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Those in the 'Two boys club'...

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lovechoc · 25/02/2010 10:40

what's it like? I am currently pg with no2 who we found a few days ago, is another boy which we are delighted about. I have a nearly 3yo DS already and just wondering what's in store for me when baby no2 arrives!

Any advice or experiences please share!

Thanks

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Chooster · 25/02/2010 12:52

A whole heap of love / cuddles / laughs is what you are in store for . At least if my boys are anything to go by. My DS1 was 3yrs and 2 months when DS2 arrived and they have always adored each other. Their biggest smiles / hugs are for each other and I can honestly say that at 5 and 2 they are each others best friend . I adore seeing them together and they relationship is so uncomplicated. Dont get me wrong there are shoves and shouts about toys but its always very very short lived and quickly recovered. I just love having the 2 boys and wouldn't want it any other way. Good luck - when is DS2 due?

Eglu · 25/02/2010 12:54

It is fantastic. My boys adore each other and also fight terribly. They can be so sweet when they play together.

Boys are also so uncomplicated.

You are going to love it.

ChickensHaveSinisterMotives · 25/02/2010 12:59

Its marvellous My two have two years nine months between them. They are the best of friends and the worst of enemies, however their disagreements blow over quickly. They are very, very physical with each other. I am now used to stepping over two wrestling, giggling people to get anywhere

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mollyroger · 25/02/2010 13:08

I had a 3 year gap and it was fab - they have enough interests in common to keep both happy.
life is noisy and chaotic and messy but it would be anyway in our house. And I can't deny there is something wonderful about being adored by three men
Delighted with my 2 beastly boys

BooyhooNOTboohoooORbooyou · 25/02/2010 13:12

i am glad i found this thread, i have 4 years between my two boys and as ds2 is only 9 months we are still to discover how they will get along. we are trying to encourage a strong sense of what siblings means with ds1 so that he knows it is a very special relationship and not something to resent (as we fear he might having had such a big gap)

good to hear lovely stories.

jamaisjedors · 25/02/2010 13:15

It is great!

Honestly I think there are a lot of advantages to two the same in practical terms, but I also find they get on really well and play brilliantly together.

I didn't get on at all with my brother (2 yr age gap) and was secretly hoping for a boy with DS2, despite everyone expecting me to want a girl.

My two boys are very different so I don't think I'm missing out on the "girl" thing (maybe I will think that later).

DS1 is very sensitive and caring, notices my clothes/make-up etc. and loves the same books as me.

DS2 is a bit of a bull-dozer, rugby tackling everyone in sight but is madly in love with his mum!

Eglu · 25/02/2010 13:50

BooyhooNOTboohoooORbooyou there are 4.1 years between my two and at the stage you were at they didn't really bother with each other.

THey are now 6.6 and 2.5 and they can play well together, with fighting obviously, but they do love each other and can be very sweet together.

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lovechoc · 25/02/2010 13:51

thanks to everyone for such positive responses on having two boys. I was actually hoping this one was a boy too, but didn't want to tell anyone. I was just wanting a healthy baby ofcourse (like everyone!) but made no preference outwardly.

DS1 will be 3.3yo when DS2 is born. I'm just over 20 weeks pg. Hoping this is a nice gap between them.

A few relatives were hoping I was pg with a girl this time round but tbh I'm delighted about the news of having another son. Having kept all DS1's clothing and baby paraphanalia I have nothing to buy besides nappies and wipe nearer the time. From a practical point of view, it seems to be perfect the way things have worked out.

I would imagine we'll be stopping at 2 DC now after this baby is born, so it's good to hear that mums of two boys have a great relationship and family life is fulfilled.

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lovechoc · 25/02/2010 13:54

"Boys are also so uncomplicated. "

Eglu it's funny you should say that,because I've heard that from many people. Boys are apparently a lot more straightforward, easier to look after as they grow up (although my own mum may have a different opinion about DB!!).

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 25/02/2010 13:58

ahem

heQet · 25/02/2010 13:59

oh, it's great! Mine are 9 & 10 yrs old.

They are the best of friends! They also fight like cat and dog

they share a world - they are both boys, there's only 15 months between them and they both have autism, so they get each other, and are so close. It's like it's them against the world. And I know that no matter what, they'll never be alone while they've got each other.

