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What should I expect when our family dog is put to sleep?

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Hugeroar · 05/08/2026 15:03

Tonight my family dog will be put to sleep :( he has been poorly for a while and my parents have made the decision that tonight we will say goodbye as it’s cruel to keep him alive and suffering. I know this is morally the right thing to do, but he has been in our family for 14 years and I’m heartbroken. The vet is going to my parents house at 6pm so I will go round beforehand - my husband can’t come with me as we have two young children.

I’ve never experienced losing a pet before and never seen an animal be put to sleep :( for those that have lost a pet or had a beloved pet put to sleep, what should I expect? I need to be prepared :(

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flipperfizz · 05/08/2026 18:15

God it’s awful. I’m crying remembering it and it was two years ago now. He was sixteen and a beautiful beautiful soul. I think as others have said it’s peaceful, very quick and dignified. It’s just gut wrenchingly sad and I still cry at the memory. Sending positive thoughts and hope you are ok. They are part of the family and it’s a tremendous loss.

REP22 · 05/08/2026 18:19

Oh, bless you @Hugeroar (and @BetterWithPockets) and all those facing this most wretched of decisions. It's been explained well above.

I am a dog owner and used to work at an emergency vets - I just wanted to say that it's so, hard, so sad and so devastating. My heart is with you.
I have had five of my own dogs PTS over the years.

Please know that this an act of love that you are doing for him. You have loved him all this time and you love him still. That's why you are taking this hardest of steps at this most wretched of times. I well recognise the anguished soul-searching, the "is it the right time?", the sorrow and the doubt. I'm so sorry and I wish I could say something that would make it easier.

Your dog has trusted you all his life. He has relied on you for his food, his shelter, his medicine and his care, and his love. In all those things he put his complete trust in you. And he trusts you to do the right thing for him now. In taking this step, this final choice, you are repaying his trust. You are not betraying him, or letting him down. You are making the right choice. He isn't able to make this decision for himself - you are helping him to be free of his pain and are gently stroking away his future suffering. You are giving him the peace and the dignity he cannot secure for himself.

It is an act of love, what you are doing for him. The ultimate act of love, really. You are choosing what you know will likely bring you great pain and sorrow, in order to spare him from his.

Sadly I have seen the results of cases where there has not been such an understanding owner as you. Pets living long, long after they should have done because someone was unwilling or unable to end their torment. Not for your little friend this humiliating decline. You have amply repaid the trust he invested in you. He was right to love and believe in you. You have not let him down now, when it matters the most.

I am sure the vet will be kind. In all my years at the vets, there was never anything but dignity, kindness and compassion, both before and after the pet's passing. If you had an inkpad, you could maybe make some little pawprints on a card, and take a snipping of some fur as a keepsake (some private pet cremation services offer pawprint options as part of their package - I have used an excellent company called Dignity, specialising in private pet cremations). Perhaps afterwards, you could sow some forget-me-not seeds in a corner of the garden that he liked?

The countdown part is wretchedly awful. I'm sorry. Clear away his bowls and things as soon as you can afterwards, it is less painful than having to do it later. You can just put them away, out of sight for now. I know it sounds trite (sorry again) - with your decision will ultimately come peace, there will be smiles again, even with the tears. And the memories and love that you shared will be with you for always.

Please come back and let us know how you are after tomorrow, if you want to. Will be thinking of you.

