Looks like we have to sell our puppy :(

[bounty5]

We got her at the beginning of the summer at a time when my husband worked mainly from home. Our circumstances are now changed, so looks like we have to sell her. I think we've considered all possibilities of holding onto her. But in case there is an angle that I have overlooked, I am appealing to mum's net... We've asked family and friends to look after her during the week and holidays (I work in a college, term-time only so am free in holidays), but no-one is able to take on the long term commitment. We tried 'borrow-my-doggy' - but that would be a bit patchy, unreliable, not fair on her and stressful for us. So we've found a buyer and met up with them... Assuming they are interested, she will spend a final weekend with us, then on Sunday it will be goodbye! Any last minute ideas before we take the plunge?? Or since a sale is looking likely, I would like to know if anyone has been through this before. My 12 year old will be especially upset - does anyone have any inspirational words that will help us through this difficult time?

[confusedmomm]

Your 12 year old may never get over it

[FilledSoda]

The OP has started another thread
On wwyd called ' sad' , it's going in much the same vein.

[IrmaFayLear]

Is there someone I can report the Gumtree person to? She seems to be selling them as breeding animals.

[Pissedoffdotcom]

Scumtree doesn't care sadly

[SeriousAlligator]

I've tried to campaign to get gumtree to stop selling animals, falls on deaf ears :(
I can't look at that advert. All my dogs have been rescues. One was dumped on me, his owners were going to have him put down due to being pregnant. He was a mess, and they'd got him from dogs trust, I was his fourth home. Another was a puppy rejected by her mum, the breeder hadn't a clue what to do
People are cunts.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

*spayed, not speed, buggerit!

[Oddcat]

Op has now started 3 threads about this , she's either not reading , has incredibly thick skin or is on a wind up.

[BuntyII]

Rehome through a charity or breed club and never get another pet again.

[BigChocFrenzy]

Shameful

You can't / won't pay for doggy care.

You regard this poor dog as a commodity you bought and are now trying to recoup your losses

Return this poor animal to the breeder, or if that's not possible, then to a rescue
You owe her that much, at least

[whyohwhyyy]

Shocking I've had my dog since I was 16 when I left home. Slept in only dog friendly hotels,turned down accommodation because I couldn't have him there.
Travelled on trains which were more expensive than getting a coach so I could bring him.

They are huge commitments
Why did you even bother getting a dog?

[whyohwhyyy]

Infact is this just a joke surely it's not real?

[bangourvillagebesttimeever]

This is the OP third post about this poor pup. She can’t afford doggy day care despite having a DC in a very expensive private school. I think it’s a bought a pup realised it’s hard work and don’t want it. Hand it over to the breeder or take it to Battersea dogs home who will make sure the poor thing is rehomed properly and not to just some random who fancies it

[SlightlyTired]

Funny how so many dog lovers on mumsnet are so vile to actual people. I can’t believe some of the vitriol on this thread. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

[IfIWasABirdIdFlyIn2ACeilingFan]

There there OP

Is that better slightly?

[tillytoodles1]

Poor puppy!

[carbuckety]

She's gone hasn't she? Oh well. Please please please don't get a puppy if you will be unable to make alternative arrangements to care for it if circumstances change ( I dontmean if you develop cancer , I mean lifestyle). Always go back to breeder. If breeder can't help ( unlikely) then go to the breed rescues next.

[bounty5]

I have read through some of the message.. I am at work, I can't read them in detail or reply right now. A lot of assumptions have been made. I will reply

[Frequency]

The rescue I used to work for took loads of dogs off people who bought them on Gumtree. I was personally involved with three of them.

The first one was four weeks old, bought off Gumtree by a young couple who left him home alone for long periods. They then became concerned and took him to the vet because he was loosing weight. He moved into kennels and then with me. He lived with me for the next thirteen years as he was (and still is) unsuitable for rehoming due to fear aggression. He missed out on essential socialisation with his mother and instead of coming to us at 4 weeks of when we might have had a chance at helping him, he came to us at 12 weeks old, having spent eight weeks pretty much alone. No amount of training would undo that damage.

The second had been bought by a young woman at six months old. She had five kids. When he was ten months old she gave him to me because she couldn't handle him. I called the person on his microchip to have him transferred to us. I learned the five kids woman wasn't the person she sold him to. She sold him to a man on Gumtree, who wanted to use him as a gun dog. Five kids woman confirmed she bought him off a lady, who bought him off a man. We were his fifth home in 10 months (6th if include the home he was bred in)

To say he was wild would be an understatement. Despite him being only ten months old and lovely natured it took us 2 years to rehome him because he was utterly unmanageable with lots of fear and guarding issues.


The third was the most upsetting. A friend of my mum's sold him to a bloke who had three dogs and took great care of them. She met him loads of times. He was really nice and his dogs were very well looked after.

Six months after she sold him she got a call from the pound asking if the dog microchipped to her still belonged to her. I went to pick him up. It turns out the lovely man she sold him to sold for profit on Gumtree. We believe he was sold to dog fighters judging by his injuries and behaviour. I was already training dog2 and had dog1 living with me permanently, plus carrying out my regular duties with the rescue. I didn't have enough time and he wasn't safe to keep around my kids or dogs. We appealed to rescues around the country to help. None had the both the time and expertise and space for him. He had to be pts. He was four years old.


More dogs came to us via Gumtree in the five years I worked there but those are three I had direct involvement with.

[BigChocFrenzy]

The "vitriol" is because how the OP is getting rid of a living breathing creature

There should be more careful thought than in getting rid of a handbag you no longer want

[carbuckety]

bigchocfrenzy she might have wept buckets over this. We don't know. I used to foster rescues and I know it's not easy. But a puppy should always go back to the breeder, some put it in the contract. I just wish people thought it through really properly before getting a puppy. Lifestyle changes should be considered. Health can't always be predicted,

[LIVIA999]

I had a conversation with someone once and I expressed that I'd love a dog and he said ' you should talk to my brother he's getting rid of his chihuahua ' when I asked why he said ' I think he's just looking to get something bigger now '
I can never understand how someone can just sell on a creature without a backward glance.
I'm not saying this person is but I hope they consider what the vast majority of people are telling them and either contact the breeder or contact a rescue centre.

[Hollyjollybells]

I'm just struggling to understand how your circumstances with your husband's work could've changed so much in the last couple of months.
I wonder what happened that was so unpredictable that you couldn't have foreseen the future and decided to wait longer before choosing whether to commit to a puppy.

[Kidssendingmenuts]

How about a dog walker for daycare or walks? For walks dependant on where you are your looking at about £45-£55 per week and daycare more than that

[Oddcat]

There should be a checklist that prospective dog owners fill in ( I don't know who would mark it) and if the answers aren't satisfactory then they don't get a dog . I know dog rescues do this but it should be mandatory.

Can you afford a dog

Can you provide training

What happens if you become ill/move house / lose your job

Etc.

[thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter]

Don’t ever get a dog again.