Christian prayer thread-spring time!

[blackeyedsusan]

All welcome to join

Here is a list of all those who popped in or were regulars on the last thread. I hope I have not missed anyone!!

Amberlight- prayer that the heart problems she has are temporary and that the beast cancer will not return. Pray for dh after his op.
Aspirantpirate -studying and a new job in September
Beatrice Primrose and cupoftea poorly baby and support for the family
Bluetinkerbell- lost her beloved Sterre during her second trimester. Now pregnant again!
Caz and her baby Xander. Also for dh who does not share her faith.
CaptainDippy- busy busy busy
Chairofthebored-dh has ms and ttc number1
Creatovator ds ?asd and dd?s eczema
Dutch Oma- dh has a lung disease requiring regular trips to hospital/drs and lots of rest. Church services are not always easy due to excessive noise causing problems for Bob.
Expat's dd suffering from leukaemia. Give thanks that she has a donor for transplant and pay for a good outcome!
FriendofDorothy- for a calm, successful pregnancy
Gingercurl- things are stressful at home, studying for PhD, high blood pressure
Issypeach- work situation insecure for h and Issy. Prayer requested for the dcs one of whom has gone awol and the other at uni
Jaffacakes... new baby
Jan marriage, new baby and ongoing health problems
Jugglingwith?-job applications to work 1 to 1 with children and a husband who needs to appreciate all she does!
Lostmywellies- recently returned to the uk, friendships for dd and ds to settle into nursery. Possible knee op?
LoveAndPrayers. Marriage and h?s debts
Madhairday- reoccuring lung infections, dd with psoriasis/partial hearing and unhelpful school and getting bullied. Madhair is writing a book! ?or at least she should be if she weren?t on mn?
MaryB- work and relationships at church. difficult situations socially for dc's. dd getting bullied.
Notevenamousie- curently undergoing treatment as an inpatient. recently lost her mum.
Patsyplusone welcome!
PositiveAttitude- soon to be working abroad for 2 years from 17th July!. Pray for dds1,2 and 3 staying behind. prayer also for current work situation and 3 jobs! (eek). Prayers for DB and PA?s family?s relationship with sil.
SESthebrave-prayer for husbands stressful job situation, which may involve going to Dubai (not what ses wants). The last few weeks of pregnancy and work. Pray for the baby to turn the right way round.
SophieNeveau - welcome! A single parent with a disability.
Springydaffs-prayer for the truth to be known and a reconciliation with family
SweetestThing- just got the all clear from cancer and officially in remission. however, still has to deal with the after effects of surgery.
Teaandcakesplease- single parent to 2 young children. unsupportive parents re ds "being a toddler." prayer for new reliable friends, and one friend in particular!
Tuo-dd1 and dh to be more positive about her faith
Weegie Thank God that treatment is bring some relief to her condition, chronic inflammatory.Demyelinating polyneuropathy. Ongoing prayers for more improvement and adjusting to a new way of life for both weegie and he dh dd has Perthe's syndrome , where the hip joint dies then regrows. Thank God for an improvement in her condition and further improvements so no op is needed.
welshcerys- family and a mega toothache
Wisteriawoman (phew, remembered this time!)
ZipidiSoozi- welcome back!
and finally (I hope)
Blackeyedsusan- mad as a hatter! single parent to 2 youngish children, separated after dv. pray for friends and a new church. ds's behaviour and toddler diarrhoea. dd, niggling health problems.

MHD, is there a head of some sort who can take up the bullying problem too? Heck - prayers.

Jan, I know the Bible says we must keep forgiving...but Jesus didn't stand in the Temple and just forgive the moneylenders. He got a whip and drove them out. I'm not saying you should go buy a whip, by the way . But buying stuff isn't the same as being properly sorry, otherwise we could get away with any amount of abusive behaviour as long as we buy someone something afterwards. If he can't break the cycle of negative behaviour, that's a serious problem.

And just to add to Amber's post, which I'm sure she would agree with: don't think all or even any of this is your fault. I'm sure you are doing your very best to get the best outcome, but I do get the impression that you have become very isolated from friends and family. That in itself is not good. You may of course think that this is what you want yourself, but do think about in how far this IS really what you want and in how far it has been brought on to you by the behaviour of your husband.

