David Code has published a conroversial book called "To raise happy kids put your marriage first"
www.davidarthurcode.com/2009_02_12/my-new-book-to-raise-happy-kids-put-your-marriag e-first/
He argues many parents wrongly believe the more attention we give our kids, the better they?ll turn out. He says we claim we?re too busy to spend time with our spouses, but actually, many of us have shifted our passion from our spouses to our children.
David believes that putting your marriage first can improve family dynamics. It frees up your kids to establish their own identity, learn self-reliance, and become more independent adults. He says your relationship can also set a great example for your kids? future relationships.
He's not advocating neglecting our children just a better balance.
I agree and believe we're raising a generation of ego-centric kids who are so wrapped up in cotton wool that they will lack the independence and resourcefulness to be employable / form healthy relationships in the future (yes I'm generalising but hope you get my point). Partners are getting pushed out in the process and relationships are failing because kids needs are being put first all the time and gradually over time partners are becoming more distant from each other.
What do you all think?