Are there many older mums out there?

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I had my ds when I was 41. Are there any others like me?

I had my first (twins) at 42. Would like more twins but it aint gonna happen.

DS1 at nearly 37, DS2 at 39. Now 43. Not the oldest mum in the class but probably will be close with DS2!

Twins at 42! That makes me feel tired just thinking about it! Well done!

I find (at a very young 41) that I need an afternoon nap at the weekend, even though dd hasn't bothered for 3 years!

Had no1 at 41 (well only a week after turning 41) and no 2 at 43. Wanted another but have been feeling horribly knackered this year with still-not-sleeping-through still-bf two and half year old and so haven't tried,and just turned 46 so am assuming that ship has sailed.I wish I'd had them younger,(not my choice to have babies in my 40's,just the way life went)mainly as i worry about being fit and even around as they grow up and I would love to be a really young grandma ,but I feel lucky to have had them so easily and to have them at all really.

DD1 at 20, DD2 at 41. My recent pregnancy was so much smoother than my first and I dont think I am doing too bad on the tiredness front given that DD2, now 6 months, doesn't sleep more than two hours at a time through the night. I'm hoping to TTC #3 next year

Juulee. I'm sure the younger ones are a help to you as well as hard work

Had daughters at ages 23, 26, 31, (twins) and finally at 40.

I could be a grandma any time from now to my 80s - or never I suppose - I do feel I'm too old now to have another, but after spending years talking dh into a fifth child, he now wants 6!

DD5 is a very easy child. She's decided to sleep through the night consistently for about a fortnight and she's only 11 weeks. I feel a bit guilty over that! The pregnancy was very tiring but the new-motherhood is going fine thanks to the baby's talent for sleep!

I had my first dd at 78 and just had another at 89. I am a single mother (who wants to date someone as old as me?) and am also caring for my aging dog who farts all night and keeps me and the dd's awake.

Only kidding of course. But lots of sympathy for all you feeling tired. I had dd1 at 37 and dd2 at 39, dd2 is now a very active 2-year-old and yes I find it all pretty tiring.

But also agree doing some sport helps. I only go to one class a week but it gives me some "me" time and makes me feel a whole lot better.

I had DD (18 months) when I was nearly 39. She was an easy baby so I was fine. Now she's an active toddler! However, I put my tiredness down to being much less active and fit than I've ever been (fulltime desk-bound job and no longer make time to go to the gym). I know that if I made a New Year's resolution to get fit I would be less tired as I am in all other respects really healthy. So no, motherhood at 39 has not knackered me, just being less active is knackering me.

Hi, I had my dd when I was 38, I'm now 40 - It was a bit of a struggle getting pregnant. I'm pretty much the eldest mum amongst my mum-friends. I sometimes wish I was younger when we had kids, as I would like to have another baby but I've reached menopause last year and can't have anymore children, and would love too. But, I didn't really want kids when I was younger, didn't think I'd be much of a parent, and I did a lot of stuff and travelling and having fun - which I don't regret, so I'm lucky I get to have one just in the nick of time...

Hi [smile} I had my twins a few hours before my 38th birthday and am now 46. How does anyone, Alypaly included, get time to exercise?! I've been single from the start (I'm a Choice Mum) with no ex, no family (parents now deceased) and no single parent friends. Never ever get any time at all for me - and run my own business single-handedly, including doing all accounts etc...

I'm about 10kg overweight now but having joined various gyms over last few yrs and never ever had time to go, I haven't even made it a New Year's Resolution, as I usually do, to get fit and healthy and exercise. I just know I won't find time. Never had babysitters since twins born as too tired to want to go out (they didn't sleep through night till age 5, partly cos I b/fed till 28 months and co-slept till they were 5).

No time in day to exercise and have 2 lovely treadmill/ cycling machine things in garage, now unreachable under Stuff - that I also never had time to use!

