thinking of maybe having baby no.3...

[cupcakes]

Don't know why I suddenly feel nervous about this - have finally persuaded dh that this would be a brilliant thing. He's done the practical thing (like working out if we can fit 3 children into our house!) and now seems happy to go for it! So why am I suddenly anxious?
Don't know if it's the thought of pregnancy + birth again or those early months or just how loud three children will be! How many fights I'll have to sort out, will there be enough of me to go round etc.
Suddenly can't think of the positives! Those of you with 3 children - what are your experiences??

golds - sympathies about your miscarriage.

I am one of 3 and that always seemed great when we were younger. We shared a room till i was 11. My brother and I were 2 years apart but then 4 years between him and my sister. I know that my parents considered having a 4th so that my sister wouldn't be so on her own (which she was especially as a young teenager), hence my consideration for sooner rather than later. My dh is really not up for considering 4!

emmatmg

My 3 are great, DS (the eldest) said to me the other day that he remembers how lonely he was before DD1 and 2 (he is 4 yrs older than DD1)

My ds1+2 have asked numerous time when am I going to have another baby.
They love having a little one about.

They both want another teeny weeny baby disrupting their lives.........shhhh.........don't tell my DH but I'd like one too. He'd never in a million billion zillion(hmmmmm....what comes after a zillion.....?) yrs agree to it though.

is it a gougle?

ditto ot the predicatblilty of two - especially my pet hate two of differnt sexes
"Well ive got my boy adn my girl" vomit . My eyes glaze oevr at this point

is so show home subrbia ( says she who is hte queen of suburbia)

three is not any different to two......aside from you dont 'fit' family tickets anymore, you need to buy more than one packet of things like cakes/burgers/etc (why does everything come in fours?)
you need a bigger car and
people carriers do just that -carry people and nothing else
and its just abit louder
aside from that I love it.
of course now pg with number four so maybe i should be asking whats the difference between 3 and 4??!! LOL

Well, I've got three boys too. Its bloody hard work but mine are all under 5 and ds1 has always and will always be my hardest and ds3 the opposite. I am frazzled, like emmatmg the washing is constant and the arguments occur over the littlest thing lots throughout the day.

However,

they are all gorgeous with fabulous personalities and characters. I was never fussed about having a girl and actually wanted ds3 to be a boy! i love them all dearly but I am just having a bit of a struggle atm (more to do with depression though from increased pressures from other areas too).

Good luck with it all - it won't be easy but no doubt very rewarding cupcakes!

you see mine dont row which is weird
htey ahev the odd 20 second flash point but really dont row - different personaltities I think

3 kids is a fkin nightmare.

Agree about the hard work - not the children themselves (all gorgeous!)- but the neverending stuff that has to be done to make the whole thing work.

Depends on the ages of the older two as well - I had three aged three and under at one point and still don't know how we got through it, it's such a blur of knackeredness!

I have 3, they are 5, 3 & 1.

They are hard work but wouldn't change it for the world.

i have 3 16/14/8 also dh and .. and 84 yr old mum!

custardo lol!
Having one boy and one girl I am quite weary of the 'oh, that's perfect, you don't need to try for another' comments.
I don't like feeling quite so 'neat' iykwim!

cupcakes, 2 is predictable esp if you have boy and girl ("oh, a pigeon pair, how lovely") I had ds1 and dd and really wanted one of them to have a same-sex sibling actually. (hah coddy, you put it better than me!)
Of course people thought I was mad (and some said so!) but I love it.
Agree with cod you get respect if you have 3, especially if you eg work as well/appear at the school gates in clean clothes/occasionally bake a birthday cake - actually none of these is much harder with 3 than 2!
I say go for it.

I have 5! Going from2 to 3 was easy! I think from 1 to 2 is the hardest!!!!

oh this has made it to discussions of the day on the home page!

my mum was youngest of 9 (yes, nine!) . You've got to think what was my grandma's other hobby!!! Bless her. She started at 20 and finished popping them at 40. I don't think I'd go to that extreme. But 3 - probably.

i would love another but thats a secret DH doesnt know as our oldest has autism and youngest has food allergies etc, i keep thinking maybe this one wouldnt have any of that but then again it might and could i cope? i have also had PND on both so is it fair to put my family through all that again..dont know

weird as dh is desperate for a third and I am oh no, maybe, oh no, maybe all the time

oh and cod i have a boyy and a girrl

I want another and I have 5!!!!!
Its hard if you have had problems with other pregnancies to know if you can go through it all again!!! I think you should chay with dh and see how he feels..he might want another too but not want to put YOU through it!!!

Sax, our DS1 is the hardest work of all 3 too, and ds3 is the easiest.

Are our boys cosmic twins, or something?

Well I've got the predictable one girl, one boy 'twosome' combination. To be honest I don't really think I had much of a hand in the way that they came out.

Should I send one back and ask for an opposite gender replacement, so that I can have two of the same sex just to avoid being pidgeon holed?

I might go on to have a third, but then I am frigging ancient already

I worry that Iam too old and high risk!
cant keep up with the ironing either...although that could be because I am on here!!!!