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Am fuming probably should be in aibu but

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 20:58

Next door caused that much fuss about our puppy last year climbing through the fence and doing his business in their garden and more to the point refusing to fix the shared fence so he couldn't do it, that we rehomed him.
It wasn't the only reason by far but if he'd been able to play in the garden plenty of other issues would have been easier to live with to say the least.
Well they have just informed me they are getting a new dog, not just that but one that grows to 68kg's and poo's like an elephant.
Am so cross they are either going to fix the fence when it suits them to have an animal or think that they are going to inflict the dog on us when our children had to loose theirs

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 14:08

I hope they can afford to keep the dog bronze, god help us if it's ill and hungry and that bloody big.
Lets just say from what we've seen so far of how they look after the house and garden, neither are a priority.
They live very much hand to mouth, as we all do right now.

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MrsL123 · 17/04/2010 14:10

So why all this bollocks about the neighbours forcing you into rehoming him? Even if the fence had been OK, you still would've got rid of him.

What did you tell your DD was the reason for rehoming him? Did you blame it on the dog-hating neighbours, and now they've gone and ruined your story by getting themselves a puppy? Is that why you're so annoyed, because now you'll have to admit you really just hated him? Because quite honestly I can't see why else you'd be so annoyed about this situation.

WynkenBlynkenandNod · 17/04/2010 14:10

Look, if it comes into your garden then you are entitled to get stroppy. They ard still probably really hacked off with you for getting a dog when you couldn't afford to keep it out of their garden which was totally your responsibility. I wouldn't want to discuss what I was going to do on my side to keep my new puppy in after that episode.

It was quite clear from your other thread that getting rid was about do much more than the garden. If you had spent time researching Labradoodles you would have known that there ard no guarantees re their coat, that they are pretty intelligent and need a lot of stimulation, plus regular but limited exercise. All this info is out there and easily available. They are hard
work, I have a 10 month old one and she is a handful but calming down. You failed to do your research, got one when you couldn't secure your garden, it is not your neighbour's fault.

Now you feel guilty as your failure meant your DD lost her pet. Don't make your neighbour a scapegoat for your failure, you have no idea what plans they have and why should their children be denied the chance to grow up with a dog just because you messed up?

If thei dog ends up in your garden then is the time go do something but don't expect them to fail at it just because you did.

differentnameforthis · 17/04/2010 14:12

It doesn't matter why/when/how/whatever that they wanted a dog. So what....I want a Merc, but that ain't gunna happen! I want huge house, that might not happen!

OK, so he wanted a dog, but it doesn't always follow that he would get it! Or they could have moved before they bought one...whichever the case, you wanted them to fix your problem, which was keeping YOUR dog in YOUR garden.

You can't ask people to throw money at a problem 'just in case they get a dog in the future' if it isn't there responsibility!

That is unreasonable. Just as it would be if they now expect the same as you!

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 14:16

It could have been resolved differently and with everyone happy that's all I'm saying and it's a shame.

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rainbowinthesky · 17/04/2010 14:17

Can you imagine how they would have felt had they contributed to teh cost of keeping your dog out of their garden and you got rid anway. THey must have thought thank fuck we didnt pay 2 grand for a fence when they got rid of the dog anyway.

GypsyMoth · 17/04/2010 14:18

well we're all struggling mmm,but no need to be so judgy and nasty about them!

they obviously feel they can afford a dog.

if your husband is unemployed then maybe he could have looked after your dog better?

differentnameforthis · 17/04/2010 14:20

It is only a shame if you wanted to keep your dog & re-homed him under duress.

If I were your neighbour I would be making doubly sure that my dog never entered your garden just to prove to you that dogs can be contained.

Believe me, they will busting their balls to prove this to you!

And what's the deal with bringing their income into it? What's that got to do with you or us?

Sounds like you are no wanting us to be against them for getting a dog that you perceive they cannot afford.

VinegarTits · 17/04/2010 14:21

well i dont blame your neighbours if they dont sort out the fence, you didnt sort it out at their request, when you had a dog, you left it broken and let your mutt shit in their garden

Karma has got you good style love

Fliight · 17/04/2010 14:21

I think, Milly, that you need to wait and see.