But good thing about being an older mum is I've got no unlived moments. Did it all in 20's. Haven't dated in years, haven't drunk alcohol since trying to conceive 11 years ago now and forgot that 'normal people' still do things like stay up late, drinking and partying on New Year's Eve!

Feel really happy and privileged to have children at all and also really chronically exhausted and as if I'm no longer living any kind of individual life for me - just working to pay for the children to have all those things I want them to enjoy...

Figure I'll be at least 61 before I can return to a life for me...but as I've no pension, will have to continue working till the end!

I couldn't have had children in my 20's. There was just too much to do and enjoy and I was far too self-centred then. So, for me, this was the right time to have them....but I'd like to be able to run around a bit more, without feeling as if my hips'll give any minute!! and have time for a social life, other than on MN

Hi all - I had DS1 at 40 and DS2 at 42, wish it had happened earlier but life didn't go that way, ever so grateful for my two beautiful boys.

I have managed to exercise during my maternity leave (back to work in March) and it makes a world of difference. Unfortunately will probably be all downhill once I'm back at work, but will really try to keep it going... So hard when just want to collapse once kids are in bed.

I am definitely the oldest mum I know, though there are a few 3-4 years younger. The mother of one of my good mum friends is just one year older than me ...

I had my 1st son at 36 then my twins b/g at 42 dh was 50!!!!

We are very very tired, but the dc are so very very scrumptious, take a look at piccys!

I had DD1 at 37, and am expecting DD2 about 6 weeks before my 40th b'day this May! Have to say that I seldom consider myself to be an older Mum (most of my friends of the same age have similar aged children), but in the last week or so I have thought it'd have been better doing this closer to 30 than it is at nearly 40! I think that has something to do with having a very excited toddler at Christmas time while pregnant though

I was 37 (OK, 5 days off being 38!)and DH was 44 when we had DC3 who was not planned. It's great fun, but totally exhausting and I completely 'get' the other posters who say that they don't have time to exercise or have 'me' time. By the time we've got back from work, ferried the older 2 to their various clubs, given the 2 year old his bath and caught up with housework etc it's often after 9pm

had DS just before my 40th (he's nearly 8 now). Decided that I just couldn't do it all again ( and it all went so well, so I didn't want to tempt fate) so that was that. I am a bit older than most of his friends' mums, but that doesn't worry me too much. I've got mummy friends, who I'm older than, and my old mates, none of whom have children so DS gets spoilt rotten by lots of ageing "aunties".

I am a real oldie. I had my baby when I was three months away from turning 46. He is now 7 months old, I have been back at work full time since he was 4 months. He does not sleep through yet. Yes, I am very tired, but so happy (very much wanted and long awaited baby after many medical problems and miscarrages). He is breastfed and doing well after a very small start.

But I am struggling to lose the "baby weight", which makes me rather miserable, I suddenly look very different from my former quite slim self, and this makes me feel old and tired more than anything!

DH is a bit peeved with me because of the lack of sex lately (I am just too tired to move most nights and am usually asleep, with the baby on top of me, by the time he gets imto bed!). Hope this will improve!

We are of an age, redtabby. I had ds2 on my 47th birthday and he is 2 1/2 now - some days I feel every inch of my almost 50 years especially after sleep deprivation.

The house looks like a tornado hit it and you find small toys/ toast in odd places but it is such a precious time as they grow up so quickly.

I had DS at 34 and DD at 37, both times very close to my next birthday, so almost 35 and 38.

I'm still 38, and surprised by how much I long for another (in spite of constantly protesting that I'm looking forward to having children, not babies, that this is it, that we're so lucky to have these two etc etc).

Feeling quite emotional reading this thread actually - there may be time for one more...

redtabby and gentleotter - you both deserve an oscar, I had twins at 42, am now 48 they are 6yo - we are all knackered, but as an older mummy, its easier once they are at school.

Bless you both, hope the sleep gets better soon, and communicate with dh about not enough sex, it does get better