Boys are, imo, more fun, less hormonal! and you don't have to play guessing games like you do with girls! What you see is what you get.

bobblehat · 25/02/2010 14:00

Two boys rock!!! Mine are nearly 8 and nearly 5, there's 3 years and a week between them. They fight and argue, but mostly are best friends and I hope they always are. (It nearly brought a tear to my eye a couple of weeks ago when we were at a soft play place and I spotted them walking around together holding hands!)

My boys are totally different charactors and it's really sweet seeing how they look after each other. Although I didn't have a preference either time, I've not missed having a girl. And you can recycle clothes easier so you'll save a fortune!

Good Luck, and congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!

notwavingjustironing · 25/02/2010 14:00

BARLD

I quote you all the time!

Feed them and exercise them and love them and they will love you forever!

It's such a succinct way of describing my two loveable monsters.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 25/02/2010 14:01
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2010aQuintessentialOdyssey · 25/02/2010 14:01

My boys are also very cuddly. My oldest had just turned 3 when ds2 was born, they are now 7 and 4 (or nearly 8 and 5). They hug, the younger boy will lay down with his head on his older brothers lap when watching tv, they will cuddle up in bed in the morning. They are both some real cuddle monsters.

The younger ones is so keen on hugs and cuddles he deliberately wears soft and fluffy clothing to encourage people to have a cuddle with him.

They also fight. A lot. But it is all pretty soon forgotten.

MyBoysHaveDogsNames · 25/02/2010 14:01

They are. Look at my username!

MyBoysHaveDogsNames · 25/02/2010 14:03

They are like dogs I mean! Didn't read to the end of the thread, so now looks like random post. I was meant to follow on from what BoysAreLikeDogs said. But, anyway....

BoysAreLikeDogs · 25/02/2010 14:06

heh heh heh

heQet · 25/02/2010 14:06

oh, when I brought ds2 home from the hospital, ds1 broke into a MASSIVE grin, got really excited and poked ds2 in the eye he thought he was the best toy ever!

ds1 was never jealous (that's probably the autism - he didn't give a crap what mum and dad were doing!) but he HATED the noise of ds2 crying. It made him screech. That set me off crying (pnd). I remember one time we tried to go to the seaside with them. Just arrived and ds2 started wailing. Ds1 started screeching and I burst into tears. dh just turned the car round and we came straight home.

How you introduce your son to his new brother is important. 3 is the age where they're very likely to be jealous but too young for you to really discuss it with them and discuss their feelings about the usurper

wheredidmyfeetgo · 25/02/2010 14:07

It's so much fun, there is 14 months between my two and they get on fantastically (they also fight sometime) They are 3.1 years and 23 months and I am pregnant with DC3. I have decided not to find out what we are having as I was so fed up with people asking if we were trying/ hoping for a girl. I just want a healthy DC3!

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lovechoc · 25/02/2010 14:09

This is great to hear more great comments about having two boys.

Thanks bobblehat I'm really looking forward to July now!

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southeastastra · 25/02/2010 14:12

i only worry about being a mil, but apart from that having two boys is quite nice apart from wee on the loo seat

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lovechoc · 25/02/2010 14:14

heQet have been told 3yo is actually one of the worst ages for the eldest to be (because of the jealousy thing), so will have to be careful how we introduce him at first with his brother. Better just prepare myself...

good point

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Doyouthinktheysaurus · 25/02/2010 14:17

My 2 boys are the best of friends, they have such a strong bond, share a room, share the same love of lego and generally love each other's company.

Of course they fight but they are on such a similar wave length they can just play together for ages.

Yes they make a lot of mess and are obsessed with willies and farting noises but it's lovely.

They are 5 and 7 by the way with 21 months between them.

gizmo · 25/02/2010 14:17

I have 4.5 years between my two (3.5 and 8 atm) and it's just as everyone describes. Very different personalities, but it's 4/5 laughing, wrestling and laying traps for each other and 1/5 poking each other in the eye and shrieking because someone has broken someone else's model.

I really didn't think they'd be as close as they are, given the age gap between them, but it's completely brilliant.

Am now expecting a little girl, which will be an interesting change in the dynamic. Anyone got two boys and a girl?