My husband is going to Australia for three weeks in January and wants to take one of the two DSs with him (he doesn't mind which). My life would certainly be easier if I only had one child to look after (the thought of getting them both ready for nursery in the mornings on the three days I work and then spending 4 full days with them and no help is terrifying). However I am worried there might be long term effects like strengthening of bonds with the parent and child that stay together and weakening of those between the the parent and child who are apart. Aside from that of course is that both boys will miss each other a lot. Bottom line is I don't want to be away from one for such a long period of time. Am I being unreasonable?