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HOW to people justify not inviting a little child?

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scarybluealien · 16/10/2006 18:30

i just dont understand parties where some kids from the class are excludded.
how awful to know that some kid you are playing with is having a party, aand inviting some kids from the class, but not you? how cruel.

ok, if its a girls only parety, or a boys only i can understand. but otherwise? its just unnacceptable.

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scarybluealien · 16/10/2006 18:43

lulu, my point exactly. you have just reitierated yourself by saying you cant waste time teaching your child social skills

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NOMurDErousPLUME · 16/10/2006 18:43

To be fair scarybluealien - it's their party, their money, thier child. It's none of your business who they invite/don't invite.

NOMurDErousPLUME · 16/10/2006 18:43

their

GeorginaA · 16/10/2006 18:44

Gosh your parties must be a complete blast.

And no... I don't spend £900 a year on plastic crap either.

£900 on gas & electric maybe... perhaps I should just cut back on that pesky heating and terrible light habit I have... Just THINK about the FAB PARTY I could throw for children I have never seen before in my life and whom my child has never even spoken to if I sat around in the evening warning my hands over a tealight...

Greensleeves · 16/10/2006 18:44

You really are a scareybluealien

Are there more of you? [alarmed emoticon]

lulumama · 16/10/2006 18:45

cliquey behaviour!

so when i have a party, i invite everyone in my street, even the ones i don't talk to , so they don;t feel left out!!!

and not buy food or drink and just let everyone sit and talk about social niceites.....

i'm not sure what you are peed off about..what attitude? the one that is trying to make the best kind of parties for our kids without bankrupting ourselves!?

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scarybluealien · 16/10/2006 18:46

i aam soo tired of the lets be pc and allow everyone to do whatever they want, blah blah blah.
the number of posters on here, who need to be taught to grow up is astonishing.

party baags are a wasste of money. in fact most paryt tat is a waste. kids just want to have a bit of a runaround, some fun. and a cake.
aall that doesnt cost the earth. so saying you caant afford it is &%$£"

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NOMurDErousPLUME · 16/10/2006 18:46

BTW - Why is ok if it is a 'boys only party' or a 'girls only party' ? Why is ok for children to discriminate on the grounds of gender but it offends you that they would only want to invite children that they actually play with ?!

GeorginaA · 16/10/2006 18:46

Actually... bugger .... two children... so that would be £1800 per annum. Hmm... wonder if I could cut out food as well?

I KNOW! I'll get my kids to bring home the food from the 180 parties THEY'LL be going to each year and we'll survive off that

Greensleeves · 16/10/2006 18:46

One born every minute

NOMurDErousPLUME · 16/10/2006 18:47

why is it ok. Sorry am posting in a frenzy

GeorginaA · 16/10/2006 18:47

"kids just want to have a bit of a runaround, some fun. and a cake."

YES ... with their actual FRIENDS

Shocker.

lockets · 16/10/2006 18:48

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lulumama · 16/10/2006 18:48

kids have to learn they can;t be involved/ friends / the most popular with everyone

you can;t expect 20 -30 kids to like each other just because they are in the same class and i will not waste time inviting someone so they don't feel left out, when they would be left out by DS at the party anyway....because they are NOT friends!

PLEASE re read what i wrote

My son has immaculate social skills.
He is polite and well mannered, and i can take him anywhere. if you think that forcing him to get along with people is my duty as his mother, then forget it....the friends he has are well treated by him and i thank you not to presume i do not bring him up well.

I did not say i would not waste my time teaching them , i would not waste my time inviting kids he doesn't talk to

It is unreasonable to expect him to get on with 29 other kids

i don;t get on with everyone i meet

misdee · 16/10/2006 18:49

f off. if my dd's only want to imvite 20 out of 30 of their class then they will. s'up to them.

f*ckign stupid attitude. i paid £150 for 15 children at soft play. and thats all i could bloody well afford. dd1 doesnt like every single bloody child in her class. so why should we invite them, oh lets invite the little cow who thinks its fun to call my dd scabby because she has eczema and tells other children not to play with her.

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scarybluealien · 16/10/2006 18:51

would you let go of the 900 pound parties. yours is an exception.
most people have 25 to 32 people in aa class.
at lease ten percent dont show up.
feel free to invite the entire street for you parties if you want to. but i am talking about 4 year old kids. maybe five or six. its their feelings that are importatn, and the social awaareness of your own child.
if you dont want to bankrupt yourself, then dont buy plastic tat. but dont pretend you are trying to do what is best for your child, when you are doing what is best for you.

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lulumama · 16/10/2006 18:51

i aam soo tired of the lets be pc and allow everyone to do whatever they want, blah blah blah.
the number of posters on here, who need to be taught to grow up is astonishing.

party baags are a wasste of money. in fact most paryt tat is a waste. kids just want to have a bit of a runaround, some fun. and a cake.
aall that doesnt cost the earth. so saying you caant afford it is &%$£"

you are very aggressive and abrasive , your point is being lost amongst the nastiness..... i answered your post...and you tell me i am not bringing my kids up properly

'the number of posters on here, who need to be taught to grow up is astonishing'

you said it!

WigWamBam · 16/10/2006 18:52

Grandparents most definitely not welcome at my dd's birthday party. Their interference would not make for a pleasant occasion - and they can see dd play any time they like, why would it have to be with 29 other screaming kids? Plus they tend to want waiting on hand, foot and fingernail and it's not going to happen.

Dd invited 26 children to her birthday party last year - she had originally wanted most of the year (90) plus assorted hangers-on. 26 was too many, to be quite honest; thank heavens the entertainer was up to the job. There were only a handful she didn't invite from her class - children she didn't get on with or wouldn't ordinarily spend time with outside of the classroom. Never mind imitating the cliquey behaviour of parents - tell me why I should have invited children my dd does not like to her own birthday party just so that other parents didn't feel their nose was put out of joint? You don't invite all of your acquaintances to your dinner parties - why should a child have to do so?

Plus if everyone was invited to every party that's a hell of a lot of parties - and a hell of a lot of birthday presents. Not going there, sorry.

lockets · 16/10/2006 18:52

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niceglasses · 16/10/2006 18:53

I've just had a party for my 4 yr old and had I invited his whole class it would have cost me around £200 plus cake. Your mad. You want them all invited - you pay for it. End of. He doesn't even know the names of half of them - and the half he knows he gets muddled up.

I know who needs to wake up pet. Why am I getting so riled by this - its too too mad.

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scarybluealien · 16/10/2006 18:53

all of you are making my point so well, i dont need to say a thing.

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lulumama · 16/10/2006 18:53

but dont pretend you are trying to do what is best for your child, when you are doing what is best for you.

it is wholly unacceptable to say that we are in essence selfish - you have not taken on board a single other point that anyone has offered up

you were itching for fight and you got one

i wish i had put my post as succintly as Misdee

SoupDragon · 16/10/2006 18:53

"errr, inviting the whole class doesnt cost aany more than inviting half the class "

How the fck do you work that one out?? what a load of utter bllcks.

Greensleeves · 16/10/2006 18:53
NOMurDErousPLUME · 16/10/2006 18:54

sba, you are utterly bonkers.

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