Can I take dd2 to a party that dd1 has been invited to? (Thread #2345)

[oliveoil]

dd1 (4) has been invited to a party (for 5 yr old), do I ask the mum if dd2 (2) can go as well or is that a huge big no-no and faux pas?

Mum is acquaintance from playgroup, party in gym type place so hired, you don't pay for each child. Will mum feel 'obliged' and then slag me off?

I envisage tantrums and tears if dd2 can't go........

I have had a text to say it is ok to bring dd2.....

Ah but that's OK - she OFFERED rather than you ASKING !!

Enjoy !

so did you ask her OO

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I would say not if you can easily make alternative arrangements for dd2 (like, her father is available!). If its a matter of you have to take her or dd1 can't go, then I would ask and explain - and I would have no problem with this as a host, I understand not everyone has two parents available at all times.

No unless asked by host, they will expect to go to every party the other sibling goes to and you won't be popular if you bring along an extra child.

I asked becasue I didn't want to leave the child who was invited at the house on their own and I had no one to leave the other children with.

I had someone bring a younger chils to my daughter's birthday. I was fine with it, the more the merrier, but I do wish she had told me in advance as i had to scramble to put together a party bag for the little one, so just make sure the hostess knows ahead of time.

If your DH is going to have to chauffeur you there and back anyway, why doesn't he take DD1 to the party and you stay at home/go out with DD2?

Theres nothing to say that only Mums can do the party thing! . Just think of the potential quiet at home compared to noise of a party for 5 yr olds!

Has any of your DHs taken the kids to a birthday party?

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I can't get my husband to do it. I always have to. At My DD birthday partys Daddys only come when Mommy has come to.

Yes DP has (not often, admitedly, as I tend to take DD, leaving DS with DP, and then slope off for a bit of Peace & Quiet whilst DD is at the party!)

None of my daughter's friends ever have partys where I can just drop her off.

how old is she paula?

I took ds2 to a party a couple of weeks ago ( 5 yr olds).

A couple brought their dd in and asked the party host if their older ds could stay to keep an eye on their dd. Party host politey said yes

I left at the same time as the couple and the man smiled at me and said "now we can get a couple of hours peace"

To be hones I was completely shocked that anyone would do this - I thought it was a cheek. If the dd didn't want to be on her own one of the parents should have stayted IMHO. I think they were just after a bit of free baby-sitting

dh doesn't take them on his own as he doesn't know any of the mums, I know them all from playgroup

I will play it by ear and see what mood dh/dd2 are in as to whether I take her

Personally I don't see what the big fuss is about but then I don't have rules for much. If I was organising a party (yeah riiiiiiiiight, soft play for me) then I would do extra food and bags for any possible interlopers.

3 maybe thats still a bit young

oh yes - 3 too young to leave imo - mine is 6 and has only let me leave her once last week !

My DH has rarely taken DS on his own. The morning after I gave birth to DD being one example- see what extreme measures I have to go to. But having said that I took both DS and 1 day old DD to a party in the afternoon (albeit at a neighbours). TBH though I rarely stay with DS now, unless DD has also been invited or it is one of my close friends.

My husband has taken our son to all the parties he has been invited too except one.

You must tell me Nab how you got him to do that