What age did they keep holidaying?

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Feeling a bit down today at my DSs getting older, not long until empty nest.

What age did your older children keep coming on holiday with you until?

Mumsnet is really weird about adult children spending time with us parents and always jump to there being something wrong or that they can’t also be independent. The truth is we just really enjoy hanging out with each other. It’s not uncommon for me to take a break with one, another or both of my adult DC. Sometimes we have a family UK holiday where they will bring their partners too. I also go away alone quite a lot too. Then sometimes just DH and I will go. My adult DC are early-mid 20s and both living independently and working full time jobs. No oddballs here, just a close and loving family.

With colleagues, it seems to be as long as the parents keep paying! Certainly through university as they have so much holiday then that they can fit a freebie in as well as going away with their partner or with friends. Similarly if they have gone into teaching or civil service and other roles which come with a generous holiday package. Or if they’re not earning much and otherwise can’t afford a holiday.

We took our freeloading oddballs (23 & 25) away last summer and their other halves too. We’re not naive, we know that they only came as we paid.

DS came with us last summer when he was 19yo. Not sure about this summer, we haven't booked anything yet.

@theleafandnotthetree
my DD will always offer to pay her way, my DS wouldn’t come if we didn’t pay. So we do.

Yeah so do we. 😂we pay half their holiday and they pay the other half and have spending money, we can afford it so don’t see a problem.

i love that they still come on holiday with us, though I do love going on holiday with just dh too.

I would much rather have free loading oddballs than little arseholes that have no respect for their parents or their home either,

How odd to think this! My eldest is 19 and really good company and we are very fond of his girlfriend too, we have enjoyed several lovely holidays with us in the last few years and we have another planned for this year.
We cover the costs as we are able to and they are appreciative so its win win.

I'll bet they are...😆

I’m never went on holiday as a child …
I had a few weekends away in a caravan with my mum when I had kids but last time that happened they were 8 and 10. Last time I went with the kids they were 15 and 17. They are 21 and 23 now and beyond the point of wanting to go with me and I can’t afford to go anyway so I encourage them to go with their friends and make lots of memories.

I have always holidayed with my parents. But I holiday with other people too. Now that I’m in my 40’s and they’re pensioners I pay for them as payback.

I think it's lovely if adult children and their parents like to holiday together.
I'm in my 40s but if I was able to go away on holiday with my parents now I would.

That’s really sad.

Both my dc want to come with us on holiday, and they have plenty of their own holidays in the year. They just like being with us…

I think I was 16 or 17 the last time I went on holiday with my parents. Same for my siblings.

Or maybe they just enjoy spending time together, get on well, and absolutely pay their fair share too, you know, like a responsible adult?! 🙄🤷‍♀️

We have a second home on Southern France. We are there for August. The DC and partners usually pitch up for a week. Why not, /there's plenty of space, a pool, sea views and a 20ish minute walk into a chic village woth fab shops and restaurants. Wonderful walks and exploring as well.as happy memories.

All I can say is, I started holidaying with my pals at 18 in 1984, and after that wouldn't be seen dead on holiday with my parents.

Edited: typo.

That is wild!

I think it depends. I didn't want to go with my parents from the time I got my driver's licence. Its a no from me for holidaying with them, because it's just a lot of work and no fun for me. I'd have to give up all my plans to suit them.

My cousin's DS is in his early 20's and was still going on the annual 4 week jaunt up until last Christmas, purely because his parents paid, and they're epic trips (very wealthy). He's not going anymore because parents have pulled the money pin & he has to pay for himself.....

Sorry you don’t love or appreciate the company of your family like most of us do!

My husband and I are both in our 40s and neither of us ever stopped going on holiday with our respective parents.

Oh, I loved my parents very much, but I thought at 18 it was ready to do my own thing without them.

Dd23 still comes but has paid her own way since 18. Dd 25 tends to come alternate years.

I stopped going on holiday with my parents at 14. I had a Saturday job in a chemist and worked there in the holidays. I was the youngest of 4, so I would have been on holiday solo with them. I stayed at home with my 19 year old brother. My other two older siblings lived nearby, as did my granny so I wasn't home alone. I started going on holidays with my friends at about 16 / 17 years of age.

I’m 36 and missed maybe 2 years during Covid.

DD20 came on holiday with us last summer. We can't do a family holiday this year but are already planning 2027 and both DD (who will be 22) and DS (who will be 18) want to come. Long may it continue I say. It doesn't stop them also holidaying with friends or partners.