Just curious - how many muslims are on mumsnet?

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Hello/Salaam,

I know mumsnet has a wide and diverse population and I tend to recognise some MN usernames as regulars. Just intrigued to know how big/small a community it may be.

Of course, I respect that there may be those who do not wish to even identify themselves for various reasons - which is fine too.

I am not asking for 'religiousness' levels or any vital stats! Nor is this a muslim-only thread or an 'no non-muslims' thread.
If you really wish to tell me that you are not a muslim, that is fine too :)

:)

I don't agree with men praying behind women, and her slandering the sahabah saying Abu Hurairah was a mysogynist. ALthough it is an interesting view point.

Salaam everyone,

Nothing to add as always just popping by to say hello .

I've not properly caught up yet, but thank you crescent for all the information, mashallah. I'll sit down and have a read tonight.

Salaam dear crescent, I'm sure you didn't kill the thread...maybe just knocked it unconscious for while
Seriously, I have been reading and taking interest in the latest posts but don't feel I have much to contribute, and also I'm trying not get distracted from thesis write up!

mashallah great post

How do you reconcile the hadith about Bareera with the one about divorce being the most hated thing?

You posts are definitely not boring Crescent. You make an interesting point about the colonialism, and you made a previous point before regarding the excitement over white faces in hijab. What you said gave words to something I had felt but not known how to describe. Although I can see the impact of this from the point of view of others, I'm not sure how much it influences me. I've certainly never identified with my 'white colonial' past! Probably because my ancestors were poor factory workers! On a more serious note, I felt passionately about the disgustingness of racism of any sort from a young age, and as I learnt more about the role of England in history, felt a certain amount of shame. I say a certain amount as I felt disconnected from it, however, this shame was current and acute when I visited South Africa at a young age, shortly after the end of apartheid. I can say at that point I was truly ashamed of my race. I have also felt very uncomfortable in being treated as somehow special and superior just for being British, in many of the countries I have visited.
One of the appealing aspects of Islam when I was looking into it as a non-Muslim was the complete intolerance and almost mocking of racism. I hope I've remembered this correctly, but I think that in the conquest of Mecca, or one of the visits prior to the conquest, Bilal (black slave who converted to Islam), climbed on top of the Ka'aba to make the call to prayer. The leaders of Mecca were appalled that a black slave had not only been given a position of authority as the official caller to prayer, but was standing on top of their precious ka'aba!

It's been disappointing to find that the intolerance of racism in Islam is not reflected in all Muslims, though certainly among my friends and aquaintances, we are a joyful multi-cultural lot!

The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: ?O people! Your God is one and your forefather (Adam) is one. An Arab is not better than a non-Arab and a non-Arab is not better than an Arab, and a red (i.e. white tinged with red) person is not better than a black person and a black person is not better than a red person, except in piety.?

Yes crescent I see what you mean. I certainly think it's an advantage not to have grown up in a misogynyst culture. I know many Muslim women who struggle with the role of 'wife' in Islam, purely because they've seen how it was applied in their parents generation and how they were encouraged to think about it (this is generalising of course). When you come to Islam with the blank state in that regard, I think it's easy to view the gender roles in Islam more objectively and see the benefit in them.

Current circumstances dictate that I get up at 4.30 this was helped this morning by the fact that DH had stolen the duvet and I was freezing!
Very exciting about you starting work Crescent, you'll have to give us the low down when you start.
When we first got married I had my own income, but DH completely took care of everything, house, bills, food, car. We occasionally used my money for travel and other luxuries. Then we went through a phase where my money was quite essential to our survival. I think DH found this hard, and I tried to be sensitive to this. In reality I never stopped seeing him as the provider, as I knew the stage would pass quite quickly, and I never mentioned my contribution much, to him or anyone else.

We have seperate bank accounts but both have access to to them, these days he earns the money and I spend it do the financial planning! Alhamdulillah despite some months where the ends nearly didn't meet, we have never argued or worried about money.
I didn't know about that ruling in the Shafi madhab. The only thing I was aware of is that the wifes money is her own, but she can give it to him or the family as a gift if she wishes.
Perhaps your DH will come round to the idea of you contributing to savings, but think you should also spend a little on yourself and the kids, you'll deserve it!

I need to know how to increase the barakah in my time

?A lot of times we meet people that make us lose hope. They say things to us that disappoint us. They tell us how haram we and our actions are, and how evil we have become. Don?t confuse the disappointment people have with you, with the disappointment Allah might have with you; they are not the same thing. Your parents, husband, wife, friends?, and Imam?s disappointment with you are not the same as Allah?s disappointment with you. People can put you down, and they will, but Allah will never abandon you so long as you don?t.?
? Nouman Ali Khan

When i read the quote I thought of waynetta which is why I posted it here!

in hanafi if you spend on your husband and kids it is a sadaqah, the husband doesnt have to pay it back unless a loan is specified!

Also i remember when my mums cousins came to uk years back, they were baffled at seeing a white man cleaning floors in maccy ds