Welcome to muslim tea room 2.

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Peace to you all

Ok, well here it is again...we have moved to room 2 now

Discuss whatever aspect of islam you like my lovely sisters - this is a place for muslims and non-muslims too, to share experiences, raising kids or just having your say!

The kettle is on.... We have loads of herbal teas, coffee and guava juice .... I like guava juice so welcome!

Assalamualaikum, you know we did the Eid swap for Eid ul Fitr last year, someone got halal bath stuff I think, which company was it?

I'm trying to figure out what to get for year end for my girls teachers and I want it to be extra special this year inshallah as my eldest is leaving primary school.

I too cannot believe how fast my dc are growing up, dd1 will be 10 this year and I can't quite believe how she has been in my life for a decade, she's been here for a third of my life.

Fuzzy I've got a feeling it was naila who had the halal bath stuff, it was when I disappeared for a while but I remember reading it when trying to catch up. Where is naila?

Crescent that's one of my favourite hadith, I prefer the first wording also. When I used to read about countries whose children don't start school until seven I used to be horrified at the thought of them being home for that long, but actually the prophet (saw) said 'play with your child for seven years', so these countries may have a point. What does everyone think? That said both my dc were ready for preschool when they started at three and I couldn't wait for them to start!

Assalamualaikum,

Jummah Mubarak everyone don't forget to recite/listen to surah Kahf today, I'm listening to the tafseer by Dr Yasir Qadhi, I listen to it bit by bit each evening so I'm in the middle right now.

Sis Lost, I think the hadith is right too, but I also think that in England at least the first years schooling is mostly learning thro play and at (my home my girls had toys and play and we just enjoyed being together. My girls school does streaming by ability and I wasn't at all bothered that my girls were pretty near the bottom during the first three or so years of primary school, I only learned to read at seven myself and maths was totally beyond me till I suddenly had that ahh moment at around 9ish I think.
I used to watch other mothers getting utterly hysterical over their child being on the average ability tables (mine were on the bottom!).
But I was right to an extent both my girls now excel at school Alhumdulilalh and (most importantly) they enjoy it, I think pushing hard at the early years the children suffer burnout very early on and schoolwork is a chore for them and they don't like it because they've not had a chance to play.

Dunno, shall let you know if my methods work when my girls are older lol.

Salaam my lovely sisters, just to add to the discussion - Alhamdulilah, our family have been blessed with a second daughter. We are just so happy.

I remembered you all in my du'as, please keep us in yours.

May Allah grant you all sabr and sakina :-)

Walaikumassalaam, Mabrook may she be the coolness of your eyes

Salaam and congratulations. Mabruk sis.

So happy for you mashallah. May Allah bless your daughters with the best in this life and give the health and happiness.

Salaam.

Came across this article racism in schools and it makes me worry for my children's future.

I must admit, I have recently come to realise the extent of islamophobia around us. I used to shrug it off and make excuses for it and present reasons why it is so!!!!! But now, i have come to realise that this in itself gives rise to more islamophobia. I just hope my children never have to feel like they are somehow 'different' purely due to their colour and religion.

Just got back on and seen more stuff which is really sad. I was looking at tell mama and it is sad to see how much hatred exists.

Very true crescent. Our history is full of those who did awful things to muslims but then saw the beauty of islam such as wahshi ibn harb

If I miss Suhoor I don't keep the fast (only for nafl fasts), but I very rarely miss it as I'm up at daft o clock anyway to get to work/school run.

May Allah make the fasts easy for everyone who is observing them.

The weekend just flew by.

My motivation is because I want to get all the barakah of fasting, there's barakah in the pre-dawn meal. with Nafl acts of worship I'm all or nothing, with fard I am doing it to the best of my ability and hoping Allah will accept them in his infinite mercy.

Altho to be fair I'm usually vey engrossed with work and have to set an alarm for iftar or I will forget. So Alhumdulillah it's not so bad, my friend and I were talking about Nafl fasts and she said how Ramadan when it comes around is much easier for her as she's so used to fasting, she said the year she stopped Nafl fasts for a while she really felt the first few Ramadan fasts.

Basically you need to keep occupied so you wont think about it, I reckon that's why we all tend to go mad during Ramadan cooking insanely extravagant dishes, we're trying to keep occupied and the only thing we can think about is food lol

Thanks for that interesting piece of information and beautiful reminder crescent. The fact that charity is mentioned so much in the qur'an (and especially its mention alongside prayer) should remind us all that it is such an important aspect of our faith.

I have never come across such a saying before, my take on it is that if those that are wealthy give up something that is so easy for them to do that will bring great reward, then the not so wealthy will also give up something equally (more) important that is easy to do. It is a reflection of the type of society that would disobey the commands of Allah to the point of dropping one of the five pillars. I didn't explain that very well but what I mean is that people just won't care anymore, and will give up anything. What are your own thoughts?

Assalamualaikum,

I've been thinking about the saying, I think maybe it is because, we are exhorted to give charity to ease the state of the impoverished and straitened for entering Islam. Charity is a consolation for the second and easily given by the first as it is incumbent upon those who qualify as both are pillars of Islam when one pillar falls the others will follow slowly as the distribution is then unequal, I think the pillars of Islam are dependant upon eachother, one must observe them all otherwise deserting one leads to neglecting the rest then we have nothing but the title to pass on.