Thank you for having the immense courage, compassion and decency to love him enough to make this cruellest of decisions. He is so lucky to have had you beside him, throughout his life, for now, and for what is to come. His great fortune in having had you in his life and the memories of the wonderful times you had together will not end with the passing of this evening. Those will live on in you, always. x ❤️💐

REP22 · 06/08/2026 20:53

I hope you are doing as well as you can today @Hugeroar and @BetterWithPockets. Thinking of you. x

BetterWithPockets · 06/08/2026 21:40

REP22 · 06/08/2026 20:53

I hope you are doing as well as you can today @Hugeroar and @BetterWithPockets. Thinking of you. x

Thank you, @REP22, and sorry to hijack your thread, @Hugeroar (I also hope you’re doing okay). I’m currently coping by looking at pictures of my lovely girl and reminiscing with DH & DC about how lovely (and stubborn!) she was.

plainjaine · 06/08/2026 22:19

Hugeroar · 05/08/2026 15:03

Tonight my family dog will be put to sleep :( he has been poorly for a while and my parents have made the decision that tonight we will say goodbye as it’s cruel to keep him alive and suffering. I know this is morally the right thing to do, but he has been in our family for 14 years and I’m heartbroken. The vet is going to my parents house at 6pm so I will go round beforehand - my husband can’t come with me as we have two young children.

I’ve never experienced losing a pet before and never seen an animal be put to sleep :( for those that have lost a pet or had a beloved pet put to sleep, what should I expect? I need to be prepared :(

I'm so sorry. We went through something very similar with our Marley a couple of monthsago. We genuinely thought we were going to lose her, and it's one of the hardest things we've ever faced. Thankfully she pulled through, but we had already prepared ourselves for saying goodbye.
I've been with a dog when they've been put to sleep, and although it's incredibly sad, it was also very peaceful. The vet explained everything, and they simply became sleepy before quietly slipping away. Being there with the people they love is the last gift we can give them.
Fourteen years is a wonderful life, and although it will break your heart, it sounds as though your parents are making the kindest decision. Be kind to yourself this evening, and don't feel you have to hold back the tears. Wishing you and your family strength. ❤️

FairViewRosie25 · 06/08/2026 22:30

I had my beautiful choccie lab girl pts 9 years ago. She’d been on borrowed time for 2 years but that last night I just knew. I lay down on her bed with her all night, the next morning sh got the strength to walk round the edges of ours and the neighbours garden saying goodbye. She was 13 and a half our wedding present to each other. I’m crying now x

DaisyDukesAuntie · 06/08/2026 22:31

Hi OP, I am so very sorry. This was us in February. I got into his bed and was the big spoon to his little spoon (not so little he was an English Pointer), and cuddled him as he went. Very peaceful and it broke my heart. Crying as i type this. Hugs x

justfindingmyway · 06/08/2026 22:43

Also crying reading this. I guess the tears we have show us just how very loved they are. Sending you my thoughts and a hug x

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 06/08/2026 22:44

Absolutely agree with what @REP22
wrote .
Know that you're doing your best for your beloved pet . They need you to be brave enough to make that decision on their behalf.

Our old girl cat was 17yo when she was euthanised . My DC were little so they helped dig a hole and DS gave her his favourite fabric bag to be buried in.

The Vets had a sign up If this light is on, it means someone is saying goodbye to their beloved pet so not disturbed .
It was peaceful and most important it was time

ThatFastGoldPoster · 17/08/2026 17:13

REP22 · 05/08/2026 18:19

Oh, bless you @Hugeroar (and @BetterWithPockets) and all those facing this most wretched of decisions. It's been explained well above.

I am a dog owner and used to work at an emergency vets - I just wanted to say that it's so, hard, so sad and so devastating. My heart is with you.
I have had five of my own dogs PTS over the years.

Please know that this an act of love that you are doing for him. You have loved him all this time and you love him still. That's why you are taking this hardest of steps at this most wretched of times. I well recognise the anguished soul-searching, the "is it the right time?", the sorrow and the doubt. I'm so sorry and I wish I could say something that would make it easier.

Your dog has trusted you all his life. He has relied on you for his food, his shelter, his medicine and his care, and his love. In all those things he put his complete trust in you. And he trusts you to do the right thing for him now. In taking this step, this final choice, you are repaying his trust. You are not betraying him, or letting him down. You are making the right choice. He isn't able to make this decision for himself - you are helping him to be free of his pain and are gently stroking away his future suffering. You are giving him the peace and the dignity he cannot secure for himself.

