4 - my DS2 is a skinny little thing, and at his 9 month check he'd dropped down on the centiles and my HV made me feel all guilty about still BFing. My husband was working away so I was on my own with a baby and a toddler, feeling tired and vulnerable, and I found it very upsetting. He's a picky eater, and any tiny illness like a cold makes him go off his food totally, whereas the other two eat everything in sight. He's nearly 4 now and still slim, but it's taken me this long to chill out about it and realise that all children are different and that charts are bollocks. I know it's important that we have a way of guaging whether children are thriving and being cared for, and that's what centiles are for, they shouldn't be for freaking out diligent mothers who are doing their best for their children but who happen to be below the national average in height and weight!! Phew. It doesn't help that my family are all short-but-sturdy celts designed for tossing cabers, while my husband's are delicate, artistic, vegetarians. DS2 takes after his side and is all bony knees and big, tragic eyes - the other two looked like sumo babies and my mum would go 'ooh, what a lovely chubby pair of thighs...' She looks at Aaron and goes 'do you give him any red meat?' Grrr.
PHew. Sorry about long rant, I get all lioness-like about centile charts and HVs upsetting people!