I’m an adult child estranged from my siblings and I’m interested to hear how other parents manage family occasions etc when two siblings/close family members cannot be in the same room as one another. At the moment, I don’t go to 100% of things and my sibling goes to all events for all of the time. I would be interested to hear from others how they try to stay ‘neutral’ and also the honest impact it has on them as a parent. I know my mum really struggles with it but selfishly my well-being is so much better without my siblings in my life. Would you want to know that it is unlikely that you will ever have your children at one event before you die (it’s been about 7 years I think.) I have told them that I doubt there will be any contact whatsoever after their deaths which I wasn’t planning to explicitly say. Have your adult children reconciled and if so how? I have been long-term estranged from my brother (favourite golden child) and I am working towards estrangement or going very low contact with my sister in the near future due to her breathtaking lack of sensitivity as I perceive it and extremely divisive partner. It is completely the right decision for me but I do feel guilty about the impact on my elderly mother.