Quick answer to prayer today, the head and Y6 leader took it over and talked to dd and the other girl, for now it is sorted, feel like a weight is off my shoulders, dd completely exonerated too :) Thanks for prayers/

excellent MHD - thank you God!

continuing to pray for relationships.

Looks like our move will be delayed until after the weekend...means we will have to pay twice for removals - we will have to pay for the delay as we had booked them in good faith. If we complete by 12 tomorrow it can still go ahead. I'm veering between resigned and beside myself. House is in boxes, furniture taken apart ready to go...

Panda (One of my favourite animals BTW ) Maybe try to see it as a small glitch in the bigger picture - next week you should be in your new place. But I do feel for you as moving house is, literally, very unsettling.
Your prayers for others are much appreciated x

mhd Glad things better for your dd now

Let's all pray for Panda's completion by twelve o'clock tomorrow.
"Nothing it too difficult for Thee".

thanks DO - is exchange we need by 12 tomorrow, to complete (and therefore move) on Fri. I am so confused myself I have typed the wrong thing. I know God is bigger than our house move situation, and really, a delay is not the end of the world, but very frustrating when we have spent so much time, energy and mental energy getting to this point.

OK, exchange by 12 tomorrow. It's a long time since I worked in conveyancing.

I pray that you will exchange by 12 tomorrow and then complete and move on Friday.

thanks, I really appreciate the prayers. Am feeling calmer now too, have to hand the whole situation over to God.

prayed panda. there may be a eally good reason that you ae not completing. one that you can't see and may never see but that God haas good reasons for. even though it is still bloody irritating and I still want it now

well, I am back and have had an enormous piece of chocolate cake and things are looking brighter!
been to my mum and dad's and eveyone has been tetchy and I felt a few times that they forgot that I was a middleaged grown up and thought i was a teenager. ds has got clingier. he has come for a cuddle a few times today, normally he is quite happy to run round and play with Grandad and not that bothered about mummy.

trying to negotiate himself's birthday weekend as i have plans the weekend before and he has plans the weekend after. he is not seeing the difficulties with the logistics, just sees the 2 hours for a meal, not the 4 hours travelling in the car for the children, or the preparation and stuff that needs taking. the finding somewhere that dd can have something to eat as she has allergies. somewhere for the children to play as they will have spent 2 hours in the car and just want to run around and play not sit at a table. dh is more interested in the food and chatting usually and the childcare falls to me, so not thrilled at driving, so far in one day, stressful meal in a strange location and trying to entertain children who just want to run around. he seems to think that we can just stay at my parents fro his convenience, despite their bad health. it has not gone down well when I said no.

morning

and Gods mercies r new every morning.

praying for you Panda for today and the following days, thankful you have peace today. i have peace too and im sure a lot of it is down to prayer very thankful to praying people and God

BES people sometimes just don't think of the bigger picture and the ins and outs of everything do they! im sorry it didn't go well when you said no, only you know the right thing to do and you don't want the whole thing ending in tears, youre a great mum and doing the right thing. enjoy ds's cuddles :)

amber and dutch thankyou for your insight it is thought provoking and helping me gain perspective :)

today im going for dinner with family and meeting my cousins little baby - looking forward to seeing the baby

I'd have said no too BES. My kids (bar the allergy) would be exactly the same.

Blessings on all of you.

Prayers specifically for Panda's exchange, a good meeting for Jan

Pray also for me and Bob today, I've been ableat short notice to arrange a visit to his GP this morning. Pray that we will get some help with his breathing problems, again at short notice. Everything has been so painfully slow (visit to the Brompton on 6 February and the next one , with a different team on 6th May) and he is really struggling now.

Prayers DO, for both you and Bob

another row with dh this morning. i don't know how i can know its not all my fault. and when to call it a day...im so upset and confused, i just don't know how to keep going on. i know i am to blame for some things but not everything. i just can't have the arguing continually, constantly its so hard. i wish he wasn't going with us today it will be so hard to be me.

Jan, an 'abusive arguer' can make anything someone's fault, e.g. person A will say, "It's a nice sunny day today isn't it", and person B will respond with, "Who made you the weather forecaster/do you think I can't see what the weather is like/do you have nothing to do with your time other than look out the window?" etc. If you say something, it's wrong. If you say nothing, it's wrong. If you say the wrong thing, it's wrong. If you say the right thing, it's still wrong. And at all stages, you're made to feel like it's your fault for not being (something). True respectful love is about both people building each other up, not about point-scoring by either party.

