Hello everyone,
I wish you all a hopefully wonderful 2014 with lots of happiness, health, and good fortune
Yes, the links are awesome and very informative and helpful. I truly appreciate all this help and advice.
And another yes to your question about me being raised Muslim myself. Yes indeed, I have been raised exactly the same way all my cousins and others in my age group have been raised in Europe and the Maghreb.
Me having been signed up by my parents in Christian child-care and primary school wasn't even considered unusual as this has not been uncommon in the Maghreb itself in the 30's, 40's and up.
Also, my strong interest with dialogue and peaceful living with Jews as well, has not been uncommon in my parents's upbringing as this used to be the norm for ages in the Maghreb and also Egypt and various other countries in the Near and Middle East.
So my parents are in their late 60's and early 70's now are of the generation and also the ones who are older than them who find this actually very normal.
I do not wear a headscarf and my mother never has and tons of women, actually over 85% never have and do not.
I also do not pray and do not fast while having (had)normal regular school, uni, and work responsibilities.
My parents didn't want me too,, when I was still a minor. They didn't not want me to be harmed or get repurcussions from a fasting situation which German culture, school responsibilities etc. weren't taking Ramadan into consideration.
I have found my own alternative way with the help of my parents.
I very much look into similarities of all three monotheistic religions. I like the Old testament la lot as the common denominator.
I love, more and more the older I get, the idea of fasting and try to get more into how all these 3 religios fast and why.
So, I actually spread timing (4 times 10 days) across the year and very much include the Catholic fasting time as well by also sitting in the Catholic church to be close to God.
Why Catholic, well the Protestant ones here are not as beautiful and they are very cold and somehow inside I feel a distance. So, I go, where I feel there is a spirit I can feel.
Orthodox churches are also very much what I like.
We also have some (not a lot) few beautiful mosques...and I love it in there.
My parents, but also by my extended family, which also includes a grear-great uncle who was a very great Imam in the famous and very important mosque in Tunis and Uni professor for Islamic Theology, have raised me to look for comfort and look for connection in any other holy and blessed place, if I feel like it.
Oh and I know others who grew up that way and see it nowadays this way as well.
Does that make sense to you?