Toddlers and sharing - possible or just not?

[phdlife]

dd (9m) is on the move and ds (2.9) is NOT coping. Whatever he's playing with, she wants to play with, and the resultant shrieking and snatching (him) then tears (her) is driving me bananas, 900 times a day. It's either that or hysterical very stressed demands for me to pick dd up.

Are there any tricks for helping ds master this skill, or do I just keep distracting dd until he relaxes? Normally they get on like a house on fire, I'd hate for this to mess that up.

might try that, though not optimistic. dd will often content herself with the last thing ds touched, or the next thing, and even that is too much for him. eg. he'll get out four trucks and have hysterics if she touches one, even if he's playing with another (or two) at that particular moment.

do you live in my house ?

Dd2 (10mo)was even climbing on her sister (2.6yo) to get the necklace from round her neck - oh the shrieks and wails from both of them(and from the inside of my head!)

No helpful advice though - sorry!

it's 10pm here, so it's okay

it's ok, meep - I only poured one for you. bfing here, and dd refuses to keep to a schedule predictable enough for me to time drinks

I'm not sure this is about sharing. I was going to say yes toddlers can share (ds1 could but he is a fairly laid back character) But 9mo baby's. No chance.

Does ds get chance to play with any of his toys in peace? if not that must be very frustrating. would you consider a play pen for short spells. Until dd has a hope of being able to understand playing nicelywhen shes 18

nellie

that's a good point, I'll think about that.