going to be a 'bad' mummy later.........

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have to take DS1 to his induction afternoon (2nd one - hoping he doesn't throw up like he did last week LOL) at his new school.........thing is DS2 has his sleep at 1pm-3pm - and the induction afternoon starts at 1.30

So I'm going to put DS2 down for his sleep as usual, at 1.30 on the dot grab the monitor, lock the front door and whizz round to the school to drop DS1 off - then whizz back again

i cannot believe this thread is still going!

Very good point FF.

Also what if someone broke in ??

It's a huge and unfair responsibility for a 13 year old to have to bear.

QE
I think what swings it for me is, what if someone broke into the house? Idve got an adult to sleep over for that reason.

poor kid (the 13 year old). imagine if anything did go wrong and she felt so responsible.

"i cannot believe this thread is still going!"

neither can I - but at least it's not just me being accused of being an unfit mother (and I was going to 'bump' it tomorrow once I've done the deed anyhow ) guess I won't need to 'bump' it as it'll still be here.

I know somebody whose toddler drowned in the pond when his older children were left in charge - mid teens they were and totally not fair on them to have that kind of responsibility.

look, Im sure my contemporaries were babysitting at 14!
though Im not sure about til 2.30

Oh, I agree, it's what your dd would feel like if anything went wrong. I would actually hesitate to leave so many children with a 13 year old for 10 minutes in the day to be honest, but there's no way I would leave them for that long at night. I am fairly relaxed generally about stuff like this, but this would be beyond my limits by some way.

I am quite tolerant of most things but I find leaving a 13 yr old till 2.30 in the morning a bit dangerous and I think it is just the time element tbh

tamum

Sorry will have to leave you for a while now. Am going to play Scrabble with my granny. Will cathch up with this later.

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is Qe a piss taker
a man or just thivk as *

I know rickman i worry about that too when dh works away

I wondered that the other day when I nearly fell down the stairs from quite high up. DS was in his room with the stairgate on, but it was the morning and DH wouldn't have been back till 6pm.

It's unlikely to happen and you can't live your life by what ifs, but I do think that leaving a teenager in charge of younger children for long periods of time is not a risk I'd be prepared to take.

We didn't go out til 10.30pm, having made sure everyone was asleep and well settled. We phoned every half hour. dd had 2 phones by her side.

yes I have had a 16 year old in to look after the girls in the garden while I am in the house and prob will use her to babysit when kids are older, I would never leave a 13/14/15 year old in charge of three other kids, one of them a baby and one a toddler.

If this isnt a wind up its a horrid, self serving thing to do.

i used to babysit when i was 13. for an 18month old baby.

if anything happened (which it never did)... i was supposed to call my mum who lived just up the road

QE, very selfish on your part IMO.

Me and my friend used to babysit the kids that lived next door but one. We were 12 and 11 i think and they were 5 and 7. My mom used to check on us every hour.

TBH though I wouldn't do that either. The only people that babysit my kids are very close friends or family. If i used a young person they would have to be at least 16 years old.

my stepdaughter is an extremely sensible and reponsible almost 14-year old. Her mother leaves her to look after her 3 younger siblings aged 2-6 for short periods during the day, and /i would let her have charge of ds likewise, but not until 2.30am - never. Wouldn't leave HER alone at night either.

yes I smell something fishy (and it's not COd)

as IF you went out until 2.30 and phoned every 2 hours, what rubbish.

sorry "every half an hour"

KR, every half hour! Why bother going?!