of my gran.

I just want 2006 over with. I can't take much more of this, and neither can my mum. DS has been one of the few bright points this year.

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mustrunmorenakedthroughthesnow · 14/12/2006 14:27

Flame; leavng you a message on the other thread.

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 14/12/2006 16:14

Not sure what's happening with my gran. My aunt has called and says that g/dad's legs keep going from under him and her back can't cope with it - my mum is on her way now. I guess I'll know more in 3-4 hours.

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 14/12/2006 20:15

He's gone. In his chair, with his parrot.

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onzephyrstdayofchristmas · 14/12/2006 20:19

Oh Flame. Are you ok?

SaintGeorge · 14/12/2006 20:21

Oh flamey, I'm so sorry.

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 14/12/2006 20:22

Large galss of wine. Not too sure what to do with myself.

They were taking him to a side room at the hospital so my gran can be taken in to see him.

I want to be there for my mum, but I know I'll just be in the way.

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onzephyrstdayofchristmas · 14/12/2006 20:24

You won't be in the way Flame. If you feel you need to go and be there then go. I couldn't go to be with my Nan earlier this year, I stayed on MN instead, it was all very surreal but now I wish I'd gone.

mustrunmorenakedthroughthesnow · 14/12/2006 20:26

Oh flame I've had the pc on all day thinking about you and looking out for news.

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 14/12/2006 20:27

They are all in Cornwall, I'm in Bournemouth... I think that I am probably more use to my mum here - sorting her house/the dog/my sister - possibly mum's work (I'm trained in her job).

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JonesTheSteam · 14/12/2006 20:29

So sorry to hear this Flame!!

2boysmacca · 14/12/2006 20:30

So sorry for you xxx

onzephyrstdayofchristmas · 14/12/2006 20:31

Ahh right. The distance was the main reason for me not going too. Definately get the wine out then.

Have you heard how your Gran is? Poor love

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 14/12/2006 20:35

No update on her as of yet - she's in high dependency... I think at Liskeard (at least that was where they were headed).

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hotmulledwinemama · 14/12/2006 20:46

Oh Flamey Has your Gran been told?

onzephyrstdayofchristmas · 14/12/2006 20:51

It's so hard isn't it How old is your Gran?

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 14/12/2006 20:56

I think she will have been now - she's 79

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HonorMAGIpoeia · 14/12/2006 21:01

Oh Flamein, I'm so sorry to hear this . Your grandparents sound like they were a wonderful, devoted couple. thinking of you x

CranberryJelley · 14/12/2006 22:07

I'm so sorry for you and your family Flame.

WeFrizyouamerrychristmas · 14/12/2006 22:27

so sorry to hear this Flame {{{{Big Hugs}}}}

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 15/12/2006 08:01

Long night, lots of tears. My Gran has broken the top of her humerous (?maybe) - arm in a sling, doing "ok" considering.... given sleeping pills and coming out today.

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YuletidePaps · 15/12/2006 08:14

Sad to hear this news and I send love, light and peace to your grandad (((()))) x

How tough for your grandma - I keep her in my thoughts

BudaBauble · 15/12/2006 08:19

Oh Flame - how sad.

Hope you're ok. (Or as Ok as you can be).

flutturkey · 15/12/2006 08:30

Oh flame I'm really sorry my Grandpa has just died, his funeral was yesterday (I was unable to go) so I know how hard this must be for you.

I hope that you are able to find some peace and manage to celebrate with your family over Christmas the wonderfull life your Grandad must have lived and the fact that he obviously found his soulmate in your Grandma.

I know I'm a stranger but if you want to talk just shout for me. xx

onzephyrstdayofchristmas · 15/12/2006 12:41

Hi Flame how are you doing? You must be shattered. At least you've had news re your Gran and she's able to go home. Will she be going home with your Mum?

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FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 15/12/2006 12:52

Very tired today. Apparently there is some problem with the death cert so they can't plan anything They reaslied yesterday lunchtime that he was taking too many pills of some sort - I don't know if that was down to my gran or the doctor, so it could be a pm/inquest job???

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