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AIBU to ask for our dog back from in-laws?

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Jessicoolaa · 04/09/2026 18:54

We had a springer spaniel for 11 years, and also have have 3 young children aged now 3, 6 and 8. we were moving house at the start of this year, and at the time I found it really difficult to look after 3 kids and a dog along with the move and part time work. He was always very energetic as springers are, and so we made the decision to give him to my husbands parents, as they have a bigger house and a calmer environment. However, they both work long hours, and i don't think they have hardly walked him at all. He has arthritis, and he has been getting worse in the last few months, to the point that at the beginning of this week he was hardly walking at all and stopped eating. I took him to the vets, and offered to keep him here to keep an eye on him because I am home a lot of the time. He's on painkiller and arthritis medication now and has already improved a lot. Having him here though has made me really want him back. Now I dont know what to do, am I being horrible asking them? They do like having him, but i just worry about the quality of life for him. I bathed and groomed him and honestly the mats and dirt encrusted into his fur was diabolical, I dont think they ever brushed him. He's put on a lot of weight as well, whenever they came over when we had him they would give him tidbits which I was always frustrated about. I think he has really liked being here, and id feel bad for him if he prefers it here.

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TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 04/09/2026 19:03

This is why people should re-home through breed specific charities and not to family. It rarely ends well, as the other thread today is also proven.

This thread is worse.

Your dog has been neglected by your in-laws and you gave him away and are therefore partly responsible for that. This isn't about what you want, or what they want. It's about what's best for this dog.

Do the right thing by him now. Give him to a breed specific rescue that will re-home him to a family that can do right by him because (and I am genuinely trying to be gentle here) you and your in-laws are clearly incapable of giving him what he deserves.

OldrNWisr · 04/09/2026 19:06

Do what is best for the dog that is being neglected.

Jessicoolaa · 07/09/2026 18:09

Thanks for your responses. As my children are at an easier age and our house is bigger now, i do feel we can give him a better life than previously. He is loved, and will be walked and his condition managed. If I feel that I cannot meet his needs for whatever reason, I will look at remohoming to somewhere like has been mentioned, but for now he seems happy and settled.

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LoveHearts69 · 07/09/2026 18:58

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 04/09/2026 19:03

This is why people should re-home through breed specific charities and not to family. It rarely ends well, as the other thread today is also proven.

This thread is worse.

Your dog has been neglected by your in-laws and you gave him away and are therefore partly responsible for that. This isn't about what you want, or what they want. It's about what's best for this dog.

Do the right thing by him now. Give him to a breed specific rescue that will re-home him to a family that can do right by him because (and I am genuinely trying to be gentle here) you and your in-laws are clearly incapable of giving him what he deserves.

Sadly an 11 year old dog would likely struggle getting rehomed and would find it more stressful being passed around to yet another two places in their older age, he’s probably already very confused with who his family is now as it is.

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