Christian prayer thread-spring time!

[blackeyedsusan]

All welcome to join

Here is a list of all those who popped in or were regulars on the last thread. I hope I have not missed anyone!!

Amberlight- prayer that the heart problems she has are temporary and that the beast cancer will not return. Pray for dh after his op.
Aspirantpirate -studying and a new job in September
Beatrice Primrose and cupoftea poorly baby and support for the family
Bluetinkerbell- lost her beloved Sterre during her second trimester. Now pregnant again!
Caz and her baby Xander. Also for dh who does not share her faith.
CaptainDippy- busy busy busy
Chairofthebored-dh has ms and ttc number1
Creatovator ds ?asd and dd?s eczema
Dutch Oma- dh has a lung disease requiring regular trips to hospital/drs and lots of rest. Church services are not always easy due to excessive noise causing problems for Bob.
Expat's dd suffering from leukaemia. Give thanks that she has a donor for transplant and pay for a good outcome!
FriendofDorothy- for a calm, successful pregnancy
Gingercurl- things are stressful at home, studying for PhD, high blood pressure
Issypeach- work situation insecure for h and Issy. Prayer requested for the dcs one of whom has gone awol and the other at uni
Jaffacakes... new baby
Jan marriage, new baby and ongoing health problems
Jugglingwith?-job applications to work 1 to 1 with children and a husband who needs to appreciate all she does!
Lostmywellies- recently returned to the uk, friendships for dd and ds to settle into nursery. Possible knee op?
LoveAndPrayers. Marriage and h?s debts
Madhairday- reoccuring lung infections, dd with psoriasis/partial hearing and unhelpful school and getting bullied. Madhair is writing a book! ?or at least she should be if she weren?t on mn?
MaryB- work and relationships at church. difficult situations socially for dc's. dd getting bullied.
Notevenamousie- curently undergoing treatment as an inpatient. recently lost her mum.
Patsyplusone welcome!
PositiveAttitude- soon to be working abroad for 2 years from 17th July!. Pray for dds1,2 and 3 staying behind. prayer also for current work situation and 3 jobs! (eek). Prayers for DB and PA?s family?s relationship with sil.
SESthebrave-prayer for husbands stressful job situation, which may involve going to Dubai (not what ses wants). The last few weeks of pregnancy and work. Pray for the baby to turn the right way round.
SophieNeveau - welcome! A single parent with a disability.
Springydaffs-prayer for the truth to be known and a reconciliation with family
SweetestThing- just got the all clear from cancer and officially in remission. however, still has to deal with the after effects of surgery.
Teaandcakesplease- single parent to 2 young children. unsupportive parents re ds "being a toddler." prayer for new reliable friends, and one friend in particular!
Tuo-dd1 and dh to be more positive about her faith
Weegie Thank God that treatment is bring some relief to her condition, chronic inflammatory.Demyelinating polyneuropathy. Ongoing prayers for more improvement and adjusting to a new way of life for both weegie and he dh dd has Perthe's syndrome , where the hip joint dies then regrows. Thank God for an improvement in her condition and further improvements so no op is needed.
welshcerys- family and a mega toothache
Wisteriawoman (phew, remembered this time!)
ZipidiSoozi- welcome back!
and finally (I hope)
Blackeyedsusan- mad as a hatter! single parent to 2 youngish children, separated after dv. pray for friends and a new church. ds's behaviour and toddler diarrhoea. dd, niggling health problems.

Praying for weegie, and jan and bes.

Please pray for me today (and tomorrow) 2 consultant appts and I am scared

eek becaroooo hope it is not too scary.

Thanks BES.

Been a long time coming tbh...have had lots of health probs since the birth of ds2 (3.5) I keep telling dh that ds2 "broke me"!

Just hope they can help me. Its not been mcuh fun

Hi just off to work butwould be really grateful for prayers for my firend's elderly, very sick father. Can't give her name as it would out me but thanks in advance.

Lost the thread for some reason and have just caught up. Sorry jan, didn't catch up with you yesterday, glad the interview went as well as could be expected.

We didn't have a very good day yesterday, Bob felt awful without being to say 'awful in what way' iyswim. He was in bed more than he was up.
At the end of the afternoon an 'old' neighbour dropped in, which was very nice, but dinner was a struggle and so was the rest of the evening. We're just up now and he's had a good night, I was awake at 5.20 and I'm supposed to be in the shop today.
Our GP has written a letter to the Brompton which was a very good letter, but although I think we might get an answer before Christmas, I would be very surprised if we heard before our appointment on the 1st May. But we shall see.
Relying on God alone takes on a whole new meaning when the medical profession lets you down en bloc.

