Boys and girls wearing kilts

[Ally68]

Hi
My dilemma is to do with the very cold weather we are having. When our children were very young, we made the decision to ensure that they grew up disciplined and smart. One of our rules is that both our boy and girl look smart for church on Sundays, and to that end, to reflect our Scottish heritage, they both wear kilts for this and other formal occasions.
Because of the cold weather, our daughter has been wearing thick cotton tights and boots with her kilt, whereas our son has to make do with knee length socks.
He continues to moan he is cold, and thinks that the fact his sister is allowed to wear tights is unfair, and wants to wear trousers. We have been resistant as once he starts wearing trousers, it'll be hard to change back.
Do you think we are being unfair, as its only for a couple of hours and although the kilt is a childs kilt, and not as warm as a mans, it shouldn't be that chilly?
We'd be interested to hear what others think.

being odl fashioned at the expense of your son being warm and comfortable is not good

as i said in my other post, you can still be a good parent and compromise

and the double standard is not fair, to make your wee boy cold in his kilt whilst your Dh is in trousers

seems to be a recipe for breeding resentment to me

We've thought about thermal "undies", and he does wear warm boxer shorts, and have even considered him wearing long-johns under his kilt, with his socks over them, but it just looked like he was wearing thick cotton tights like his sister- as they could seen between where his kilt stops and his socks started- not a good look.

why is the insistence on wearing a kilt, when you and DH don't, taking precedence over him being WARM and COMFORTABLE?

Kilts haven't really got that much to do with scottish heritage. You do realise that, don;t you?

i love kilts,but also love warm happy weans.so do compromise

As previosly stated,my husband doesn't wear a kilt but then we can't currently afford a kilt for him- as they are very expensive. But then, we believe that children should be treated as such and are not subject to the same rules as adults. There's far too much of this and our children have never moaned about doulble standards.

What about a nice tam o' shanter instead?

And wearing a kilt is such a tightly narrow concept of showing your scottishness, and to many a completely meaningless concept of what being scottish means to them.

you can't afford a kilt for your dh but you can buy the kids new ones every year or two?

Ally. I do think you take the piss.

maybe a hessian shirt or two would come in handy

You sound like you are trying too hard.

How come you and DH and DD get to be warm and comfy and DS has to freeze?

This has to be a wind up, surely. Someone?

scottish is as scottish does.dont need to wear the kilit and be all jocko to compete in "im more jock than youse" world

OK- you may not agree with our ideas- but to suggestI am taking the piss is a bit much. You are talking as if making him wear a kilt is so wrong- as I said earlier, he usually doesn't mind- just doesn't like the cold weather. Wearing a kilt isn't as bad as all that, and children kilts are relatively cheap compared to adults.

why ask, if you don't want to listen to the answers??

how much is a man's kilt, out of interest , and a child's one?

and there is surely more to being scottish than wearing a kilt every week

if your child is cold, then maybe kilt wearing could be in the summer months ? rather than when it is -10 and below

ally,maybe because you come across as he freezes and he shouldnae be a wee jessie gurning in his kilt.real laddies suffer the cold is very old school scottish parenting

ok, it is really down to this

your child is cold in his kilt

he has complained

are you wrong to make him wear his kilt, despite this?

yes. yes, you are

What......?

It's sub zero in most places of the country. Stick your DS in thermals and some trousers.

You can be 'Scottish' when it's not so feckin cold.

I am interested (as I am also fiercely Scottish) in at what church in this day and age would it be appropriate for a little boy to freeze in order to wear a kilt.

I'm a fiercely Scottish Christian and there is no way we would do this - our kids dress kind of smart but also comfy for Church. I do believe that in Galatians 2 it says God does not judge by external appearance.

But I spent 10 years living in an intensely Calvinistic society in the North of Scotland where this would have been seen as A Good Thing, making little boys be smart being more important than making them being happy in Church.

Are you, by any chance, Free Church of any description?

What's "pervy" about wearing a kilt? And he doesn't wear it to be "more jock..". The original question was just to get a feel whether other thought we were being unreasonable, and by the feedback, others obviously think we are. We are old fashioned in our views, but to suggest we are "pervy" by getting our son to wear a kilt is unbelievable! We can take others views on this and will probably reconsider, given the feedback.

lol @ weegie. I was going to ask if op was wee free.

Your son may well end up disliking church just as much as kilts.