do you marry your husband?I think not but fear this is taking pedantry to new levels.

[hatwoman]

"She married her husband." Surely this is wrong? But I think I have to let it go, don't I...sigh.

Yes, I think you do.

A friend of mine's father married his own daughter. Um, by the other, proper usage.

you think I have to let it go...or you think you marry your husband?

A vicar married me. He married dh too.

What about "Reader, I married him"?

i says here that you do marry your husband

surely you marry your fiance

you misunderstand my problem. I think you marry Fred. And when you have married him he becomes your husband. You can't marry your husband because, by definition, you're already married to him.

Yes you do because consent is an active thing, not passive. I am now not sure if the vicar or registrar or whatever "marries" a couple or merely "officiates".

yes - Stealth gets me!

Similar to NQC, a Friend married his son.

yes
or Daniel in my case
but thry mean she married the-man-who-is-now-her-husband

it's the "what goes in a toaster" question

It's like that old "what do you put in a toaster?" trick.

blimey!

(I realise I muddied the waters with my comment about a vicar marrying me - that was just an aside)

she married the-man-who-is-now-her-husband as SPB says

I think you may have to let it go.

However, is it a question of tense?

If it's past tense then it's ok because you did get married to the man who is now your husband. Otherwise you could have a bizarre conversation along these lines:

Friend: Have you been married for long?
Me: I married my fiance 8 years ago
Friend: You mean your husband Fred?
Me: No I married my fiance, not my husband
Friend:

She marries her husband during the ceremony.

Past tense: She married her husband, in 2000 at Chelsea Registrey Office. The action took place in 2000. Without the circumstance it makes no sense because clearly she married her husband....

She is married to her husband after the act has been done.

She and her husband were married.

lol UQD, I think we have a psychic connection

Gosh, this is heaven for me.

I reckon: you are referencing two separate entities - will attempt to explain with judicious parathenses.

[You married] [the man to whom you are now married].

Would you NOT call him your husband if you were referring to an event that happened before he married you? e.g. 'When my husband went to school ...'?

Whilst I see your point, I think that ^ is the usage I would follow.

I find it difficult explaining about when DW and I met, and why I came Oop Noorth, because I find myself being tied in knots saying things like, "Well, I met my girlfriend... then girlfriend, my wife now..."

I think I missed the all importnat summary: I reckon it is perfectly acceptable to say "I married my husband".

me too
i went to school with my DH
but if i dont say my DH then i have no way of describing him!

DO you people never use first names?