HOW to people justify not inviting a little child?

[scarybluealien]

i just dont understand parties where some kids from the class are excludded.
how awful to know that some kid you are playing with is having a party, aand inviting some kids from the class, but not you? how cruel.

ok, if its a girls only parety, or a boys only i can understand. but otherwise? its just unnacceptable.

aand paarties where no other members of the family are present either? dont the grandparents want to see their grandchildren at play? or do they just not careabout them once they are out of nappies?

aand parties where the parents dont bothere dressing up? its a party fgs.

You'd hate my parties then.

Because to invite an entire class of 30 is way too expensive???

Never invited family members to DSs party, we have seperate family get together.

Sorry, but are you serious? For me, I just can not afford to invite the whole class.....it costs a bloody arm and a leg. Are you for real?

Probably hate mine too.

I'm guessing this is a wind up, so I can't be arsed to go for the clue stick...

... oh what the hell...

COST!

There's 90 kids in ds1's "class" (Reception/Year 1 - 3 teachers, but they get mixed into different groups for different things). Given that many soft play places charge around £10 a head, do you really expect me to pay NINE HUNDRED QUID on a sodding party?!

Thought not.

We don't invite the entire nursery/school class because, frankly, I don't want 30+ kids at the party.

Parties (in my house) are generally done for the kids, so grandparents, uncles, aunties etc don't get invited. WTF would they want to sit around on crappy plastic chairs drinking minging orange squash for 2 hours at a sweaty play place ?! The kids want to play with their friends, not sit with granny and gramps....

Dressing up ?! I've never been to a child's birthday party where the parents have dressed up !

errr, inviting the whole class doesnt cost aany more than inviting half the class

soft play area, between 60 to 70 pounds. do the food and the cake yuourself, paarty for aa hundred quid.

My kids grandparents & aunts etc live over 150 miles away. Also I invite who they want to invite. It's their party ffs. I think this is a wind up.

This is just a rejoinder to cod's thread about the spangly knitwear mums [eyes heavenward emoticon]

re kids parties with the whole class

i would not and have not invited the whole class to DS parties

there are 29 other kids! and with all his friends from outside school, we would have aound 40 kids....not happening..!

not cruel - he doesn't talk to or play with everyone in his class..why should they be invited to his party??? if a child my son never played with or spoke to in school felt excluded by not being invited , that;s not my fault!!! they will not go through school being excluded- the make friends and form little groups

if DS had been invited to certain classmates parties I would have been amazed as I knew full well they never played together

and fwiw - my parents and in laws have been to every one of DS's parties - he is 7, and to DDs.,who is only 1 !!

lol G

is this a piss take!!!!!!!!!!!!

scaryalien - lots of soft play places/party venues don't allow you to bring your own food.

scary - you going to pay the £800 or so for the DS's Grandfather to visit them on their birthday??

What I find annoying about parties is the way the birthday girl/boy's parents don't buy shed loads of wine/beer for all the attendees parents, especially when you've gone to the bother of inviting the WHOLE class.

Sheesh. The cheek of it.

errr, dont loving grandparents want to watch their grandchildren interact withtheir friends?
do grandparents seriously need an invite?

thisis not a windup. i aam really peed off at some of the aattitudes of people on here.

Yeah and then they drop the kid off and don't even stay for a nice glass of sherry. Tsk.

Party for 30 kids for 100 quid in a soft play place? Where do you live? Outer hebrides? Honestly - you're very lucky if you've got somewhere as cheap as that. Especially if it's big enough to cram 30 kids, 60 parents and 60 grandparents all in one room ... allowing extra space for large costumes of course...

Would still like to hear your proposal for the 90 kids (plus 180 parents, plus 180 grandparents....)

i always supply a huge amount of alcohol - its the only way to survive a kids party - done all of mine at home!

cos i;m an idiot!

I can't believe everyone on here won't invite my DSs to their birthday parties.

Shower of tossers, the lot of you...

niceglasses - with you there ...

if you are for real

i laid out my justification on my first post......

kids have to learn they can;t be involved/ friends / the most popular with everyone

you can;t expect 20 -30 kids to like each other just because they are in the same class and i will not waste time inviting someone so they don't feel left out, when they would be left out by DS at the party anyway....because they are NOT friends!

its aattitude that i am really really really peed off about.
spend less money on plactic crap for the kids. and either save, it, or use it to teach the kids some social skills
aa party is aa social event. it would be good if parents didnt use it to reinforce the cliquey behaviour of adults.
grandparents DONT need an invitaition to their grandchildrens parties. unless the parents themselves are toddlers pretending to be adults, and screaming, 'it s my party, i invite who i want to'

No, my mother would rather be drinking gin and playing darts than spending time with her grandchildren