May time-Christian prayer thread

[blackeyedsusan]

All welcome to join

Here is a list of all those who popped in or were regulars on the last thread. I hope I have not missed anyone!!

Amberlight- prayer that the heart problems she has are temporary and that the beast cancer will not return. Pray for dh after his op.
Aspirantpiate-studying and a new job in September
Bafana, Thesober-single parent to teen/preteen Pray for a friend who has a brain tumour
Becaroooo- ongoing health problems that are now starting to be investigated
Beatrice Primrose and cupoftea poorly baby and support for the family
birdofthenorth prray for comfort and support after the loss of her baby at 8 weeks of pregnancy
Bluetinkerbell- lost her beloved Sterre during her second trimester. Now pregnant again!
Caz and her baby Xander. Also for dh who does not share her faith.
CaptainDippy- busy busy busy
Chairofthebored-dh has ms and ttc number1
Creatovator ds ?asd and dd?s eczema
Don in killerheels-hous
Dutch Oma- dh has a lung disease requiring regular trips to hospital/drs and lots of rest. Church services are not always easy due to excessive noise causing problems for Bob.
Expat's dd suffering from leukaemia. Give thanks that she has a donor for transplant and pay for a good outcome!
FriendofDorothy- pray that the pregnancy will stick and bleeding to stop.
Gingercurl- things are stressful at home, studying for PhD, high blood pressure
heyyyo-dd with health issues.
Issypeach- work situation insecure for h and Issy. Prayer requested for the dcs one of whom has gone awol and the other at uni
Jaffacakes... new baby
Jan marriage, new baby and ongoing health problems
Jugglingwith?-job applications to work 1 to 1 with children and a husband who needs to appreciate all she does!
Lostmywellies- recently returned to the uk, friendships for dd and ds to settle into nursery. Possible knee op?
LoveAndPrayers. Marriage and h?s debts
Lovelyman access arrangements and maintenance. (and his SO prefers kissing wookies? eeuuu)
Madhairday- reoccuring lung infections, dd with psoriasis/partial hearing and unhelpful school and getting bullied. SATs week. Madhair is writing a book! ?or at least she should be if she weren?t on mn?
MaryB- work and relationships at church. difficult situations socially for dc's. dd getting bullied.
MrsMcCave -hello!
Nanniejo- family and weddings abroad
Nickelhasababy pray for friends who have lost babies.
Notevenamousie- curently undergoing treatment as an inpatient. recently lost her mum.
PositiveAttitude- soon to be working abroad for 2 years from 17th July!. Pray for dds1,2 and 3 staying behind. prayer also for current work situation and 3 jobs! (eek). Prayers for DB and PA?s family?s relationship with sil.
SESthebrave-prayer for husbands stressful job situation, which may involve going to Dubai (not what ses wants). The last few weeks of pregnancy and work. Pray for the baby to turn the right way round.
Starwisher-pray for a job for dh
SweetestThing- just got the all clear from cancer and officially in remission. however, still has to deal with the after effects of surgery.
Teaandcakesplease- single parent to 2 young children. unsupportive parents re ds "being a toddler." prayer for new reliable friends, and one friend in particular!
Tuo-dd1 and dh to be more positive about her faith
Weegie Thank God that treatment is bring some relief to her condition, chronic inflammatory.Demyelinating polyneuropathy. Ongoing prayers for more improvement and adjusting to a new way of life for both weegie and he dh dd has Perthe's syndrome , where the hip joint dies then regrows. Thank God for an improvement in her condition and further improvements so no op is needed.
welshcerys- family and a mega toothache
ZipidiSoozi- welcome back! GCSE season for ds
and finally (I hope)
Blackeyedsusan- mad as a hatter! single parent to 2 youngish children, separated after dv. pray for friends and a new church. ds's behaviour and toddler diarrhoea. dd, niggling health problems. Parents poorly, mum collapsed- investigations to find out why. Mil with lifelimiting cancer

lots going on for everyone. praying god to give us peace and sense of his presence at all times

That's a very good prayer Jan.

weegiemum, have been thinking of you lots, praying for strength for you this week and for expat and family staying with you, praying for all of them and sending as much love and prayers as I can. :(

Mary :( that sounds awful!! Prayers....

Thanks for prayers....a lot better over past couple of days. Damp weather not helping. Going to New wine next saturday so need some nice sunshine there!!

praying for all.

Praying for all as I read through. Would love a sense of God's presence at the moment!

The house is gradually getting packed up. We move in under two weeks, all being well. But I'm hardly noticing all that, because I'm just realising there's been an elephant in the room all through our marriage and it's h's criticism, control and belittling. I can't get through a day without seeing it repeatedly now, and wonder how I've managed to ignore it for so long. Once we've moved house, I need to put my energies into seeing if the situation can be fixed - I haven't tried for years, because I didn't much enjoy banging my head against a brick wall...

oh lost. remind me how long you have been married. do you challenge him when he makes that sort of statement? the old mn did you mean that to sound rude/patronising/critical? it is a bloody big thing to have to get your head around.

Hey all had a horrible weekend with H texting OW all through the day and then staying out late with her. Flipped and told him I've had enough but don't think he believes me. I have lost the hope that this may blow over and even if it did I think I have been hurt too much now.

