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Those in the 'Two boys club'...

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lovechoc · 25/02/2010 10:40

what's it like? I am currently pg with no2 who we found a few days ago, is another boy which we are delighted about. I have a nearly 3yo DS already and just wondering what's in store for me when baby no2 arrives!

Any advice or experiences please share!

Thanks

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teddymummy · 25/02/2010 14:21

My DT boys are right now curled up together on the bean bag watching some tv before we go to get big sister from school. They were screaming at each other 2 minutes ago about a toy aeroplane! Now they are best friends again!
Agree about the wee on the loo seat...esp when they are weeing at the same time

WhoIsAsking · 25/02/2010 14:22

There is 3 years and 3 months between my two lovely, lovely boys.

They are 12 and 9 ATM and they are very close to each other. They are like chalk and cheese, their colouring, their personalities and even the things they like to eat are completely different, but they love each other very very much and are great friends.

I'm so lucky!

HewlettPackard · 25/02/2010 14:24

Mine kill eachother on a regular basis.

Inbetween times they are best of friends.

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mollyroger · 25/02/2010 16:03

just remember that play fighting is an essential part of boy development. Repeat often, while holding a stiff G&T..

Having said that, mine are currently enjoying a couple of days of brotherly harmony and love and are currently forming a rock band. Joy!

junkcollector · 25/02/2010 19:56

Lots of lego and shouting.

thisisyesterday · 25/02/2010 20:05

i have 3 boys and i love it.

i would ssay though, don't have any preconceptions!

my first 2 are chalk and cheese (personality and looks). they couldn't be more different!

ConnorTraceptive · 25/02/2010 20:11

They are wonderfull but sooooooooooooo noisy. Life is chaos! Agree though with thisisyesterday - chalk and cheese - angels and demons

4kidsandlovingit · 25/02/2010 22:37

Totally agree with the "boys are uncomplicated" comment. Girls are so bitchy.

I`ve got two of each and my girls are far more dramatic and always falling out with friends from school.
Boys are far more laid back and certainly seem to take everything in their stride.

Yes they can fight like cat and dog but they are great freinds as well. There is 2yrs 3wks between them and DS2 thinks DS1 is so cool cos he can skateboard!!

The only thing they really dont agree on is how to look after their room. DS1 is always moaning about DS2 cos he wont tidy up and DS1 is a bit anal like his father about tidy rooms.

doodledrawers · 26/02/2010 10:19

Just to echo everyone here, having 2 boys is great! Mine are 3 and 6, and play for ages together, having really imaginative games. They also come to blows quite frequently! They can be incredibly loud, but are also really cuddly - lots of hugs and "I love you"'s all round. Having 2 boys may at times try your patience, but you will always feel loved and they keep you really fit!

displayuntilbestbefore · 26/02/2010 10:25

I have 3 boys but am posting because I had the same age difference between ds1 and 2 as you will have. So for a while I was in the Two Boys Club!
Having that age gap is fine - we didn't have any problems with jealousy but we also did make sure that we didn't give any cause for ds1 to feel pushed out as we had heard that anything between 18mths and 3yrs can be a problem for jealousy but wasn't the case in our experience and we were pleasantly surprised. The only times when ds1 found it hard was when I was feeding ds2 but I think that's quite common whatever the age gap or gender because you have to focus on the baby when you're feeding. I tried to make sure that we had books and games that were specially brought out for ds1 to look at when it was feedtime and this offset any issues.

By the time ds2 was a year old, they had such a great rapport and when they were 2 and 5 they were really close and played together far more than I could have ever hoped! They remain very close and, like others here, they are so affectionate. I have 3 lots of very loving cuddles and hugs during the day from all my boys!
Enjoy!

ilovespinach · 26/02/2010 10:42

Mine are 21 months apart (ds1 3.10 and ds2 2.1) and they love eachother so much!!!! They are very affectionate and have their own conversations together and play together so nicely...You are in for a lot of fun x

MrsGokWantsatidyhouse · 26/02/2010 11:25

I have to say that I agree with all the comments on this thread regarding boys. I have three

skidoodle · 26/02/2010 11:33

"Girls are so bitchy."

yes, girls are just horrible

must be great to be your daughter

Niecie · 26/02/2010 11:40

I have 2 boys as well. They are now 9 and 6 with 3 yrs 2mths between them.

They get on really well and even though they are very different, their boy interests overlap just enough to make them good friends.

