Why am I being called a liar when I'm not lying?

[SurferBoy02]

I'm a 19 year old man, sort of still living at home (I stay with my grandparents whenever I've got work the next day as it's easier to get to work from there). Tonight I'm at my grandparents.

On Saturday night me, my brother and his girlfriend (both 15) had the house to ourselves so I ordered us a Chinese. We ate in the lounge, on the sofa. On Sunday, when my parents came home my stepdad noticed a few grains of rice on the sofa my brother's girlfriend was sat on. He said to me "I see you've been eating on the lounge, if you're going to do that can you at least try and get the food in your mouth and not on the sofa?" I muttered very quietly that it wasn't me that was sat there but he didn't give me any eye contact, didn't say anything else and simply just walked away, so I assumed he didn't hear me so I got out of my seat to follow him and then changed my mind and decided to just take the blame for it as it was less hassle, so I sat down again.

Anyway this morning my mum asked me to come and meet her, pick my siblings up and take them to school for her. No problem, happy to help. I sat in the car with her after taking them in and she said that he had been complaining to her that he found food on the sofa so I told her that it was my brother's girlfriend that was sat there but I chose to take the blame as it was less hassle. It actually turns out that my stepdad DID hear what I said and he was just being ignorant, so obviously he was quite confused when my mum told him that I chose to take the blame. So I had a text from my mum calling me a liar and that she's fed up with having to protect and defend her first three (she had us before she met him) to him. Obviously, when I told my mum that I took the blame for the whole thing, I thought I was telling the truth. I told her that if she doesn't want to protect me then I'd rather she didn't, simple as that. It's a few grains of rice on the sofa, why does it matter?! That's what baffles me the most

So basically, and please let me get this straight, you're effectively penniless because your mother had the £6k off you that your stepfather gave you?

And you write very well indeed but only just scraped functional literacy after you left school? And you're now only 19? And you jacked in a decent apprenticeship at 97% downloaded?

And you've popped onto Mumsnet because you want the sympathetic views of parents?

Yeah, good luck with that one, mate.

@DartmoorChef

For someone who scraped through their studies including English, you type very eloquently and your posts are far more mature than the average 19 year old boy.

Your post is also extremely identifiable with the details of occupation, criminal history and number of children including ages.

Strange thread really tbh.

@DartmoorChef

I don't really see the problem if he is identified by his family, friends, associates etc. He hasn't done anything wrong. At the most he might upset his Mum and, or stepdad, but really, so what? Maybe seeing their treatment of him written down in black and white might give their heads the wobbles that they need.
SurferBoy02 has not complained about any of the adults in his life being physically abusive, so if the worst they do is shout at him, then that is further evidence to him that he should move out. As for the £6000, imo if that money is lost, his Mum owes him it! Most of us trust our Mums more than anyone else in the world, so it isn"t surprising that he trusted her. So SurferBoy02's Mum, if you are reading this, give your son his money back, even if you have to pay him back in regular smaller amounts.

Good luck SurferBoy02 (if you are real!, this does seem to be too well written, and yet a litle farfetched, for someone who is supposed to be so bad at English). If you are actually someone practicing your story telling abilities, you are showing good promise, but have a little way to go yet 😉)

I’m concerned about simply handing over 6k to mum, when it would have been useful for further education/deposit for housing/ driving lessons and a car. Your stepdad was incredibly generous to share his inheritance with all the family so he’s not exactly the villain of this sorry story. I’d be asking mum where’s my money?

Stop taking your step fathers words that things will cost thousands.

Go and get proper advice on what you can and can’t do.

What an articulate & mature young man you are. Your mum should be very proud 

@SurferBoy02

@GrannytoaUnicorn

What an articulate & mature young man you are. Your mum should be very proud 

@SurferBoy02

thank you