Prayers for all.

Much prayer for everyone

Picking up DH from station in half hour - after his trip to Australia.
Hopefully we will have a happy day - DS looking forward to DH picking him up from school.
But prayers appreciated as we all adjust to changes - even if they are good ones
Prayers for everyone else from me x

Jan - I've been mulling this over and decided to post, just incase it is helpful. I think every relationship goes through lots of gear changes with the birth of a baby, particularly a first baby. Before I had DS1 I was a professional working full time but when I was on maternity leave I felt a real loss of identity. I didn't know exactly where I stood if you know what I mean. I wasn't a professional any more and was very much a novice mummy. DH and I were used to being equal partners but I felt as though I was sliding into a 1950's style relationship where he wore the trousers in every sense. It was as though because I wasn't earning money I felt as though I had a lower status. Ridiculous I know. Anyway, when I went back to work I started to feel much better about myself and the old me returned. I read a book recently which explored these themes - it's called In My Mother's Shoes and I found it really good. It explores a lot of the changes that come with kids in marriages and society in general.

after negotiation, ds hs gone to school in pants for the first time. he is still wearing tights though. changing his routine clothes is a mega deal for ds.

he still has the toddler diarrhoea. I need to get him to poo in the potty.

Jan, I know it's not mumsnetiquette to repeat what has been said in posts, but taking what you've remembered in the last few days, it reads,

"I said I didn't want to talk now i was too upset (we have spoke to counsellor about this and him needing to give me emotional space when upset) well he phoned the house phone continually, 6 missed calls on my mobile so i turned it off. i answered the house phone in the end and he said either you talk to me or im coming home. .... turned my mobile on and there is a text saying either pick up or im coming home from work im on my way home?. as if we had had a confrontation it would have ended badly - i know this from experience. im dreading when he comes back at lunch. ive settled myself now, but im so drained!?family know we have problems as i have ended up staying with them a few times, but they do not know the extent ?this morning the final straw was something didn't get done cos each assumed the other was doing it, yet i got the whole blame and he kept going on at me - so i was defending myself but he said later he was going on and on at me cos i hadn't taken my part of the blame - i actually wan't denying it, i just saw it as both our faults but i was defending my case as he was attacking me. stuff like this - makes my confidence low,makes me doubt myself - what if it is all my fault??.. Having awful day with dh here,.. started bad and has got worse as the day went on... not ideal as i was to be preparing for my interview tomorrow?..dh has been really nice today, saying i love you lots, saying sorry (sorry BUT you shouldn't cry over small things as it frustrates me etc etc )?. i am breaking down every couple of days and cannot go on unless things change..."

From my professional point of view on what you're writing (not that I'm here as a professional), whatever this relationship is, I'm finding it hard to see it as your fault for not being strong enough. I think you're taking enormous strength and courage to keep going in a situation so bad that you've had to leave it a number of times already to recover. More prayers for you.

and prayers anew for everyone else too - for appointments, for health concerns, for those days when you wake up and think 'oh heck'...

just jumping in....

I've just found that a FB friend of mine lost her baby at 3 days old.
:(
(she's deactivated her account, so I've only just heard)
Can I ask you to raise baby chick in your payers please?
i'm heartbroken for her.

thanks.

oh nickel - praying :(

Lost - praying for stength and healing for you.

DO - praying that Bob will have a better day and the Brompton will get its act together.

Jan - amber is very wise. I don't have words but am praying for you and behind you.

praying for all as I have read through. I am coping ok with dh away though lungs being very naughty and was up half the night in pain. Better this morning, have a busy evening with the dc and again tomorrow....think it might be the chip shop tonight.

Oh mhd praying for you with your DH away. I found it tough with DH away and will be thinking of you. I'm so sorry you were up half the night with painful lungs Some of you on this thread are so courageous I am in awe of your strength. Praying you will have a better night tonight.

So sorry too to hear of dear baby chick That is so heart-breakingly sad

a four yeear old at school is not expected to sit for longer than 10 minutes o so. they have lots of activities to choose from , and hen expected to worrk with the teacher, theyy are usually given something interesting to do. In year one, when most children are 5 turning 6 there is a gradual build up to sitting for 20 -30 minutes at an activity. there is still a fair proportion of play and a lot of the activities are still practical. expecting a four year old to sit quietly for an hour is unrealistic. (early years teacher) I suspect that those people wo do not have childen who can sit for that long just don't go if there is no provision for them, especially if they are made to feel unwelcome.

oops, wrong thread, how did that happen?

