Do you think it's worthwhile to "force" children to continue playing an instrument, even when they go through a not so keen phase?

[emkana]

Dd1 started playing the violin at the beginning of Yr 2 and really liked it.

Now she's coming to the end of Yr 3 she's not so keen because none of her friends are doing it and she sometimes misses playtime. She's sort of okay to carry on with the lessons, but really wants to stop orchestra which is on for an hour after school on Friday.

I want her to continue both lessons and orchestra. Am I wrong to make her?

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Oh Bum, I've done it again! I refuse to reveal another secret password, I don't care how much I've confused you all...

that is it isntt it Justine

( nod along J they are all pissed its ok)

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I didn't 'demand' - I highlighted the advert to you!

Oh no you're both way off - freezing cold .

And I've been trying to post on this thread all fecking day... but dc have had other ideas!

Now my long, pondered over post is going to be ignored in all this other claptrap... aaarrgghhhhh

yes but she is posting to AN other

that it is day of defeat

I'm too tired to decipher that post my dear.

So sorry EachPeachPearMum - do post it again and I'll get back in my box.

i think Grattage is right other thread. Discussion of the Day? Arf at Justine's super spy skills.

I think this discussion is probably far more interesting than anything I may have typed!

EachPeachPearMum I don't expect my children to be grateful - just not ungrateful.

Your DB is not the type of person to whom I was referring - he was not just 'given an opportunity' with regards to learning an instrument and I can fully understand that he (or you on his behalf) would be beyond resentful.

Sorry.

but he was 'forced' in the way emkana was meaning, though probably a little more intensely than she was contemplating.

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Not so sure bloss. It's an extreme example, but many talented children are fairly multi-talented to be honest and it's not that unusual to have the potential to be really good at sport & music & possibly other stuff too.

At university several of my friends had grade 7 and 8 music exams (not sure if that counts as advanced level or not beetroot/bloss) but were no longer interested in playing (there were a few who did and do cointinue playing as well). Those I've kept up with haven't resumed their interest. They were all scientists though rather than musicians so perhaps that explains the difference. Obviously people who choose careers in music, or those who choose to send their children to specialist music schools themselves are highly unlikely to have regrets about their own musical education.

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