My son doesn't seem to have made any friends at school

[Peanuts33]

Hi my son is in year 1 and he doesn't seem to have made any friends in his class. All the other kids in his class seem to have paired off but he hasn't made any friends yet. The other kids are forever going to each others houses after school but my son never seems to get invited.

I asked him the other day if he would like to invite any of his friends round after school but he said that he doesn't have any friends.

The thing is - it doesn't really seem to bother him. He's not upset by it but i worry that as he gets older he will become more aware of it.

It breaks my heart as he is a lovely little boy.

Do you think I should talk to his teacher or should I just back off and wait and see what happens.

I would ask the teacher how he is getting on and what friends he has, you might get a very different story to what he is telling you!

I kind of know that he's not pulling the wool over my eyes because during the summer holidays he attended a kids club and most of the kids from his class were also there but he just played on his own for most of the week while all the other kids played together.

It's not that they exclude him. It's just that he seems happy enough playing by himself. I have noticed in the line at school they all (including my son) talk to each other and mess around so it's not that they are being horrible or anything like that.

This can be really painful for us as parents . Children do seem to go through different phases and often a child will be quite solitary and then short while later be quite sociable. As well as talking to the class teacher, it can help to arrange activity, i)to help with the development of social interaction ii)just to observe. Activities may be useful to help develop the interaction skills and get them used to having to do it. Also, you could just pick someone you like the look of and invite child around for a shortish session or activity so that your son can get into it but there wouldn't be pressure on the children if they didn't fancy too much interaction. All sorts of reasons why children seem not to have friends ranging from personal preference, social experience to developmental stages and things like autistic spectrum in occasional cases. But he sounds a lovely little chap and your reassurance is the best thing . Good luck! Verityx