Those in the 'Two boys club'...

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what's it like? I am currently pg with no2 who we found a few days ago, is another boy which we are delighted about. I have a nearly 3yo DS already and just wondering what's in store for me when baby no2 arrives!

Any advice or experiences please share!

Thanks

I have two boys and they are wonderful - 4.4 and 10 months.

So far my experience is that DS1 hasn't wanted huge quantities of outdoor time and rough and tumble, though this is slightly changing with nursery. (I speak as someone who bought myself full outdoor kit along with DS1, fully prepared, nay slightly even overkeen to roll about in mud with him and it hasn't really happened that way)

When DH, DS1 and DS2 get together, it is notably "Planet Boy" and I'm enjoying the difference, especially the books, toys and ways of playing that I didn't have in my girls-only childhood. It's so much fun.

I have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They get along like a house on fire (not literally ever, I hope). They are funny and affectionate and a bit noisy, but they've not destroyed anything yet.

Bluesatinsash - DS2 loves dancing, and they have a ballet teacher at nursery.

I've really enjoyed reading this thread - my 2 boys are 4.4 and 7 months and so far so good - they adore each other. Ds1 gets the best smiles and giggles and loves making his brother laugh. He cried the other day because his brother was howling - "It makes me sad when ds2 is upset" and has started having splashy baths with him and looking at books with him. It's just lovely to watch them together. Ds1 can't wait til ds2 is big enough to have bunk beds and share a room.

I know our house is going to be noisy and chaotic as they get older, but I hope their relationship continues to be as special as it has started out.

Congrats OP! Boys are great!

I have two boys, 6 and nearly 4, with 2 1/2 yr between them. They love each other to bits, are best friends as well as brothers, and are very, very different from one another. They are both very excited that DS2 will be starting school soon. DS1 is looking forward to playing with him at playtime.

They want to marry me and don't believe me when I say it's not allowed.

It's brilliant. My two are 4 and 2.5. To be honest I had a little mourning period when DS2 was born (we hadn't found out the sex in advance) as I realised I might never have a daughter. The things I was most bothered about missing out on were shopping for little girl clothes (even though I'm not clothes-mad myself at all) and not having the kind of relationship I have with my mum with my own daughter. Took me about 6 months to get past the slightly gutted feeling and then I honestly never looked back - I am SO SO SO glad we have 2 boys.

Little one adores older one. He is generally up before DS1 and the day just doesn't really start for him until DS1 joins him. Complete, blind, unadulterated hero-worship - it's awesome to watch. DS1 loves him too. He could take him or leave him to begin with, but DS2 gradually won his heart and he is gorgeous with him, he really looks out for him. They are chalk and cheese too. People generalise about boys and constantly say you must have your hands full (whilst looking slightly horrified). It's just not true - all children are individuals regardless of sex. DS1 is sensitive and not particularly physical, DS2 is a real little bruiser but also a gentle giant. I've got friends with girls who are way more of a handful.

TTC no.3 at the moment and I'm so in love with my wee boys that I really really don't care this time what we have!

My midwife gave me good advice for bringing no.2 into family. Like someone else said, don't be holding baby first time DS1 meets him. We had DS2 in his moses basket on bed with me. Then she said to keep baby in the same room at all times but not to fuss over him when DS1 around (apart from changing and feeding) and to save cuddles and cooing for DS2 for when DS1 in bed. That way DS1 doesn't feel threatened but gets used to baby being part of furniture, and DS2 gets used to noises of the house, his brother etc. Seemed to work for us - we had no real issues. Good luck and enjoy!

What a heart warming thread.

I have two boys. DS1 is 2.7 and DS2 9 months. DS2 gives his biggest smiles to DS1. They make each other laugh. If DS2 is crying, DS1 brings him toys. DS2 is crawling and follows DS1 around.

Reading your stories makes me so excited for the future.

I have 2 boys and it just gets better... they are thick as thieves and love love love each other... inseparable.. especially at school where the teachers are always telling me they cannot be parted... have a secret fond dream they will be wach other's best men... often find them in bed together in the mornign cuddling... enjoy enjoy enjoy

I have 2 lovely boys, they have just turned 4 and 2. They are gorgeous, loud, crazy (like someone else mentioned, we have spent more than our fair share of time in Casualty already...) and charge at life full tilt.

I would second what others have said about different personalities - although there are some basic similarities, they are different enough to make life v interesting indeed. DS1 is sensitive, v highly strung and already a moody so and so - but sweet, kind and imaginative. DS2 is essentially a nutter - but an absolutely delightful one, so merry and funny.

I HATE people asking me if I wanted a girl, because after having DS1, I really wanted another boy, and was so thrilled when DS2 popped out!

