Party invitation says "No need to bring a present"

[FrannyandZooey]

If you got an invitation with this on, what would you think about it? And would you take a present, or not?

you can also get flavoured straws to suck milk through, 'strawberry' and 'banana'

HC I will I promise

have just lost the will to live as far as whole party goes

Purchasing petunia seeds, if you must know

Will you be handing out the invitations personally?

at Lidl
there isn't a blardy Lidl for MILES around
or the other one
plenty of bleddy Twatroses though
comes of living in Ponce County I expect

Honestly Franny, you are making something out of nothing here! Just send the invitations out and stop fretting about presents!

Franny, you are missing the point totally here.

The real issue/s is/are, whether or not you will have party bags for all children - will they be full of 'tat', and what if some of them are expecting fruit shoots as a beverage!!!

Franny, do what you feel comfortable with, and fuck everyone else and what the think.

lol at RR
No presents - please bring your choice of EITHER a tray of sprouting seeds OR your chice of aggregate

TBH I would stick with not putting anything on the invite and let people do whatever they normally do. Easier that way!

If I got an invite saying "No need to bring a present" then I would stilllet DD chose a present and would take it. I would feel uncomfortable not taking a gif.

If I got an invite saing "No presents" then I would feel really uncomfortable, and would probably end up sending a book voucher or something inside the enveloope.

Think present buying for parties are just second nature. To turn up without would just feel odd to me and wouldn't sit right.

However, I would not mind at all if people came to DD's party next week without gifts. There presence is all DD actually wants. But all gifts are obviously gratefully recieved and thanks given - even if she ends up half a dozen Bratz

Ceolas no I won't, hence wanting to put a msg in the invite

tbh this has caused such complete misunderstanding of my original intention that I think I will just send out invites without a msg

but I would feel a lot better if I could think of a way to say "hope you can come and no need to bring a present unless it you actually would enjoy buying one"

Ah the flavoured ones might be theones I promised, yes- is it Nesquik?

still full of crud though I guess

Franny I'd skip writing anything about gifts TBH_ otherwise anyone who doesnt want to run the same thing might (and aprents do this sort of thing) drop you off their list to save complications, and then DS will miss out.

Sad but true

If there's anyn particular people you feel worried about finding the cash or whatever, approach them directly ( a fvriend does this) and say look, just you and I- shall we scrap the rpesents? I'd ask the others too but I wasnt sure theyd get it

By hana on Tue 13-Mar-07 19:40:48
"another mnetter mentioned a while back that at one of her dcs parties - all presents were put in a basket and were used as the party bags as a lucky dip"

I am sorry, I couldn't get past that post ...

That is the meanest, tightest thing I have ever heard

Am I alone in thinking this?

I am the first to put my hand up to say I hate party bags - I don't do them ... but to give away presents from children to YOUR child is crap IMO.

I will read the rest of the thread now -

I am not making something out of nothing Greeny, that is a bit dismissive really isn't it

VVV you can be sure there will be NO party bags

aha

can I use this to my advantage?

"presents strictly optional as you won't be getting a party bag"

(there will be fab crafts inc china money box painting and they are going to take those home)

PeachyClair I think you speak sense

And put on the invites.....

"You are invited to blah blah blah blah.....

All you need bring along is yourselves. We look forward to seeing you.

F&Z en famille.

Then ring them all up to confirm attendance, and, should any of them offer to bring/buy something, say "Do you know what would be really lovely of you, if you could bring a tray of sandwiches/homebaked cookies" or something similar.

I would think, F&Z, that the best thing to say would be that X got loads of toys for Xmas, or that you would prefer books.

I find Presents Optional perfectly clear. You are giving them a choice and letting them know that you will not feel offended if they turn up without one.

Oh dear, it was meant to be reassuring

Dp asking "can I have the pc back now?"

Me: no I haven't finished doing ds's invitations yet

Dp: but you have been on MN for half an hour

Me: yes well I am CONSULTING MN as to the correct wording to use on the invitations, ACTUALLY

Dp:

I think prob best not to put anything. Unless you know everyone well and know how they'll take it.

People don't like being told what to do. There are often threads on here about invites asking for no presents. People feel weird about turning up with nothing as hulababy says.

I invited twins to a party once and they each brought a present. I was really taken aback and said to th mum there was really no need for her to have done that. She said well they're both getting a party from you! Same mum had a joint party for her twins with another boy from the nursery. We bought them each a gift. Later she said she felt bad about it because people bought 3 presents and only "got" one party.

You can't account for the way other people think or feel. Just think though if he gets tons of presents you can recycle them and not need to buy when he gets an invite.

Children's parties are a minefield

what about 'it's your company we're after - not your cash'...

too blunt?

greeny, she sounds like a bit of a freak, tbh.

Please nobody take offense at me screeching and shouting on here, I am partly genuinely in a stew about it and partly being an arse

Franny, you are a sensitive person, that is clear. It's why folk like you - you give lots of caring thoughtful advice. No need to apologise.

Greeny is also lovely and caring, although, I sense, a little hormonal today......