They have their moments (peaceful all half term then 30 second scrap and DS2 has scratchs on his face, DS1 gets punched and they look like they have been at war the entire holidays) but they mostly negotiate and play together with no problems. One or the other will even spontaneously hug and kiss the other. Sweet. And of course I am the bees knees as far as they are concerned. Daddy is great for sport and car chats but I am no. 1 for everything else.

DS1 did pretty much ignore DS2 for the first year, until DS2 was up and walking but was still very protective. He hated anybody outside the family holding DS2 and would ask me to take DS2 back. He didn't like leaving him behind either. He didn't appear jealous at all, just accepted DS2 had arrived and carried on as normal!

It will be great lovechoc.

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lovechoc · 26/02/2010 17:40

skidoodle I'm sure it was meant as a lighthearted comment, not to offend those with girls.

I'd be just as happy having a daughter too anyway. Just so happens I'm going to have two boys, hence the reason I created the thread to ask other opinions on the topic of having two sons.

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skidoodle · 26/02/2010 23:11

It doesn't offend me because I have girls, it offends me as a woman to hear mothers applying nasty sexist stereotypes to their own daughters.

kissprudence · 27/02/2010 00:07

Agree with skidoodle.

I've found boys / men can be just a bitchy as girls / women. Same behaviour only people don't call it 'bitchy' when boys are doing it.

sysobi · 02/03/2010 14:06

I have two boys, 10 and almost 9. They are totally different, the younger is a bit girlish and the older is a typical boy, very laid-back and hardly ever has any problems with life ;-) But the younger is a true challenge. There are not a lot of things they both like but still they manage to be quite good together although they do fight and bicker all the time. They rarely admit it but I know they care about each other a lot.

minimoonumbertwo · 02/03/2010 14:45

So lovely reading this thread as am also expecting another boy in May and am terrified!

So any tips on the best way to introduce ds2 to ds1? Ds1 will be 2.7

pranma · 02/03/2010 14:52

My 2 dgs are 2.5 years apart and are now 3.5 and 1 they are beginning to play together now and although dgs2 is a bit of a game 'spoiler'it is great to see them together.I would have liked dd to have a daughter [for later] but you cant beat little boys for affection and fun.

MummyTumble · 02/03/2010 15:01

A fantastic thread. I currently have DD (4) and DS (2) and have no idea what we're having this month.

I keep assuming girl, girl, girl for some reason. DD wants a sister (as she has a brother already)...and i keep having the odd panic..what if it is another boy??? DS is adorable and very cuddly (in my eyes anyway ) The whole dynamic in the house will change either way but sounds like it will be great!

Thanks for a lovely read, roll on next baby

dinkystinky · 02/03/2010 15:02

Its brilliant - noisy, chaotic, lots of cars and dinosaurs and airplanes in my life - but I wouldnt have it any other way!

boyraiser · 02/03/2010 15:24

I have 2 boys and they are fab. Sometimes they squabble and fret, but most of the time they are affectionate to each other and spend lots of time running around pretending to be monsters / superheroes / builders etc. The noise levels are sometimes a bit hair-raising, but if you can tune out, you'll be fine. I agree with what the earlier poster said about food & exercise - once they can walk, drag them round a park once a day, fill them full of hearty grub, and the rest falls into place.

Second time round child-rearing is far more enjoyable - you're more relaxed and you've already made the transition into motherhood, so baby no 2 (regardless of gender) slots into place in the family and brings a lot of joy. The workload does increase, but so does the fun.

PanicMode · 02/03/2010 15:51

I have DS1, then DD, then DS2 and am expecting DS3 and I'm a bit sad that I won't have a 'perfect' balance, but equally am thrilled that I'm going to have another boy because I think they get such a bad press, and undeservedly so. My current two are 4 years apart, but the little one adores his big brother and there is lots of play fighting, cuddling, throwing/kicking/hitting of balls and general physicality. My eldest son is very tolerant of his younger sibling, even when he's doing something like Lego building and plays really well with him.

I adore my DD and for her sake wish that we could give her the sister that she so desperately wants (we haven't told the children what we're having), but am secretly pleased that she and I should get to have lots of escapes having girls days out together, just the two of us.

I think the noise levels are high with more children - whether they are boys or girls, but I am seriously considering investing in earplugs when they are all a bit older as they do make a LOT of noise!

JaMmRocks · 02/03/2010 15:56

I love my two boys, they are 5mths and 4 years and so, so different already. DS1 wanted a baby sister, but is now besotted with his little brother. DS2 has today been able to sit up by himself and play for the first time, so DS1 is sitting in front of him interfering passing him toys

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