going to be a 'bad' mummy later.........

[QueenOfQuotes]

have to take DS1 to his induction afternoon (2nd one - hoping he doesn't throw up like he did last week LOL) at his new school.........thing is DS2 has his sleep at 1pm-3pm - and the induction afternoon starts at 1.30

So I'm going to put DS2 down for his sleep as usual, at 1.30 on the dot grab the monitor, lock the front door and whizz round to the school to drop DS1 off - then whizz back again

Thankyou emily05. Well said ailsa!!
I do believe we live in a nanny state. I used to look after my 6 yr old sister when I was 12, my parents were working full time. Used to prepare tea for whole family and do chores!

HCY, er, who?

If you're going to change your name to post, you could at least make it clearer who you're posting to!

I don't have a problem with what QE did, because it was her own 13yo who knew the house & the children all very well, & doesn't sound like QE does this sort of thing often. Would be very different if she was babysitting in someone else's house, or if QE made a frequent habit of it.

HM - Yes miss!

WWB - I'm not saying there shouldn't be any what-ifs. We should judge each case on its own. As the saying goes, 'never say never'

I used to babysit/look after my sister and brothers, at least from the age of 10. But, I would never ask dd1 (11 next week) to do the same at this age, as mature as she is for her age. I certainly wouldn't be keen for her to babysit for others until she is at least 16 or 17. (The babysitting stopped when I was 12½ because my sister and I were taken into care, so mum had to look after the boys herself.)

And put your hand up next time, HCY

And STILL no-one has seen my typo

as for apostrophes - English never was my strong point

NOT going to read back through the thread and search for it, QoQ - but rest assured, if I did, I'd find it

"We left both DS's in charge of a lower 6th (Yr12??) pupil from 5pm until midnight 2 weeks ago............"

Is what I put

Is saw it QoQ

tut tut at letting a 13 year old go clubbing

QoQ - yes dear we spotted it, but we've all been watching Tanya Byron - "don't reward typos with lots of attention". If a 2 minute absence made you a bad mother, adding another 12 hours to QE doesn't make any difference...

QE - do I remember you saying you were a foster mother for a while?

QoQ - I would leave DS to nip next door, I think the 'out of the house' thing is a psychological barrier rather than rational risk assessment -BUT watch out - DS jumped out of his cot at 20 months, so your comfort zone may be in retreat!

Was the lower sixth student in bed fast asleep when you got home, QoQ? PMSL!

yes HM - and the boys were watching Big Brother .

Fantastic! Sounds like all was well in the QoQ household

I know someone who let three year old sleep out in wendy house alone (and it wasn't me right) as three year old kept mithering on and on about it.

Needless to say. Three year old was hollering and banging on back door at midnight to be let in.

Neighbours heard!! is that BAD Mothers club stuff???

WKD

Yes Blu, that's right. Before you comment on my abilities in that context, let me tell you now that what is right for my own kids is not right for someone elses.

As I said before I know the capablities of my dd. Nuff said.

OK - who will speak up for leaving a 3 year-old alone overnight in a wendy house? Anyone?

QoQ can do a vote count soon - on balance, I'd say it's about 50:50 on her claim to be a bad mummy, QE has no-one opposing her claim that she would be hung drawn and quartered - and will Flum's friend keep her deposit?

PMSL - you must be kidding - I'm not trawling back through this lot to do the 'votes'!!!!!

Rofl Blu!

How attitudes have changed. When I was a teenager, I regularly babysit for sets of 2 kids, 3 kids and 4 kids. Often from about 7pm till midnight and beyond. Nobody thought anything of it. And I looked after my brother (10 years younger than me) every day after school and at the weekends.

nice one Blu!

Just for the record I would never leave my dd in charge of all the younger ones if they were awake and not yet fast asleep in bed. They would walk all over her. Now that would be totally irresponsible.

I've just realised that in a few months we're going to have QoQ starting the "I'm letting my 4 year old walk to school on his own today" thread.

Or perhaps this thread will still be running and she can just post it here...

Well I let my 9 year old walk to school on his own.

Shall I go and slit my wrists now