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A new Christian prayer thread, just in time for Easter!

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Tuo · 09/04/2014 23:44

Welcome to our new prayer thread... just in time for Holy Week and Easter.

This is a safe and supportive place of prayer, where regulars, occasional visitors and lurkers, committed Christians and those just dipping a toe into the water are all equally welcome. Come and leave a prayer, tell us what's going on in your life, bring your worries, hopes, fears and joys to God, and know that you will be prayed for.

We pray, in particular, for...

... amberlight, for her work raising awareness of the ways in which we can work to make life easier for our autistic friends, and for her to know love and acceptance wherever she goes;

... Badvoc and her family, as they grieve for her dad and for her aunt - this has been a very tough time for the family... may spring bring them happier times;

... BlackEyedSusan, for all the many things which she has to juggle in her life as a single parent; in particular, we pray for her mum's health, and for both her DC to receive the support that they need at school, and for her to feel welcomed, accepted and supported at her church;

... BlessedAssurance, for breast-feeding to settle down for her following the birth of her baby son, for her relationship with her extended family (and in particular her MIL and her bonkers baby-naming ideas ), and for her parents who are far away;

... CharlotteCollins, for her new life as a single mum - may she be happy and fulfilled and supported in it;

... DontstepontheMomeRaths, for her life as a single mum, for support for her to do all the things she'd like to be able to do, for her DC, for difficult relationships at work, and for the wonderful work she does through her church supporting people going through separation and divorce;

... DutchOma, as she grieves for Bob, that she may find peace of mind, love and support at this time;

... Gingercurl, for her relationship with her DH, for the final 'tweaks' to her thesis, and for friendship for her DS;

... ALittleFaith, for baby Faithlet as she approaches her first birthday, for Faith's work to bring her joy and not exhaustion, and for her to find happiness and fulfilment in her church;

... jan2014 for her to understand what the right thing to do is vis-a-vis her relationship with her DH, and for her to have the courage to do what needs to be done, and to find support in doing it; also for her new church to be a place where she finds love and support and welcome;

... JugglingFromHereToThere, for her sister and her family as they grieve the loss of Juggling's nephew;

... Kaykat, giving thanks that she is now settled and happy in her new home with her DS, and continuing to pray for her situation, that she receive the moral and practical support she needs for herself and her DS

... MadHairDay, for her health to improve this spring and for her to stay out of hospital, and for health, friendship, and freedom from bullying for MHD's DD;

... PandaG, as she and her family grieve the loss of her mum; and for

... PositiveAttitude, praying for the right outcome for PA's DH as he decides between a career opportunity at home and a return to Cambodia; also praying for PA's parents health, for her DD3 and DGS as they move into their own home, and for her other three DDs and one DS in their various situations; and finally praying for peace for PA herself and - whatever happens work-wise in the UK and/or abroad - for God to provide for her and her family.

We pray also for all regular and occasional visitors, and those we haven't seen for a while, including: boxofdelights, bountyicecream Bluetinkerbell, CheerfulYank, cloutiedumpling, EasyCompadre, FairPhyllis, fluffieduckie, FriendOfDorothy, GoodbyeRubyTuesday, harbinger, JakeBullet, ktef, LollipopViolet, MaryBS, NeverKnowinglyUnderstood, niminypiminy, notquiteagrownup, PloddingDaily, revivingshower, RoomForALittleOne, saintsalive, SchrodingersFerret, SEStheBrave, Soozi, SunshinemMum, thegreenheartofmanyroundabouts, thehorridestmumintheworld, trish5000, weegiemum, youretoastmildred, ZingSweetApple, and zulubump, and for anyone I've forgotten to name-check (don't take it personally, please!). And we pray for those who read and pray but don't post, for those who need our prayers but are afraid or too uncertain to post them, and for all those known to us in our own lives who need God's love.

Keep Your people, Lord, in the arms of Your embrace.
Shelter them under Your wings.
Be their light in darkness.
Be their hope in distress.
Be their calm in anxiety.
Be strength in their weakness.
Be their comfort in pain.
Be their song in the night. Amen

OP posts:
jan2014 · 04/05/2014 20:22

so glad you got a diagnosis mome hopefully you will be able to get the support you need though - im sure it is very difficult for you and your son at times

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 04/05/2014 20:43

I think it's easier now he's older. Nursery was pretty horrendous. The teacher made me feel like it was my parenting and if I was stricter at home it would fix things. She often gave me the impression she felt my son was difficult and naughty.

