My DD started preschool in september. All seems to be going well apart from today when DD came out of class and told me her friend had hit her as we were walking along the road I happened to be next to the said friends mum who said 'your dd pulled my dd hair today, and they had a fight'
My immediate reaction was to think, DD isnt a hairpuller but didnt say anything just kind of shrugged (in a kind of I dont know how to handle this way) and it all seemed civil etc but.....
Should I have been told by the teacher if there is a fight involving my DD, DD is not a violent child by any means but if she is donng something wrong I want to know, likewise if there is another problem I want to know. I don't know where the other mum got her information from, her DD or teacher? I should have asked maybe, but Im finding it all such a mindfield of mummy ettiquette and wanting to do the right thing to help my DD along by not upsetting anyone, I don't know what Im doing.
Am I alone in feeling this way, is anyone else struggling on what the ettiquette for becoming friendly is, talking about certain things with teachers or is it sorted between parents etc? Other mums seem so well informed and I dont know how to find out stuff because as soon as I ask the teacher I am dismissed ( understandably cant stand there talking to me allday) but how are thee other mums doing it.
I can't bear it.
To add to my embarresment, I heard one of the other mums say 'Ill walk up with you' thinking she meant me I replied 'ok' then realised by her faced that she was talking to another mum behind me ( oh the shame)
I do hope my DD isnt having as much stress as I am in working all this out..