Christian prayer thread-spring time!

[blackeyedsusan]

All welcome to join

Here is a list of all those who popped in or were regulars on the last thread. I hope I have not missed anyone!!

Amberlight- prayer that the heart problems she has are temporary and that the beast cancer will not return. Pray for dh after his op.
Aspirantpirate -studying and a new job in September
Beatrice Primrose and cupoftea poorly baby and support for the family
Bluetinkerbell- lost her beloved Sterre during her second trimester. Now pregnant again!
Caz and her baby Xander. Also for dh who does not share her faith.
CaptainDippy- busy busy busy
Chairofthebored-dh has ms and ttc number1
Creatovator ds ?asd and dd?s eczema
Dutch Oma- dh has a lung disease requiring regular trips to hospital/drs and lots of rest. Church services are not always easy due to excessive noise causing problems for Bob.
Expat's dd suffering from leukaemia. Give thanks that she has a donor for transplant and pay for a good outcome!
FriendofDorothy- for a calm, successful pregnancy
Gingercurl- things are stressful at home, studying for PhD, high blood pressure
Issypeach- work situation insecure for h and Issy. Prayer requested for the dcs one of whom has gone awol and the other at uni
Jaffacakes... new baby
Jan marriage, new baby and ongoing health problems
Jugglingwith?-job applications to work 1 to 1 with children and a husband who needs to appreciate all she does!
Lostmywellies- recently returned to the uk, friendships for dd and ds to settle into nursery. Possible knee op?
LoveAndPrayers. Marriage and h?s debts
Madhairday- reoccuring lung infections, dd with psoriasis/partial hearing and unhelpful school and getting bullied. Madhair is writing a book! ?or at least she should be if she weren?t on mn?
MaryB- work and relationships at church. difficult situations socially for dc's. dd getting bullied.
Notevenamousie- curently undergoing treatment as an inpatient. recently lost her mum.
Patsyplusone welcome!
PositiveAttitude- soon to be working abroad for 2 years from 17th July!. Pray for dds1,2 and 3 staying behind. prayer also for current work situation and 3 jobs! (eek). Prayers for DB and PA?s family?s relationship with sil.
SESthebrave-prayer for husbands stressful job situation, which may involve going to Dubai (not what ses wants). The last few weeks of pregnancy and work. Pray for the baby to turn the right way round.
SophieNeveau - welcome! A single parent with a disability.
Springydaffs-prayer for the truth to be known and a reconciliation with family
SweetestThing- just got the all clear from cancer and officially in remission. however, still has to deal with the after effects of surgery.
Teaandcakesplease- single parent to 2 young children. unsupportive parents re ds "being a toddler." prayer for new reliable friends, and one friend in particular!
Tuo-dd1 and dh to be more positive about her faith
Weegie Thank God that treatment is bring some relief to her condition, chronic inflammatory.Demyelinating polyneuropathy. Ongoing prayers for more improvement and adjusting to a new way of life for both weegie and he dh dd has Perthe's syndrome , where the hip joint dies then regrows. Thank God for an improvement in her condition and further improvements so no op is needed.
welshcerys- family and a mega toothache
Wisteriawoman (phew, remembered this time!)
ZipidiSoozi- welcome back!
and finally (I hope)
Blackeyedsusan- mad as a hatter! single parent to 2 youngish children, separated after dv. pray for friends and a new church. ds's behaviour and toddler diarrhoea. dd, niggling health problems.

Jan - prayers for tomorrow's counselling and some clarity for you on the best way forward.

Juggling - I enjoy Taize chants as well. They kind of stop my mind wandering so much when I'm trying to pray.

BES - Prayers that you get some decent sleep tonight and feel better in the morning.

Prayers said as I ave read through.

Nickel prayers for your friend.

Jan prayers for tomorrow morning and for you to have a clear guidance as to the way forward for you.

Juggling Love that taize chant and cant stop n now ringing through my brain. Thank you!

DO prayers for you and Bob continuing.

A thanks prayer from me today. DD3 has passed her driving test on her second attempt. This is absolutely brilliant as she has been basically housebound for 4 years with illness and this will give her so much independence and hopefully a new lease of life.
Can I ask for prayers for DD1, who is very wobbly about us leaving her and her future here. She is very unhappy. We have told her she can come with us if she wants to, not sure if she will or not, though. Please pray that she makes the right decision for her and that she can find happiness in her life.

just because he seems not to be aware that what he is doing and saying is hurtful, does not make it less hurtful.

try and get an early night (baby allowing) so that you are at your best tomorrow and you can think clearly and listen to what he is saying.

