Are there many older mums out there?

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I had my ds when I was 41. Are there any others like me?

I was 39.
I find it very tiring and in hindsight should have had dcs when I was in early 30s. However hadn't met dh then.....

I had dc8 at 40 and dc9 at almost 44.
No more (or less) tiring than the ones I had in my 20s and 30s

I was 33 and thought I was an old mum, in hindsight and chatting with younger mums I think its best to wait. You may be more tired than in your 20's but you've got loads more patience, done what you wanted to do and hopefully more settled with more cash.

I think I have less patience.

I was 37 when DS was born (39 now). No regrets at not having done it sooner. DH and I were bot "in the right place" in many ways.

34 and then almost 43...
I was asked a couple of weeks ago how I'd found motherhood as an older Mum...Erm, dunno!!!don't know what it would've been like in my 20's...'cept I'd ave been stuck with a vicious first husband...

DS at 34, DD at 37 and 5.5 months pg with DC3 at 40.

I'm slightly older than most of my mum mates, but pre-kids type friends mostly began their families at 36/37/38.

My only regret is that I think I won't have a 4th. I think I'd be too done in after this one to consider another.

Mazzy! I'm old enough to be some of my mummy friends Mother's!!! eeek!

Yes, I have met one or two new people lately and I'm easily old enough to be their mum. I quite like how being parent to a young child gives you a common ground with someone half your age.

had ds at 33, now at almost 40 we are trying for number 2.

Most of my pals are as old as me, we have all starngely waited and have not felt ready till our late 30's.

So we partied together in our teens and 20's, bought houses, got married and did well in our jobs in our 30's then late 30's started to pop out sprogettes. So we are all going through parenthood together! tis fab.

Would NO WAY ON GODS GREEN EARTH have been ready any earlier for babies, was exsactly right time for us.

I had my DD just before my 42nd birthday. She's 2.3 now. She wasn't exactly planned and it's been a huge adjustment but it's wonderful. I have much more patience than I would have had when I was younger. Plus, I have a career and money stuff (fairly) sorted which I think makes things easier.

Of course, I was also the most opinionated person in my NCT class (knew I was going to have epidural and would be formula feeding, etc).

DS1 at 33 ,DS2 at 37...carried on trying for more ,but it never happened. so poor boyfriend has got no children of his own and he is now 50. I am 53 and still wish i could have lots more.

dd1 at 36 (after 7 years of trying)
dd2 at 37 (14 month gap)
am now pregnant with dc3 and will be 41 when he/she is born.

I feel pretty knackered, but this could be age or just being pregnant with 2 small dd's. Dh and I had no choice in how old I was when dd's came along, but I had a fantastic time in my 20s and 30s so, no regrets.

TBH most of my pre children friends have similar age kids, and most of the new mums I have met have been just a bit younger or the same age, so i don't feel particularly different to everyone else around me.

Ds1 at 39, dd at 41, ds2 at nearly 43.

Yes, i don't have the same energy i had in my '20s but usually you have more financal security in your 40's and this can balance up.

Ideally i would prefer to have them earlier and enjoy grandchildren!

theres a whole bunch of us on a 40+ thread in chat

anyones welcome

I was 36 when I had dd (nearly 37). She's 8 now and I'm often knackered. Wish I could have had more, started earlier, but we had three serious attempts before dd arrived (mcs) and one after (same old story!).

I would have been 21 with my very first (mistake undetected pg), but 30 with my first planned and 40 with my last.

I'm now heading up to 45 and wish dearly that I could have another one, but it's just too late for me.

My mum was a similar age when she had me and she got to see my girl, though only for 8 or 9 years (she's very ill and I'm just hoping she'll see out 2009...definitely not 2010).

My best mommy friend has a mother who's nearer to my age than she is! Not weird at all!!!!

And did anyone mentioned that if we had our dc's in our '20s it would be harder and lonely because not MN?

Almost 40 when DS of almost 2 arrived. (Had a miscarriage year before). Trying again for number 2! I'm 42 next spring...and most Mum friends I have made are 30 - 37...but they all keep me feeling young!

Wish I had met DH sooner but c'est la vie....at least we have got travelling here there and everywhere out of our systems and I've achieved all I wanted to careerwise... very happy about that and I managed to save enough financially to be able to be a SAHM at mo.

just a question....why do some of you feel so tired.....you are all so young

I'm out of shape alypaly, that's probably the main reason. How old are you, or is that a rude question And if you're even a jot older and non knackered, I'm not sure I want to know

Like Surreygirl I was able to be SAHM as we'd done o.k. financially, having saved for baby from 30 til 36.

If she hadn't arrived (which was looking very likely at one point) she was going to be a bright red MGF with wire wheels.

I remind her of that sometimes when she's driving me nuts, but she's so used to my sense of humour, she just sneers at me and goes, 'yeah, right'.

yes it is a rude questionim 54 in march(mental age...not too sure yet!!!!!!) and still play badminton 3 nights a week at a national level for competitions. come on girls come and play badders ,it keeps you young and fit and healthy and supple.come and join my club ,we need ladies of all ages and fitness!!!!!!!!!!

Alypaly despite the grin emoticon I'm going to take the opportunity for a little self pity... I'm tired because I'm a single parent of an exceptionally bright (and beautiful) two year old; work full time in a stressful/executive type job; have no local support as family all live 3.5 hours away; and DD's daddy is not around much to help either. I'm shattered! Other than that, no excuse for tiredness really!

I was 35, which I didn't think was particularly old, but everyone in the maternity ward did! Many expressed disbelief that it was my first. I think there were only a couple of years between me and the mother of the girl in the next bed, who was having her second baby!