I am really really fighting against the urge to leave

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

This was last night

This morning 8 year old answered me back and was rude every time he spoke to me. I asked him not to do something and he immediately did and then back chatted when I said about it, finishing off with sticking his leg out to trip up his sister on her scooter.

He has refused to speak to me whenever I have talked to him on the way to school, pulled away when I said bye, complained about me seeing his sister to the door and also said he wants to live somewhere else.

I know I am doing everything wrong and have no idea what to do as I was brought up in foster care and all my instincts have been squashed with just wanting my kids to have a better life than I did.

DH asked if he could get an au pair as we need help with the kids but we can't afford it, I don't see how it would help unless I could get an older lady who would be like a mother figure to me too; and they would behave for her and not be anyway.

I am so that I am expecting my kids to just get how I am and help me.

setting up a business is very easy

start with a hygiene certificate from your local council - that is essential

Then start practicing those cup cake recipies, particularly the icing and decorations on the top. This is the bit that will make your cakes eye catching and desirable.

I have seen mail order cupcake companies whose designs sell themselves.

Start small and local (I did)

Spread the word on twitter and with a free blog account (Blogger, Wordpress)

register your business with the inland revenue (it is free)

get chatting to other mummy business owners (go and check out the mumsclub website and chat to people on Netmums (but dont tell anyone on Mumsnet that I said so!)

Thank you for that

Definitely something to think about when DS2 is in full time school.

at the end of the day it is only a sodding cupcake but they are very desirable!

could you offer a local party service to begin with? A dozen cupcakes for ? £20 decorated to a theme/colour of their choice and delivered free within a 5 mile radius.

it is a luxury product so you would have to aim for the high end of the market, I would order them - not because I am posh but because I think I am posh

Muffins are my speciality.

Hi Fab - hope you are feeling a bit brighter today. Sorry I didn't get back on here - had to make brownies (which were fab - recipe from recipe section on here!) for a birthday party for DS (his birthday was actually in August but he and 2 other boys in his class had a joint birthday party yesterday) and then had a 3 hour meeting at school. Fun. Not.

Anyway - you seem to have done well yesterday. I get the moaning and arguing about homework too. 99% of mums do. And DS answers back what seems like 99% of the time! It's normal. And it is a way of children understanding what is right and what is wrong. They will do it. It is up to us to let them know it is unacceptable. Children push boundaries. Especially when they feel secure. You didn't because you were obv not secure. Your children are totally secure in the fact that you love them. It's all part of their development.

There will be days you will pick them up from school and all they will seem to do is fight. Other days they will be cheeky. Other days they will be fine. Other days they will be all three at the same time!

It's not easy this parenting business. But you know we all feel like that at times.

4 year old has hit 8 year old twice this morning and then has the cheek to complain he won't let him cuddle him to say sorry.

running late for school so better go.

thanks guys

LOL at 4 yr old! Bless!