Are we the only.ones who dont want adult dc living.woth them?

[Chewchewbacca]

We get on.well with both our adult dc.
However, feel.v isolated as we have them back at home , and to be honest we want our space back.
We absolutely will help them...without question to save and live with us until they get graduate jobs.
However, we secretly want time by ourselves now in the longer term and we feel that we are the only parents who admit to this or want this.?!. everyone else seems to think.its great that adult dc are living with them or are about to. Is this the norm for the magority... Feeling wise... i get they move back more now for financial reasons ...

As I said , we will.always support them .
People say oh I wish my kids would come home..i kind of wonder if this is true .? Really..?. or wd they be saying the same if they were in same postion ...
Anyone else in same position as us and feel the same ..?

DH and I have a great relationship, go out for meals, cinema, on holidays without DCs, no issues there.

However, we have one DD still at home (22) and I love having her here. She pays rent, she's not super messy or noisy. I work from home (DH works out of the home). DD works shifts, she's off today and we've just had a lovely walk and lunch out. I will miss her when she goes. That's unlikely to be for a while though (SE).

Whether I'd feel the same if I was in the office full time, I'm not sure.

I think a lot of this depends on your house size. Living all together in a crowded terrace is very different to a 6 bed house?!

22 yo still lives with us, no prospect of moving out unless she meets a wealthier man who would put up with her!!!

It's mostly fine as we have plenty of space and anyway she lives in her room most of the time so it's more like having a lodger who doesn't pay rent. (She works but pay isn't great - she can pay for her own needs).

Normally I'm fine with it but just now I'm a bit fed up with her lazy ways. (Leaving washing up in her room for ages, not putting it in the dishwasher when she does bring it down etc). She's quite demand avoidant so it's not an easy fix.