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Party invitation says "No need to bring a present"

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FrannyandZooey · 13/03/2007 14:55

If you got an invitation with this on, what would you think about it? And would you take a present, or not?

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MuminBrum · 13/03/2007 14:56

I would think "thank the lord" and not take a present.

Steppy1 · 13/03/2007 14:57

..with you on this one muminbrum !!!

madmarchhare · 13/03/2007 14:57

Perfectly fine and no I wouldnt.

harpsichordcarrier · 13/03/2007 14:58

I have always put that on my invites
except last year, when I forgot
and two of my friends do it, too.
one of the party goers did bring a mahoosive wooden castle and it was considered V Bad Form.
If I wanted to give a present, I would take it round another time

raspberryberet · 13/03/2007 14:59

Is it for a child or for an adult?

For an adult I'd hang the flags out and would be happy not to take one. For an child, I'd probably buy a present.

MrsBadger · 13/03/2007 15:00

wouldn't take a present, but might take a specially nice card - perhaps make one?

fennel · 13/03/2007 15:01

I did this when dd1 was 2 for her party but most people brought something anyway. Mostly small things.

geekgrrl · 13/03/2007 15:02

I'd think 'GREAT!' and make sure the invited dc put effort into a nice card.

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FrannyandZooey · 13/03/2007 15:02

It's for a child

I had this feeling Enid or someone would come on and say it was evil and offensive

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TeeCee · 13/03/2007 15:03

I'd think how nice and maybe get him or her a book token.

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FrannyandZooey · 13/03/2007 15:03

Would anybody take a present?

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joash · 13/03/2007 15:04

We had a similar thing earlier in the year, except this invite said - no pressies please, but donations welcome . I asked GS how much he wanted to contribute and he put £5 in (would have spent much more if buying a pressie), however, the cheeky cow turned up a few days later and said that fiver you put in the card, DD boght somehting that cost £8 but you can give me the rest tommorrow - needless to say, she didn't get it.

MamaG · 13/03/2007 15:04

Isn't it a bit,well, mean to not let your child receive pressies? yes, they are usually a pile of shite but even so...

I'd ask the mum if she'd mind if you did bring one - maybe she put it so people wouldn't think she was only throwing party to get gifts?

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FrannyandZooey · 13/03/2007 15:05

Ah but it just says "no need", MamaG, not "please don't"

it is me, thinking about ds's birthday

we are asking lots of people and I don't want them all to bring presents (if they don't want to)

but I do want SOME people to or ds will wonder wtf is going on

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giraffeski · 13/03/2007 15:06

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mylittlestar · 13/03/2007 15:06

joash 'you can give me the rest tomorrow'... WTF!!

I'd probably get a book token or something to put in the card. Probably wouldn't turn up with nothing at all

MamaG · 13/03/2007 15:07

maybe "present not mandatory" or something would imply that you'd be happy whether they did, or didn't bring something?

giraffeski · 13/03/2007 15:07

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giraffeski · 13/03/2007 15:07

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nailpolish · 13/03/2007 15:08

id think "oh thank goodness" and then remember to do it for my dds birthday parties too

MamaG · 13/03/2007 15:08

weirdo

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FrannyandZooey · 13/03/2007 15:08

LOL at "present not mandatory"

I think I will stick with my initial idea

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nailpolish · 13/03/2007 15:09

oh PLEASE put present not mandatory

MamaG · 13/03/2007 15:09

snigger, yes, thats not a great way to put it is it

LittleSarah · 13/03/2007 15:09

I would bring a present if I was close to the child, ie family or close friend of the parents!