Fast forward to reception and his teacher just wanted to know how she could help him at school. Any advice I had, she wanted. Completely different. And with this teacher he's come on leaps and bounds. She gets him. He has his moments and if she's not in the class he struggles so much more. So year 1 will be very hard for him, change of teacher, less play more learning etc. So I'm glad it's all moving forward before year 1 tbh.

amberlight · 04/05/2014 21:26

Congrats on diagnosis :-)
Might seem like a strange thing to say, but am very blessed with so many hundreds of excellent autistic friends, family and colleagues nationally. National Autistic Society website v handy. Prayers all round.

Dutchoma · 04/05/2014 21:35

Yes, I, too, am very happy that you finally got your diagnosis confirmed. Hopefully you will be able to access some more support for him, although from BES' experience that's not always forthcoming. Hope your area will more helpful than hers.

cloutiedumpling · 04/05/2014 21:38

Lurking and praying

ZingWatermelon · 04/05/2014 21:51

Thanks Oma

BlackeyedSusan · 04/05/2014 22:08

her particular autism support service may be more useful though. congratulations on getting a diagnosis. it is good to know.

jan2014 · 05/05/2014 07:16

Mome thats very sad about the way the nursery treated you and your son, probably through lack of awareness. its very hard to think this might happen again to other children... do you think it might be worth writing a letter at some stage to them, explaining he is doing well with the right diagnosis and support and maybe send them a leaflet about autism?

i hope everyone has a lovely bank holiday. i haven't any plans yet apart from washing this tan off i decided to do to cheer myself up, and now i have to change the beds because my bed stinks of fake tan.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 05/05/2014 09:15

The nursery is attached to the school so she'll know. She had to write a report for the paed in the early days. It was a horrible read. She basically dismissed that anything was wrong with him and he was just a difficult child. I'm sure regardless of the diagnosis she'll believe her view point. So it's a waste of time really to even try to tell her otherwise I suspect. Other parents have had bad experiences with her too. So thankfully it's not just me.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 05/05/2014 09:16

I'm off out all day with the kids I suspect. Somewhere nice. Work can wait.

Does the tan look nice?

jan2014 · 05/05/2014 09:33

mome, people like that are so so difficult. they just think they know it all and you can't talk to them at all, it must have been terrible for you, so glad you have finished that stage!
i hope you have a nice day out. dd and me have plans now... meeting mum for a coffee and walk if weather is good. tan is nice... when it washed off you can hardly notice it. i am very pale so you wouldn't think i am tan at all even if i put loads on! think i would need another few applications but i can't be bothered one was tiring enough lol.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 05/05/2014 09:33

'Wrong with him' is not the best terminology! He's perfect to me.

PositiveAttitude · 05/05/2014 15:46

I am pleased you have the diagnosis now Mome. I am so pleased to see that you say he is still your perfect boy still. That is just how I felt with DD3. Smile Now you can use the diagnosis to access help and understanding for you and DS. I know some people dislike "labeling children" but I saw at not the child that was labelled, but the "behaviour" that is perhaps a little different from what is expected. And I hope you can feel a sense of relief and smugness that whatever anyone thinks it is no way your fault or lack of parenting causing problems. Well done you on standing up for DS and for doing such a wonderful job with him that he is now doing so well at school.

I hope you are all having a wonderful bank holiday weekend. I have been spending more time with my DM and DF as they are struggling more and more with everyday life, although still stubbornly refusing any outside help.

I also have had toothache - had it rumbling for a few days last weekend, it went away and was fine, then reappeared on Friday night. weekend again!!! I am dosing myself up with painkillers and trying to ignore it!

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 05/05/2014 18:42

Don't ignore it PA, book the apt at the dentist before it gets worse As you know from fb, I have a filling due this week, so I'll stand with you in solidarity x

Everything you say is all true about DS.

And thank you Amber and everyone else for your support.

amberlight · 05/05/2014 21:25

Agree about the labelling. We are effectively blind and deaf to social communication. If a child was Blind, we wouldn't be worried about labelling them as Blind. Autism is a physical sensory processing difference, basically. And it has physical access needs and communication needs. The label is vital for good access and support.

BlackeyedSusan · 05/05/2014 22:16

ds manages to read some of my social communication/body language. I do rather overemphasise it though. he does struggle with a lot of other things. he hates the "rude eyes" you know that stare that melts concrete when they are being naughty.

I have a temporary window into the 21st centuary. the computer keeps crashing and ex has managed to wipe all the channels from the dvd and it will not reload. we are without cbeebies which is a disaster as far as the children are concerned and pretty bad for me. half the time I am reduced to listening to the home service on the wireless.

