do you marry your husband?I think not but fear this is taking pedantry to new levels.

[hatwoman]

"She married her husband." Surely this is wrong? But I think I have to let it go, don't I...sigh.

Right, but I would say that 'my husband' is a way to identify him, not an identification of who he was then. It's a signifier now, not then, iyswim.

i suppose "when we got married" would do

This reminds me of a friend's wedding invitation that read 'You are invited to the marriage of X and Y'.

Er, I really hope not, the wedding fine, but your marriage is your own business...

He is now your husband therefore it is a perfectly acceptable pronoun to use!

You reference the present when you select your subject - the singular noun phrase 'My husband' - but are then free to reference whatever time frame you wish. It might be helpful to clarify it, of course.

lol, did you see them doing the washing up, going on holiday & arguing in the car?

Is there anything wrong with 'I married my now-husband'?

Or, alternatively: 'I married [insert your DH's name here]'.

Lol @ Minnie and SPB

anyone heard of intentional and extensional meaning? intentionally "Fred" and "my husband" are not the same. the meanings of the words are different. extensionally they are. (well, they're not as dh isn't called Fred, but let's just assume)

(a clearer example is one without names - "the red ball" and "the ball on the shelf in the garage" are, very clearly, different words that intend to impart different things. They have different intentional meanings. However they refer, (extend), to the same object - they have the same extensional meaning.

that was one of teh few things I can remember from my philosophy degree...

midnightexpress - well, no, except it's a bit clumsy and made up ... churlish

yes

"The Queen" is a role not a person, even if everyone knows it refers to LizII

Oh, and MinnieMummy, according to my Collins English Dictionary you can use 'wedding' and 'marriage' synonymously, so 'You are invited to the marriage of ...' is fine. Though I like the idea of witnessing the plates flying around the kitchen.

Anyone else want to get stoned and talk about this further, over a few packs of Frazzles? I'm sensing a kindred spirit in hatwoman, for a start.

yes, definitely but I'll have undoctored brownies please

Oooh, I like that, *hatwoman^. So, when he's being nice, 'my lovely husband' and at other times 'that dickhead over there' have different intentional meanings but the same extensional meaning, yes?

druzhuk perhaps there's reason I can't remember much else form my philosophy degree

I think getting stoned might make us all even more confused. I'd probably end up paranoid that I have in fact never wed or married DP.

Midnightexpress, although you can use marriage to mean wedding, you can't really do it the other way round, can you? I eamn, I'd talk about my parents' long-lasting marriage, but, if I talked about their wedding, I'd only be referring to the day 45 years ago when they made their vows.

I agree you can use wedding and marriage interchangeably. Ah the joys of a language with many different origins....

midnightexpress - that would imply you had a previous husband knocking around somewhere. Your now-husband as opposed to your then-husband!

And that's not a sarcastic , by the way, it's a questioning

To describe the action of marrying/wedding I mean.

Oh yes, sorry, they aren't proper synonyms.

If he is DP then surely you haven't married him.

I did instantly appreciate the point hatwoman was making btw.

Of course you did, Noah, we believe you