What age did they keep holidaying?

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Feeling a bit down today at my DSs getting older, not long until empty nest.

What age did your older children keep coming on holiday with you until?

That depends - our 26yo dd and her BF have done a few holidays with us, on boats. Last year was the Caledonian Canal through the great Glen - we needed DD to manage the mooring (you need a decent sized boat to go through Loch Ness) and to do most of pulling the boat through the locks at Fort Augustus. Win-win!

I think I was 17 the last time I went away with my parents. Had a couple of weekend breaks with my Mum in the intervening 25 years.

I work for a travel company and a bloke I know booked a trip with us for him and his parents. He’d have been mid-30s at the time. They booked a triple room

DS is 26 and still happy to come on holiday with us. It's not every holiday, he does his own thing with his friends, and we still do our own trips too, but every so often we all have a great time together. It's usually when we go to France, much cheese is eaten and much wine is shared.

Last time I went on holiday with my parents I was 35 😆

Ds1 is 18. He's more than happy to come on family holidays still.

People act as if it's totally normal for their kids to ditch them at 16 and stop wanting to go on holiday with them...to me, an 18 year old turning down a free all inclusive luxury holiday would be the oddball 😂

Really? I'd be delighted if my eldest still wanted to come with us and younger DS

I turn 39 this year and going to Dorset with my mum and kids in the summer 🥳

18 as a family.
Dd is 30 and occasionally comes with us on one of our breaks

We went well into our 20s. Deal was that we paid to get there but DP covered the rest (their combined pensions were significantly more than we earned at that point). When DSs were born we did the same but the paying was reversed. I’m looking forward to DSs being of the age where they come with a friend (partner or just a mate) and we can all drink rose by a pool in the Provancal evening.

I don’t have adult children but my husband is one of three sons and they all stopped when they started working so around 15 or so. If it helps, we now do at least one family holiday with the in laws every year, so DH, me and our children, both BILs, SIL and their children plus my MIL and FIL and it’s bloody lovely.

I've never stopped going on holiday with them, love their company and now I have my own kids. We go on holiday without them as well obviously but at least a week with parents a year

Our oldest is 22 and still comes on holiday with us. I think it’s lovely that he still enjoys that time with us and his sister. I see it as a sign of good relationships and liking each other. I hope it continues. He goes on holidays with friends too.

Seriously? Maybe they just like their parents.

Dd came away with me last year. I paid for the hotel as I was going anyway. She paid for her flights. We shared costs of meals although I paid more as I earn a lot more than her. She was 24 then.

Ds1 stopped at 20 as covid kicked in and then his work requires booking holidays at the beginning of the year and we're not that organised. We do have the occasional weekend away together though.

Ds1 is in his final year at uni and is 23. He last came away with me two years ago. I paid as he dogsat while dh and I went away.

With all 3, once they started uni, they used to come for a bit of the holiday rather than the whole holiday as they were also working over the summer.

I'm sure I will continue to holiday with them in the future too.

I’m 46 and still holiday with my mum and sister 😂

Eldest is 20 and is happy to come away with us still. I couldn’t care less if someone thinks he is a freeloading oddball - am sure he doesn’t either.

We all like good holidays, we can afford to take him and his siblings (another one is 18) on long haul holidays so I have no intention of stopping inviting them.

He also goes away with mates but enjoys a family holiday and why on earth not!

Well,get you! We still go on family holidays, we all get on,we like doing the same kind of things - and we share the cost.

We planned that the last one was going to be DDs last year after A levels. She has been on a couple of cheapy holidays since, getaways in the UK and Europe, self catering. DS is 22 and had taken holidays in his own the last 3 years. He did come long haul with us in the autumn but paid for himself. We are taking them both on a cruise this summer, to celebrate dd finishing her degree. DS will pay for his own flights and expenses, but we ar covering the cruise and accommodation. Whilst it is very expensive paying for 4 adults, we enjoy spending time with them, and it is very different spending time with them as adults. We also holiday with my in laws, probably every other year (obvs pay for ourselves)

I think I was about 20-21 when I stopped but then started again when I was 33 and had my own kids.

A mate of mine who's done pretty well for himself booked a safari type holiday somewhere in Africa, Kenya, I think. I asked, almost as an afterthought, what his two early 20s daughters were doing for their holidays. 'Oh, they want to come on this one..' he said. I f#cking bet they do, I thought to myself....😄

My DS stopped coming when he was 17 but him & his girlfriend are coming this year they are 20 but I suspect this will be the last for years again

At 22 - still coming but it depends on the location - they’re come with us to India and possibly inter railing in Europe

I’m 35 and still holiday once a year with my parents (at their cost). DH comes too.

If I’m honest, I’d rather spend the annual leave differently. We also spend £10k+ on our own holidays every year so there’s nothing free loading about it - my parents value quality spent with us as adults and we have otherwise busy lives so I’m happy to go away with them for the week. I’d probably (begrudgingly) pay for myself if they asked me to. But I’m not a freeloader, I’d actually be slightly grateful if they decided not to do it one year…

It’s purely down to your personal relationships.

I’ve had a few adult holidays with my mum. Why not? We know each other well enough to work around any mismatches in what we enjoy, we can actually relax instead of managing a relationship like we would if we went with friends/new partners, and we can share a room easily. I appreciate that’s a matter of how well you get on though - I hated holidaying with her until she realised and accepted that I am a fully grown adult. There were some very, very bad holidays before that. These days she’d be my euromillions world tour companion (with a lot of separate time!)

But I’d never go on holiday with my brother again. Even if it was free and to somewhere I’d otherwise love. I wouldn’t have gone on another full family holiday if my dad was alive either. Too stressful, too much bickering, too many clashing needs and personality types. I don’t like holidaying with my husband either. Too grumpy if things go wrong.

I hope my kids will want to holiday with me when we get to that age, but I’d expect a period of determined youthful independence first.

21 and 17 and they just asked where we are going this Summer

I still go on trips with my dad and I’m 47

I think we had a gap of a couple of years but we really enjoy each others’ company and still holiday together most years. My DC are in their forties now and I usually go away with my DS, DIL and DGC at the beginning of the summer and with my DD and DSIL at the end of the summer.