Tuo · 05/05/2014 22:31

Have been away for the weekend - had a good time, though I could have done with the time at home to catch up a bit tbh, but was seeing a friend who's had a bit of a tough time recently so didn't want to let her down. However, now facing a work backlog and am feeling uncharacteristically panicky about it, so may be lurking for a bit. Will be praying though.

Praying tonight for all who have had to struggle (or are still struggling) to get their dc the support that they need. May all our children find love and acceptance and help when things are tough for them. And thanking God for amber who does so much to make that understanding and acceptance easier.

Praying too for MHD to feel better and be allowed home soon.

And for PA's parents... and, indeed, for all whose parents need extra support at this time, and especially BES's mum.

From tonight's Northumbria compline:

My Christ! my Christ!
my shield, my encircler,
each day, each night,
each light, each dark.
Be near me, uphold me,
my treasure, my triumph. Amen

OP posts:
DontstepontheMomeRaths · 05/05/2014 22:45

Hope you had a nice day jan. I bet you looked fine. I don't tan well.

BES do you have a manual for the DVD player?

Hello TUO. Don't work too hard. A good nights sleep may make you more productive tomorrow.

I must go to sleep myself. I want to type more but I'm exhausted. Bye for now.

jan2014 · 06/05/2014 07:51

just trying to breathe this morning. waiting for ex to pick dd up before work. trying to get her ready has been complete nigtmare and she is in time out and screaming the place down. drained before the day starts.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 06/05/2014 07:54

Oh jan Sad

I don't miss the toddler stage. It gets easier x

It's fair to say that I'm drowning in work for the course. Please pray. I'm going to have to start keeping lists. But I'm worried I'm going to drop the ball.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 06/05/2014 10:00

Please pray for my little family this morning, and for my relationship with DH which feels very rocky ATM.
I'm very upset with him for not being able to offer more support in this bereavement - we lost my DNephew recently. But instead putting pressure on me, in front of DS, and in a very uncontrolled angry sort of way about getting a job and getting more on top of things with the housework (but I don't see why that's not a shared responsibility - he could at least do some to be more encouraging? - does the occasional bit eg. some hoovering and the garden)
Basically I was finding life a bit over-whelming before this happened, but managing to keep my head above water, and encouraged by lovely dd and ds, and that they seem to be doing OK (so, I must be too kind of thing)
But now I feel so over-whelmed by everything, and most of all that when I tried to share my feelings with DH this morning (he's on holiday this week so had the time to listen I would have thought) he didn't seem able to listen or care, couldn't apologise for recent upsetting behaviour, and went out without checking in any way to see if I was OK (even managing a friendly goodbye would have been something)
Also I said I'd thought about seeing my GP to talk about my feelings and whether I may be depressed and something might help and I guess DH found that a scary idea, anyway said he thought it was a bad idea "to take chemicals" and "be dependent on them"
I said it was sometimes better for people than feeling depressed and that is why GP's would prescribe them!

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers dear friends Thanks
Thinking of you all too, and hoping people have good days now the sun is coming out here - dd has gone on a school trip today so am glad the rain has stopped for them

Dutchoma · 06/05/2014 10:07

Juggling Men, honestly! It's all so unnecessary, you were not asking much. Do go and see your GP, if you would feel it helpful, you do not need your husband's approval or his involvement. Is there a rl friend nearby you could share with?

JugglingFromHereToThere · 06/05/2014 10:14

Thanks for your reply Oma, it means a lot Thanks

If only he could apologise once in a while that would go a long way, but he so often seems to find saying "I'm sorry" almost impossible Sad

  • I find that very hard to understand.
ZingWatermelon · 06/05/2014 11:49

juggling

I think you should visit GP.
I'm not suggesting you have depression or PTSD but you are bereaved so they might be able to offer you counselling.

I think your DH is scared and worried about you but can't express it.
I've seen this behaviour before.
(not defending him, but trying to figure out why he is so angry)

JugglingFromHereToThere · 06/05/2014 12:31

Thanks Zing

Unfortunately he is generally prone to being quite angry when there's stress around or things that need talking about.

But I think you're right in that he's scared of having to carry more responsibility in our partnership looking after the DC.
Whereas really talking about how I'm feeling with him, or seeking other support, should help me be in a stronger place, with more to bring to the partnership.

I phoned him recently and he was just like nothing had happened, either this morning or in last few days. Whereas to me it's felt like pretty significant stuff for us.
We talked about his bird-watching this morning and how I might invite a friend over and sit out in the garden for a bit - And in fact I've just had my lunch out there and it was pleasant.

And at least we've made up for now, after a fashion.
So, heartfelt thanks for your thoughts and prayers this morning Thanks