You acted irresponsibly and unfairly in the first place by expecting them to contribute to containing an animal you bought. It's not a matter of whose fence it is. This is specialist animal containment and the animal owner's responsibility entirely - I'd bet at least 80% of boundaries in this country wouldn't contain a largeish dog.

So whose it is is not really the point.
Containing it IS the point.

So, we;ve dealt with what you did. And yes, the dog went, and problem solved.

Your neighbours however also need to be aware of their previous behaviour in terms of the fact they threatened you when your dog got into theirs, and now if their dog gets into yours, they can expect to be on the receiving end of the same.

My feeling is that they will take measures to ensure this does not happen. But if they don't, i suppose your only and best option is to share the cost of a fence.

If their dog actually causes damage to your property of course you may have a case against them, to make them pay for containment for it. But until that happens just see what they do.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 17/04/2010 14:23

Sorry, MMM, but reading your posts and your previous thread, I cannot believe that if only your nasty neighbours had coughed up £1000 for a fence, you and your ex-dog would be living happily ever after, waving cheerily at them and their new dog over your amazing fence!

More likely scenario would be that, left out in the garden, your ex-dog would have gotten bored and dug under said fence OR (worse) chewed it and damaged it, causing much angst to neighbour who has spent £1000 on said fence and leading to even greater hostilities

You would have rehomed the dog anyway, but at least your vvv expensive fence would have meant you and your neighbour wouldn't have to look at one another

FlorenceDaphne · 17/04/2010 14:28

No, MMM, it couldn't have been resolved so that everyone was happy. Your other thread stated quite clearly that, in your own words, you "hated" the dog and couln't wait to get rid. I have two dogs, a large (well-enclosed!) garden, and do you know what? They still put mud and hairs everywhere!

God, this thread is like crack. I want to give up, but I just keep on coming back...

ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 17/04/2010 14:29

Threads like this make me want to chew off my own arm

whifflegarden · 17/04/2010 14:30

"Which is why I am worrying that more of the same will on top of a newborn will probably send me to the funny farm or to throttle the neighbours"

You're at thev funny farm already OP

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 14:32

I don't care what they can and can't afford my point was that neither of us have £2k for a fence. We haven't and I know they haven't either that's the pint of mentioning their income and our lack of.

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GinSlinger · 17/04/2010 14:33

yes this is all very interesting, but what flavour of icecream does the dog want?

WynkenBlynkenandNod · 17/04/2010 14:34

I think MMM is being a complete wind up merchant. I keep coming across threads along similar lines from her which deliberately get everyone going and I'm pretty sure the same happened in a previous identity. I never usually say things like this but this is getting very predictable and tedious now.

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 14:35

Oh well do give up I know I have.

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GypsyMoth · 17/04/2010 14:36

wynken.....agree!! have seen this posters stuff before too...

FlorenceDaphne · 17/04/2010 14:38

WynkenBlynkenandNod Yes, I completely concur! I don't think that people really are this stupid. Or are they? (worries for the state of mankind).

OH MY GOD. People like this get to VOTE!

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 14:42

Well um glad my life is such a joke and source of entertainment to you all.

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Vallhala · 17/04/2010 14:45

"if it comes in my garden I shall walk it straight to the local pound".

Well that shows how responsible and caring you are, doesn't it?

Nice.

Never before have I disliked a poster quite so much.

rainbowinthesky · 17/04/2010 14:51

Didnt the op also say on a previous thread that she sent a solicitors letter to her neighbours as they had poured a bucket of warm water on her dog after it had escaped into their garden.
Do you really have to wonder why your neighbour walked away from your dh?

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 15:07

So you'd let somebody get away with soaking your dog would you ? Mine certainly didn't enjoy it and it upset the children no way was u going to stand by and let them treat our family like that.

I'm certainly not going to hurt the animal but their choice of bred means I'm not taking any chances either.

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rainbowinthesky · 17/04/2010 15:08

My dogs regularly get soaked. They enjoy it. THey are dogs after all.

You are lucky they didnt pursue a claim against you for the dog being in their garden and shitting in teh first place.