My 13 Year Old Daughter is Too Shy

[Lori2010]

My 13 year old daughter is painfully shy and not too confident. I thought she would grow out of it but she has not and I am getting worried about it.

She is almost 6ft tall and is very conscious of this. I tell her every time that she is beautiful and has a very gorgeous figure - which she has. But it has not made any difference.

She fell out with her 2 best friends in school because they called her lanky and has refused to make up with them.

Is there any organisations that run confidence building classes I can send her to.

Any suggestions will be welcome.
Thanks

Oh, your poor dd. I'm sure she's lovely, not lanky. I don't know about confidence building classes as such but drama is supposed to be very good for children/teens with confidence issues. If the school don't have drama club, try Stagecoach.

I'd also try the Teenagers board (under "being a parent") as there are loads of experienced mums of teen girls (I only have a ds) who may have ideas.

Have you thought of just trying an activity outside school that she really loves?

Is she old enough to do some kind of part time/weekend work or something like the conservation volunteers/charity work?

I remember all my own shyness went when I got a paper-round and then a job at the newsagents.

So sorry- I too was that height at 13 and was bullied badly.
I agree with doing some form of drama, dance etc to improve self esteem. And get involved with school clubs to find other girls with similar interests.
Girls can be so VILE.

poor 13 year olds. they should all be sedated until the become more civilised.

i was v. shy at that age. i LOVED outdoor pursuits type stuff. canoeing hill walking etc. it helped with the gawky awfulness. i didn't get it do it much.