Good. In order to work on your marriage he would have to end the affair. Right now he is not respecting you or the vows you made. He ought to move out right now, quite frankly, to give you some space. You're not a doormat! You deserve more. Then he would know you were serious. Have you read Shirley Glass's book? It's called Not Just Friends and is excellent. That tells you how to go about fixing a marriage after an affair and if the marriage can be salvaged too. It asks a lot of important questions and helps you think (at a time when you're desperate to save the marriage and cannot see the wood for the trees). That book helped me a lot, as my now ex husband had an affair too. Your husband needs to move out right now. Unless he ends it and commits to working on your marriage, regaining your trust and being completely transparent. Right now there is nothing you can do, unless he does this. You cannot let him continue living with you behaving as he is, you're giving him carte blanche to behave as he wishes and he is walking all over you He has broken the marriage vows, NOT you. Just remember that. You can do this, God is with you and he is not happy either with how your husband is behaving right now, try not to worry about what others think. God knows your heart and wouldn't want you to live like this, he is with you x

Sorry No paragraphs at all. I was so cross I just typed

You deserve more Kaykat, you do, no matter what he has said to you, to justify this behaviour and I ask God now to release you from whatever hold his words have had on you and to renew your mind, with how he see's you alone.

Kaykat, what MomeRaths said. Wise advice. Please act!

11 years, bes. If I say that is critical, he says I'm the critical one. Or he says it's not important and I shouldn't get upset.

Lost, I am so sad that you are being treated like this. Wise advice from the others. You deserve someone who thinks you are the most wonderful woman in the world.

More prayers for all.

Same for Kaykat, too.

kay... ermmm... what she said^

lost. do you use the when you say... I feel ... type phrases? I think I may have used them once and got a good thumping for it it is sad that he is dismissing your feelings as unimportant. it is a difficult situation to be in.

I'm so sorry for all those hurt by a partner - in any way - but particularly physically after what bes said - but crossed out

Prayers for all the relationships under strain here.

We move tomorrow. Life is mad and I have spent the day in tears. Please pray for DD1, 2 & 3 who are being left here. We MIGHT move straight into our new home when we arrive on Friday evening. Please pray for us over the next 4 days as we say final goodbyes and travel to a new life.

...oh one thing I wanted to share. I said a tearful goodbye to my parents yesterday. It is very likely to be the last time I ever see them. But as i left my dad said that he would go into church tomorrow and pray for us. My dad has been anti- Christian all my life, but has been going to church with mum as she has gone downhill with Alzheimers over the past years and has really taken on some of the teachings.

I will probably not be around for a few days, but will drop in as soon as I can.....

Thinking of you on your journey PA. Travel well !

have a good journey.

Will be thinking of you especially over the next few days, PA. Quite excited for you, but what an emotional time!

Thanks, amber, you are kind. Do I really deserve that, though? It's so hard even maintaining the clarity to see there's a problem; they're all such small incidents taken by themselves, the underlying problem of his attitude has been easy to ignore...

bes - sad memories. I read recently that there are different types of emotional abuse. I guess your h was aggressive; mine otoh specialises in minimising. So when I try to frame a "when you... I feel..." he is most likely to express mild astonishment that I would feel that and tell me I shouldn't.

been reading and just so sorry what you al have been through/are going through in the relationships.
its so difficult. lost from my limited knowledge what you are describing is pretty textbook. of course you deserve more, God made you, you are special unique and amazing in your own right and you deserve someone to cherish and love you and thinks you are wonderful like amber said.
my dh will say stuff and when i challenge him on it he will say 'its only a joke' or 'youre being over sensitive' or 'i didn't mean it'. in the times when ive kept challenging and telling him how it makes me feel he says sorry in the end and does the same things over again.

PA what a time for you - so much emotions, so much happening - no wonder you are in tears! thinking of you all the best xo

praying and lurking (as always). Praying especially for PA and her DH as they set off on a new adventure, for Oma and Bob, MHD, Mary's DD and everyone living in strained relationships.

Oooh PA praying - so exciting and so emotional at the same time.

Lost, I just want to back up what everyone says. You don't deserve to be treated like this and it's not right or normal for a marriage to be that way. I know we normalise stuff when we live with it but really, no one has the right to treat another in that way, especially someone who has made vows to love, cherish, honour etc etc. I will pray for you. :(

Getting DD ready for her Leaver's Party. Very emotional at her being so grown up.

Praying, praying...

... for PA and her dh as they finally set off on this long-anticipated adventure. May God always guide them and keep them safe. Prayers too for PA's dds and for her parents.

... for Kaykat, lost, jan, BES, Momeraths and all those in, or living with the aftermath of, difficult relationships. Wise words already on this thread. Please don't ever doubt that you deserve to be loved unreservedly. Remember: "Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right."

... for MHD - for healing, and for her dd, as she moves from one phase of her life to a new one.

... for weegiemum - also for healing, and specifically for her treatment this week; for the kindness and welcome that she has shown to expat and her family; and for a sense of "home".

... for Mary and her dd. Praying that she is not too sad, and that the situation resolves itself somehow. It sounds very unfair.

... for Oma and Bob - that the help that you've been getting will make a real difference to your quality of life.

... for Blue and FoD - for continued problem-free pregnancies.

... for expat as she picks up the pieces of her life following the funeral.

... and for all who read this thread, whether regular or sporadic posters or just lurkers.

Please pray for energy for me. We go on holiday for two weeks on Saturday and I have a gazillion things to do before then. Should be finishing writing something now, but I am literally falling asleep at the computer. I need to find ways of working more efficiently so that I can sleep a bit more but still get things done. I can feel the tiredness and stress eating away at my resilience at the moment.

On the positive side, though, had a really good day at work today where I really saw the positive fruits of a year of really hard work (not only by me, but instigated by me, I suppose). That was gratifying. As was a truly fabulous school report for dd2. I do feel very very blessed.

Thinking of weegie and expat x