(below is a long waffle on things you might want to consider.. ignore if not helpful I am the sort of person who likes to weigh these things up carefully ( and then runs off in a panic and forgets to pack any knickers in the ofrs )
would spelling it out clearly to him help? h was supposed to leave the situation when he was getting angry, understood that but did not put into practice, more fool him. However, knowing what they are supposed to do is not the same as them actually doing it. is he making any progress towards treating you better?

has he implemented anything the counsellor has suggested successfully fairly consistently?

what is his attitude like and his throw away comments. they can tell you what he really thinks. (you don't have to say here of course!)

does he show appreciation for what you do with baby or is his attitude, well it is you job so what is the big deal? does the lack of help at night get compensated for in other ways? does he do any child care or housework? does he take responsibility for his stuff? his mess? any of the stereotyped male jobs? (bins, mowing the lawn, sorting the car) ie what does he bring to the family

what do you think living apart would change? how would you feel and why? eg if you think it is a failure on your part, where have you got that idea from and would it be a fair representation? (eg someone frorm church past may have emphasised staying married whatever...but do you think they would approve of the way you are treated?) (eg: my Mum and dad are married for life sort of people, but they do not approve of the way i have been treated so the maried for life would not apply in these circumstances so me feeling guilty about letting down their standards need not apply in these circumstances either) (always a bit more tricky in circumstances that are not black and white)

perhaps I should just have put "what amber said"

Thanks for prayers for me. I was able to have a half-hour nap at lunchtime despite having 2 dcs at home - praise God!

Antibiotics not really having any effect as yet, but hey. It could be a lot lot worse. :)

Praying as ever.

I go into hospital in the morning for 2 days of IV treatment ( intravenous immunoglobulins, or IVIg) which last time really helped.

Nervous! What if it doesn't help this time? The numbness has spread to my hips/groin/perineum. You should be able to imagine the effects of numbness there - from a toileting and marital pov! I'm really praying for recovery there!!

Will update from hospital!

positive well done on your dds driving test no better feeling than passing!

weegie, much prayer...may God go with you and be your comfort and give wisdom to all who are working with you, i pray His holy spirit comes down and fills every part of you.

BES thank you for your thoughts. they are very helpful. that is what i keep saying to him, that just cos he doesn't mean it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. (he is forever saying things and then saying oh i didn't mean that i meant something else, you took me up the wrong way) to his credit, he has implemented a couple of things the counsellor said, well he did at the start i think we are just out of practise now. he was supposed to be respecting my space when he was angry and we were discussing and i couldn't talk about it anymore. but it has gone backwards....he is back to going on in my face, following me and driving me out of the house cos i get so anxious and upset.

when he is in this angry/arguing/frustrated mood, his throw away comments are just awful. when he's not, he' actually really really nice. saying i love you all the time, etc etc he doesn't do much housework but if i ask him at the right time he will help. he does assume everything to do with baby is my job but does take her now and again if i ask. (i guess all this is like most men though) the girl from WA said from what she thought i was being very kind to him but he still sounded he was trying to control/manipulate me.

i might tell them i am reaching my limits over and over and am thinking what to do, today in counselling. i will tell them its affecting my health etc, and that i am losing hope for change because all this has been happening for a long time and theres been no real change, so whats it going to take? and see what happens.

im so sorry for hijacking this thread. but thank you for listening, thank you for support, thank you for people of God who care. i can't get to church much so your support at this time means so much.

(he is forever saying things and then saying oh i didn't mean that i meant something else, you took me up the wrong way)

to his credit, he has implemented a couple of things the counsellor said, well he did at the start i think we are just out of practise now.

he does assume everything to do with baby is my job

he doesn't do much housework but if i ask him at the right time he will help

oh dear.

1. blaming you for things he said.

1. is he doing enough, or just enough to make you think he will change/not doing much because he can't change? Change needs to be real change, consistent, significant.

3 it is his child too. while you may do most whilst on maternity leave, he should be doing stuff too.

1. it is his house, he lives there and he is responsible for running it too. he is not helping you. he is a partner (supposedly) and has equal responsibility for getting things done. ask yourself if there have been other rows about you not doing stuff that you both could have done. what has been his attitude in those rows?

again, for you to think about not necessarily post here!

"if I ask him at the right time he will help"

"he assumes everything to do with the baby is my job"

Oh dear. These are real red flags for me jan

A man who doesnt help with his child(ren) is not a father, he is a sperm donor IMHO. My BIL is the same. I am so sorry you are through this I am thinking of you x

So. I have to have an MRI on my back. Not unexpected. Another appt today with the gynae which I am FAR more worried about.

nickel and weegie Praying for you and your friend x

well, she had the uniform on and I was doing her hair hen she cried because it hurt her head and hurt her throat/glands when I touched her neck. uniform off, phonecall and a day in the dry. she was probably too poorly to go yesterday too, feel guilty when i send her and guilty when I don't. feell that I am being judged , especially as it is a rainy day today.

weegie and becaroooo, Hope the hospital visits go ok....

Hope she feels better soon BES - don't feel guilty and don't worry about what others think - you know you're doing the right thing.

Praying for weegie and becaroo at your hospital appoiintments.

Jan - gosh, yes, these things worry me too, that he assumes you should do everything for the baby....:( Praying.

Praying for Bob - how is he today?

Thanks to God for PA's dd passing her driving test, and prayers for dd1 in decision making.