Lol BES. I agree. What thread is it

Is it the church one in AIBU? YANBU

reading and praying

really lost for words at the support ive been given on here - it means a lot and thank you. just to say im carefully reading the posts and advice given - haven't much time to reply baby is quite clingy and as cold hopefully will be ableto soon

Prayers as I read through...

Jan - I really feel for you and am a bit lost as to what to say / advise. I am in total agreement with the fact that the first year post birth of DC1 is really tough on the majority of relationships. I know I felt quite isolated from DH at times and he found it hard to adapt to the baby needing me so much. As DS grew and became more capable of interacting with DH and playing with him, it became easier.
Having said that, your DH really needs to acknowledge that some of his behaviour is unhelpful to say the least and that if he says sorry, then that means he regrets what he said /did and intends to never repeat what he said / did.
Sorry... Having said I didn't know what to say, I've rambled...

Nickel - hello! Prayers for your friend and chick :(

Prayers too for MHD , DO, BES, Juggling, stickyj, Becaroooo, weegie and all others in need.

Had my scan this afternoon. Baby is head down which is good but still oblique lie and head off to one side. Still plenty of time for it to move and I have consultant appointment next Tuesday so have to wait and see if he gives me the go ahead for a VBAC.

Just went to post a letter and on the way back I was singing the Taize song "Oh, Lord hear my prayer. When I call, answer me" and thinking of all of you.

So, just thought you might like to hear that - the Taize songs are so lovely and peaceful aren't they ? - and know that I am praying for you all even if I can't always put it all into words. But anyway, not just saying I will but doing so !

Often pray as I read too.

Glad to see your baby seems to be getting the right idea SES !

got a cold and feeling a bit grim. i wish i could go to bed and leave someone else to deal with tea and bed...

"Oh, Lord hear my prayer, Oh Lord hear my prayer. Come and listen to me ..."

Prayers and thoughts for you bes

nickel

madhair... I saw you wade in, Mary too. there were an awful lot of people telling the op to make her child behave in a way that is not normal for most 4 year olds.

thank you to you all who gave your experiences and advice its been very helpful and for links too - ive been reading a lot of the information, busy day here...

in answer to some questions, i do think dh is under stress, and he was depressed awhile back although he point blank refuses medication - he was seeing a counsellor for awhile though for 6 weeks which has stopped and he has no time to go back right now.

about it being the year after the baby - i know this is contrary to most stories, but for me personally, the baby has been the best thing for me, she has lifted me, i was in a rut and God just gave her to me at the right time and she was what i needed. i feel ive adjusted really well to motherhood, i do find it hard at times and need space at times, but i don't think its that that has put the strain on the marriage- the counsellor even pointed out that our problems are not to do with the baby - our problems were there before the baby (although yes it has added to stress at times for example who is the most tired or when i need a break etc) but i won't underestimate the effect hormones and lack of sleep and the lack of support from dh can have on me.

i actually don't feel that he is out to cause me harm. honestly - i think a lot of the time he is unaware that what he is doing and saying is so hurtful and disrespectful until i have pointed it out a good few days later. for example he told me i shouldn't cry about the small stuff, he accuses me of being too emotional, to 'wrap it up' etc. he still believes he has right to say this the next day. but today, he knew i was still upset at whats happened, and he said 'im here if you want to talk about it' and i replied 'yeah, as long as theres no crying involved'. and he got it. he apologised. its constant criticism and comments, but he really doesn't see it as an issue and then accuses me of being over sensitive. then when he understands that it was the wrong thing to do (if he finally understands) then he will apologise later.

but the problem is the same patterns keep repeating, there is promise of change but no change, for example him going on in my face while im cryng and anxious, which leads me to leave the house often in a panicked state. he knows this is wrong, but keeps doing it.
at the minute i feel my options are to go to my mums in a few weeks (she has visitors) and stay there for a few months. this will cause havoc in my life - as she doesn't live local to all my friends/activities/life. or to try to make him realise and change - by keeping telling him what he is doing, bringing it up in counselling what impact he is having on my life etc, and another option to ask him to leave for awhile and if he won't see if theres anything a solicitor can do (just off the phone to WA who were helpful)

we have marriage counselling tomorrow morning.