Boys are fab!!!. I cried a bit when found out I was pg with DS2 as wanted a girl and knew it would be my last pregnancy. What an idiot crying for that reason - shed a whole load of tears more over the years as he has epilepsy and severe autism but he is gorgeous!! As is his older brother! Uncomplicated, unanalysing, loving and huggable I LOVE MY BOYS!!!!!!They are 10 and 6 now

I have twin boys of 7 and a baby boy (and 2 older DDs). My boys are so funny and a bundle of fun, they are so cute together and play loads of fun little games together. I never need to invite anyone round as they occupy each other all day. It will be perfect, congrats!

my two are lovely

injuries do tend to be the casulty type

they both laugh at the same things - poo, willys, bottoms, farts and can make each other laugh like no-one else

they don't hold a grudge, so we can all fall out and shout, and it's fogotten instantly

they can fall out with thier friends, even tell on them, and they're best mates again very soon after

they are loving and supportive

they love each other but are very physical when they fight

they'll both wear whatever I put out for them

yes, I would second the boys being different thing... my two, despite their love for each other are chalk and cheese, and when someone ever says to me... oh well boys are the same, I have to bite my lip. Also, I desperately wanted ds1 to have a brother, and so at the scan i felt like I had won the lottery... and now get ever so pissed off when people see my dd (youngest) and say "oh, got lucky in the end then"..... umm,,, nooooooo... cos that implies i am disappointed in ds2, NOT!!!!!

I had dc2 when ds1 was 5.5, and I was 100% convinced it was a girl - when dh said it was a boy I was sure he'd got it wrong! I did have a small feeling of regret that I wouldn't have a girl (only going to have 2 dc), but now, coming up fast to ds2's second birthday, I can say hand on heart I wouldn't change a thing. My boys are everything to me. I agree with someone further up the thread, who said there's something wonderful about being adored by a houseful of males! (Although I did just get a female dog to redress the balance a tiny bit!)

Incidentally, I met a bloke at the playground the other day who had a ds of 2.5, and his wife had just had triplets - all boys! I was torn between "Oh, I wish that was me" and "Thank God that's not me!"

I just wanted to say how fantastic it is with 2 ds. I had mine with a 3.5 year age gap. They love each other to bits and are often found giggling together although they do of course have their moments and fight like all siblings. It is such good fun having boys and I wouldn't change it for the world. I have just found out I am expecting dc3 and I have to say having always hoped for a girl I have found myself thinking it would be nice to have 3 boys. Enjoy them, I have found boys to be especially cuddly!!

Thank you so much for this thread!

We find out in about 3 weeks whether we're having another boy or a girl. I'm completely torn - everyone (wider family) wants it to be a girl, as so far we just have boys in the family. But I actually think that another boy might be more fun especially after reading this thread!

DS1 was 3.6 yo when DS2 was born. A bit jealous at first but once DS2 got 'interesting' and mobile they got on great! They are, as others dicribe, best of friends and worst of enemies at times but mainly best of friends! It definately makes things easier in terms of toys and clothes too.

I have two little boys, who are not so little now! There is a 4 yr gap, older one likes to scrap and run wild, younger one into books and Xbox. Very different. But I can say they get along well and I think they miss each other when one is away. It's nice to have two the same. I also have two bodyguards in life as well as hubby! Good luck.

I've got two little boys that I wouldn't swap for anything, with 2 yrs btwn them. I'm expecting number 3 in May, and all the 'you must want a girl' comments are making me feel very protective about my lads.

It's lovely to see so many people defending and loving their sons. I think there's something quite special about being a mum of multiple boys. Certainly my mum's friends with more than one were thrilled when I had number 2.

Good luck with it. And start collecting sticks now. Little boys can't have enough sticks.

Threads like this always make me want to dig out the photo montage I put together at One True Media. It was doing that that made me suddenly realise they were a gang and that "giving" DS1 a brother was a fab thing to do

Of course, they fight dreadfully now they're 9 and 11

My 2 are 10 and 8(on sat!). Just 2 years and 1 month between them.

They are fantastic. They are best friends, they do fight sometimes, but as someone else said it's forgiven and forgotton in minutes. They hate being apart.

They're so much fun. Like alot of others I get the 'you must want a girl', but I am so so pleased I have my 2 boys.

Although be prepared for lots of jokes involving farting and burping. And boxes upon boxes of dinosaurs.

DSs are 2y and 6 days apart

And then there's DD... now she is a fecking nightmare. A pair of boys is a piece of cake in comparison.

My two are 19m apart. Currently 2 and 3.5, and hard work.

They adore each other, but god do they fight. and I am amazed at even this young age how much they eat!!

Everything is full on IME with boys. Everything is done at 100% volume, 100% mess and 100% commitment. Can make for a hectic and mad house, but they are also 100% loving and so adoring.

I love that they are going to grow up close, that they have each other. But every now and then I wish they didnt fight quite so much

Someone once told me boys are harder from the ages of 0-5 but girls are harder from 5-15. I keep telling myself I only have 3 years left

Mine are just under 2 years apart, 1 yr and 355 days to be precise.

They are almost 6 and almost 4 and adore each other, DS1 teases DS2 then DS2 clobbers him, but they are best friends.

They are loud, boisterous and very funny but very different personalities. DS1 cannot wait for DS2 to start school, he has already decided that they will sit together at lunchtime and on school trips.
They both call me their Beautiful Princess, what's not to like?

Agree with present from baby to big brother, was DS1's favourite toy for years afterwards.

Oh and start thinking of how you are going to be a fab MIL too, am taking tips from mine

I have 3 sons and my youngest 2 are 21 months apart (aged 9 and 11). Although hard work when they were young, I am now reaping the rewards. I find the school holidays and going on holiday really are a pleasure as they have each other and enjoy the same sort of days out.

Great thread! We don't know what we're having this time around (will find out soon...) but all your positive "two boy" posts make excellent reading.