Feeling rubbish today in lungs, just did school run in pouring rain and feel like I've been run over, chest so tight. aim to rest today, was going to bible study but it's too much, will saty here and MN work on some writing.

Much prayer for everyone - Weegie, huge prayers for you today - that stuff better do its job, grr....have they got you on major Vit B injections too? Guess they must have?

Hurrah re the passing of the driving test for DD3, PA!
Becaroo, hope all goes ok with the appointment and MRI - eek!

Jan, someone who is getting into your personal space and shouting and ranting is choosing to do that. It's a terrifying thing for a man to do to his lady wife. Can you imagine him doing that to his boss/to some big strong man he respects? Neither can I. So it's a choice, not a 3 yr old who has no clue what they're doing. I'm afraid abusive individuals tell the most awful lies about how hard they are 'trying' not to do things like that, when patently they manage to behave perfectly normally with almost everyone else. And I'm afraid they do indeed apologise and stop it for a little while - only to do it again and again and again - because otherwise you'd leave and the fun stops for them I haven't met either of you so I am generalising, but I'm saying that your other half's behaviour is following a standard pattern that just happens to be the same as that of an abusive partner. Very glad you've spoken with WA.

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hope your typing is better than ds's....

Jan, praying that you will get clarity in your counselling this morning.

Hope you can have a good morning at home mhd - I've just made another myself and will be keeping warm and dry here out of the rain after the school run. Fancy a Foxes ginger crunch ? Think I might have been subliminally influenced by DS doing an impersonation of the panda telling people to buy his bis-cu-its. Anyone seen that ?

Now that's what you call going off on tangents or a hi-jack not anything you've posted jan We're all here for you and to support each other on this thread. That is the idea, right bes ? Hope counseling goes well today jan - think telling them what you posted sounds like a really good idea and see where you go from there.

Prayers and thoughts with all, especially for all health challenges and concerns x

Thank you for your comments about DDs Jan, MHD & Amber

Jan prayers for you today at your counselling meeting. Please say what you really think in this safe environment.

MHD (((hugs))) to you. I think it is very wise to have a duvet day and ignore the horrible weather outside. Prayers that you will relax and feel better by school home time.

Weegie - prayers for successful treatment today

Becarooo - prayers for your appointment, too.

With everyone else's problems and prayer requests on here I feel embarrassed to ask for prayers for myself, but if anyone has a spare one, I could do with it here. I am feeling so snowed under with everything. Its a really busy time of year anyway, being the end of financial year which has a huge impact on all 3 jobs, which could all be full time at this time of year! Also I have very stupidly ended up doing another 2 sets of accounts for the end of year. - not to mention my own self-employed business accounts! I am getting there, but with all the move and plans that need my undivided attention it is all seeming like a huge amount at the moment. Thank you.

oh! and I am hoping to go to the church AGM tonight....where they hand out jobs for the coming year.

If I am asked please let me make the right decision and use my talents (such as they are!) to the betterment of our congregation and community

Thank you for the kind thoughts and prayers! goodness knows I need them atm!

So pleased to hear about DD3 passing her driving test and the new independence this can bring her PA. That's wonderful !
Am in awe of all you take on PA - possibly a bit too much sometimes ? I don't suppose there;s any way you could delegate or pass on to someone else either of those extra two sets of accounts you've taken on ?
And you're moving house too ? (Is that right ?)

Becaroooo - hope the meeting goes well tonight, and your hospital appt too x

Weegie - thinking of you today too. Hope treatment goes really well x

Praying.

Nickel - how very, very sad.

Prayers for all.

I keep wanting to cry for them.
they got married earlier this year, too, so she'll see that baby every time she looks at the wedding photos.
:(
thank you all for praying for them :)

oh nickel :( continuing to pray.

PA, I will pray for you, what a lot you have on, sounds like you need to say some 'no's' to people....I too find this hard

PA finds it impossible to say 'no', although she could have had plenty of practice .
We are having a bother again with the surgery: I asked our epilepsy specialist whether it was possible to have the five huge tablets Bob takes every day replaced by a liquid.
"Certainly, I will fax your GP." I e.mail the GP as well. No reply. No prescription. Phone again this morning, yes prescription has gone to the doctor, ring back this afternoon to see if it has been done. If it doesn't get done today or tomorrow he will be on tablets for another week.
Bob has a blood test this morning (the one he couldn't possibly have last week), I ask about the prescription. Yes, it has gone to the GP this morning but it's all in tablets. How grrr is that? I left it with the receptionist who was lovely, this morning I got the 'work experience' youngster. It all makes for so much extra stress. And upsets Bob, who knows how tired I am.

Oh DO :( It's so stressful when you have to fight for things when Bob is so ill - shouldn't have to be that way. Some of these 'gatekeeper' doctors receptionists are such hard work, and trying to get through them is so difficult - much sympathy and hugs your way.

DO, prayers for a quick set of answers...and for rest for you...
More prayers for everyone else.

Here, news that a much loved Uncle of mine is very ill in hospital and it's not sure if he'll be ok. There's not much left of our family so this has hit me quite hard