It is an act of love, what you are doing for him. The ultimate act of love, really. You are choosing what you know will likely bring you great pain and sorrow, in order to spare him from his.

Sadly I have seen the results of cases where there has not been such an understanding owner as you. Pets living long, long after they should have done because someone was unwilling or unable to end their torment. Not for your little friend this humiliating decline. You have amply repaid the trust he invested in you. He was right to love and believe in you. You have not let him down now, when it matters the most.

I am sure the vet will be kind. In all my years at the vets, there was never anything but dignity, kindness and compassion, both before and after the pet's passing. If you had an inkpad, you could maybe make some little pawprints on a card, and take a snipping of some fur as a keepsake (some private pet cremation services offer pawprint options as part of their package - I have used an excellent company called Dignity, specialising in private pet cremations). Perhaps afterwards, you could sow some forget-me-not seeds in a corner of the garden that he liked?

The countdown part is wretchedly awful. I'm sorry. Clear away his bowls and things as soon as you can afterwards, it is less painful than having to do it later. You can just put them away, out of sight for now. I know it sounds trite (sorry again) - with your decision will ultimately come peace, there will be smiles again, even with the tears. And the memories and love that you shared will be with you for always.

Please come back and let us know how you are after tomorrow, if you want to. Will be thinking of you.

Thank you for having the immense courage, compassion and decency to love him enough to make this cruellest of decisions. He is so lucky to have had you beside him, throughout his life, for now, and for what is to come. His great fortune in having had you in his life and the memories of the wonderful times you had together will not end with the passing of this evening. Those will live on in you, always. x ❤️💐

This I’d beautiful and made me absolutely cry my eyes out reading it. Thank you for taking the time to write it. Our 11 year old beloved boxer dog Daisy was PTS at home this morning and the sense of loss I feel is immeasurable. Everything feels tainted and that life will never ever feel the same. This is so very hard

REP22 · 18/08/2026 09:55

I'm sorry I made your eyes leak @ThatFastGoldPoster - and I'm truly sorry about Daisy. You're right; it is awful and sadly there is nothing anyone can really say that stops it hurting - the words just don't exist. It's not fair. I'm sure Daisy had a wonderful life with you; she was so lucky to have had you to share her days with.

Give yourself all the time you need to grieve. It's perfectly OK to not be OK for a while. You never stop missing them, but it does get easier. Look after yourself. xx

Papyrophile · 19/08/2026 15:53

Our lovely black Lab declined very fast after my PP, and yesterday the vet told me that her kidneys were all but completely failed and that we had only a few fairly horrible days (at most) left. Rather than subject her to that, we put her gently to sleep and I cuddled her while she slipped away.

ThatFastGoldPoster · 19/08/2026 18:43

Papyrophile · 19/08/2026 15:53

Our lovely black Lab declined very fast after my PP, and yesterday the vet told me that her kidneys were all but completely failed and that we had only a few fairly horrible days (at most) left. Rather than subject her to that, we put her gently to sleep and I cuddled her while she slipped away.

Sending hugs to you at this incredibly painful time @Papyrophile - I’m a couple of days into this pet grief journey now and I’m feeling a little less fragile today. The sense of loss is still huge but I feel like my nervous system is starting to accept it now and has moved out of shock. It was also severe kidney disease that my Daisy had and it was very quick from finding that out to her having to be PTS. This is one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with. You are not alone 💜

Papyrophile · 19/08/2026 21:05

It is an awful moment isn't it @ThatFastGoldPoster ? Two weeks ago, it might have been hot weather or old age. DDog went swimming everyday, still energetically, her last two weeks until Monday, but had just stopped eating and then stopped poohing last Friday. We are disconsolate, but in due course, we know we'll have another dog. Our consolation to you too. It is the toll every dog lover endures.

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