Thread 40 - Corona Cohort , Falling into Autumn 🍂

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This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Be warned there might be lots of 'Uni Freshers' chat this time of year. My experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and support to be had !

A lovely city to be in @PhotoDad . We went for a punt in the summer.

@Benjispruce4 DD absolutely fell in love with the city when we visited, and the ARU campus is within 15 minutes walk of the centre (way closer than some of the Cambridge Uni colleges!) So when she got an unconditional offer on the strength of her portfolio, it was an easy decision.

DD went to the on-campus night club for the SU welcome party last night with some of her flatmates! She came back early as she was so tired, but is going again tonight for another Freshers event. She has messaged that she is going to watch some of the funeral stuff whilst sorting her room, hopes to explore campus a bit to try and find where her induction stuff is tomorrow, and hopes to meet up with some students she met online as well. So sounding positive 🤞

Hope all our youngsters manage to find their feet soon.

Well done to all that have successfully negotiated drop offs!
Hoping all DC are settling in and enjoying freshers and that any ‘teething difficulties’ are swiftly resolved.
DD is on holiday with her boyfriend and will be home Friday leaving a week to rustle her stuff together before drop off. A much better deal than her bf’s DM- who’ll only have 2 days before dropping him off!😱
Ddog is sulking and I’m dreading what she’ll be like once DD is at Uni…

@icanbewhatiwant you did well on the vans, Pog or Pog-champ are very positive responses! I find the whole youth language really interesting, I don't remember having a sub language with road-men, Karen's, pog etc!

Glad to hear all doing well, specially the ones who aren't were they planned to be before results day.

DS's GF has made contact with 5/6 of her Broadgate Park flat on social media and they seem very nice. SM is brilliant for Comms at this time.

@Monkey2001 thanks....I re read the text. Actually all it it says is "a huge pog" I had no idea whether it was a typo or that was what it's meant to say. Or he'd seen something big and scary 😂

Hahaha not heard of pog either!

Oh gosh, all these settling in stories are amazing: exciting and nervous making in equal measure! We’ll done to everyone who has navigated this weekend. We had a last walk as a family and Sunday lunch yesterday. Mostly lovely although my two would keep sniping at each other/ I think Ds is preparing to leave!!

Poor mother on another thread looking for advice after her son got attacked on his first night - the keyboard warriors are out in force.

Do you think our DCs will be trying to watch the funeral today? There is no TV in my DDs halls. She won’t be able to watch. What is everyone doing?

Hi all, can I join please? I’ve read all your stories of dropping off your dc. My son goes away in a fortnight. I’ve been in bits, dreading it. Feeling strangely calmer at the minute, hope it lasts. It really is the weirdest feeling isn’t it? Letting go a bit and letting them spread their wings when all you want to do is keep them close?
I keep telling myself that I would hate for him to be still living at home with mum and dad at the age of 40 but oh it’s hard!!

@BlueMarigold DD reports it’s on TV in the pool side bar- she’s in Greece.

Oh Ffs really?!

I only read her messages. Some people just wait around on that board to pounce

Dd has a serious case of cold feet, she hasn't packed or organised a thing at home just keeps crying about it being too far. She means too far from her boyfriend not us as I strongly suspect. I'm at the end of my tether.

She says she knows her brain and will be anxious and upset and not able to get home easily (not quite true she'll have to sit 3 1/2 hours on a train its free for her)

She is being quite nasty as well. Saying entitled stuff..like 'this is all about me don't make it about you'.

I'm asking her what she wants to do instead ...she doesn't know, there is nothing

First FaceTime from DD this morning. She’s loving it. Her flat have teamed up with neighbouring flats to form a big group.

Also good to hear they’ve invited people they know who are in less social flats to join in with them.

Absolutely gob smacked to see her room is tidy! She said flat mates are tidy so she’s making an effort & a group of them were in her room chatting in the early hours because it’s cozy. What are the chances she might return as a reformed character? I won’t hold my breath! 🤣

Having seen DD happy, DS is now desperate to get going. He’s not off until Friday.

DS's breakfast failed. Doesn't open til 11.30. This seems odd given there are lectures at 9!

DD1 had brunch hrs on weekends. I suppose as Bank holiday they might be doing that?
@CinnamonOrangeCremeBrulee I feel your pain. I would take a step back.

@ScarlettDarling welcome ! where is your DS off to?

Welcome @ScarlettDarling the thoughr of Dd living at home at 40 seems like a nightmare lol.
Where is DS going?

I'm stepping back emotionally.
I'm playing breezy bossy matron. Keeping her busy telling her what to pack.

She is terribly self-indulgent with her moods refuses to even counter being positive or talking about positive stuff. She fixates on wallowing to the point where she is crying about the certainty she will be anxious and lonely 🙁 .

This sounds hopeful @boxcar ☺️

Hi. I’m that mother. Hope you don’t mind me joining this thread. It’s nice to read some positive stories.

Hello ScarlettDarling and *SallCymru^.

Really hoping your boy is feeling much better today Sall. Words fail me on some of the responses you have had on your thread.

Welcome @ScarlettDarling and @SallCymru

@SallCymru I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your DS. I hope he feels better soon. Sending love x

Orange, that must be so difficult for you right now. I cannot comment on your DD, but the nerves, apprehension of: will anyone like them, have I made the right course choice, is my accom in wrong time etc etc brings the worst out in them. And yours has a BF to deal with too.

I saw some horrible panic traits in DD last week, and left her standing alone in Dublin after one too many outbursts/projecting her crap on me sent me over the edge. She’s a different person after a few wobbly days.

You right now are her punch bag. If possible, try to disengage when she’s spiralling (my line is if you’re going to pick a fight, the mirror’s there) and repeat every time you are being blamed for what lies ahead. The positive stories on here all outweigh the build up challenges, if you can get her to that point!