Maybe sit down and work out how many building-up things he's said to you. how is he with friends - is he delighted that you have some and keen to see you engage with them and keen to hear about them too? What about your interests and hobbies - does he encourage them openly and honestly? What about your faith - does he support your spiritual life even if it doesn't align with his own? What about your family - does he manage to keep the peace there? Just ways to think about a relationship and what needs to go better...
More prayers.

I was married to an emotionally abusive man. It didn't help that sometimes he was nice to me, but I was on edge all of the time, because it felt like my happiness depended on what mood he was in. I'd also made vows of "for better for worse", which I took very seriously. In the end, I was fortunate that he took the decision away from me (and had an affair and left me - or rather made me leave unless I could pay the mortgage). Only you can say whether its worth saving, but I would seek ways of getting support in all of this, so that you don't feel it is all your fault (because it isn't). Prayers.

I'm so sorry that your DH is spoiling a day you were looking forward to jan

• I hope you can still feel that it will be nice to see everyone and meet the new baby ? I'm concerned you say "It will be so hard to be me"

My DH doesn't do too well on amber's list of desirable DH traits - mainly I'd like him to ask more about things I'm interested in/ share more with my friends and family - but I'm worried for you that your DH is even less encouraging.

Hope you can still have a good day with your family. Will be thinking of you - let us know how it goes ?

thanks for your replies.. and thinking of me. it seems its only the arguments. dh is very supportive of everything - but its all words. he is always full of words, but no action...when it comes down to it i can never go to things or do my hobbies usually because im so worn down by our arguments. he always says 'well theres nothing stopping you' eg going to this or that.
i think i might have to start making a book of what he says. the counsellor told us to put things behind us, not to bring up the past, and he says my problem was that i couldn't just forgive and forget, so i feel bad if i remember things he says does.
this morning, after he left, he knew i was very upset and rang me. i said i didn't want to talk now i was too upset (we have spoke to counsellor about this and him needing to give me emotional space when upset) well he phoned the house phone continually, 6 missed calls on my mobile so i turned it off. i answered the house phone in the end and he said either you talk to me or im coming home. i said by this your making me lose respect for you, i don't want to talk now, he said i want to help you and sort this out now. i said not now and hung up as i was so upset.... turned my mobile on and there is a text saying either pick up or im coming home from work im on my way home. so i ended up going out - i put a jumper over my pj's and left, got a take away coffee, came back, and he isn't here! as if we had had a confrontation it would have ended badly - i know this from experience.
im dreading when he comes back at lunch. ive settled myself now, but im so drained!

hi Jan. I hope that you have a lovely time with baby despite tensions this morning.

Oh, Jan. Sounds awful. If he really wants to help you like he said then listening and respecting what you say would be a start. Seems to me he's on transmit. I a bit at the sound of the counsellor, tbh. I really don't think that you can forgive and forget while the hurt is still there and that will not go away until it has been addressed. Praying. Is your family aware of your problems? (Sorry you may have said on the earlier thread)

i am so confused and don't really know where to turn. family know we have problems as i have ended up staying with them a few times, but they do not know the extent and i don't like telling them as the last time i texted mum to say i was upset dad said later that mum was really anxious and worried all that day.
i feel so confused. so tired fighting about whose fault it all is... like this morning the final straw was something didn't get done cos each assumed the other was doing it, yet i got the whole blame and he kept going on at me - so i was defending myself but he said later he was going on and on at me cos i hadn't taken my part of the blame - i actually wan't denying it, i just saw it as both our faults but i was defending my case as he was attacking me. stuff like this - makes my confidence low,makes me doubt myself - what if it is all my fault - what if he's just a normal guy and its me whose causing all the problems...i know in my heart he is condesending but deep down his heart is in the right place, i am just so lost and confused.

Hi jan - I understand that you don't want to worry your family but maybe sharing a bit more with them might give you some of the support you need ATM?

Feel like your Mum should be a bit worried about your relationship with DH and it would have been better if your Dad had asked you more about how things are for you rather than telling you how worried your Mum had been !

Perhaps you could share a little bit more with them when you see them later today - though I know you're going with DH too so I guess that makes it more tricky ?

If you can't share how things are with your parents is there anyone else you could lean on ? If all else fails there's always us ! We're all thinking of you today

thanks so much, it means an awful lot. :) dh on his way home, trusting the Lord